Chris_uk Posted March 31, 2003 Share Posted March 31, 2003 My story is probably not much different from any of the others on here, so I can guess at the answers, but I thought I'd write something anyway. I have been friends with this girl for about 9 months now, shes the friend of someone one of my friends was seeing. When we started talking on the internet I knew straight away that I would end up liking her. When I finally got to meet her we were camping with a group of friends - we didnt get to talk much and I could probably have guessed then she didn't "like" me.. but when it was over I asked her friend and she confirmed it. A few months passed and we ended up talking more and more, she ended up coming and staying overnight at my uni with her friend. A few days later I couldn't take it anymore and I had to tell her how I was feeling. She said she just wanted to be friends and that we shouldnt talk for a while. I feared that might happen.. Well when we started talking again (a few weeks later) it was like nothing had happened, I saw her alot more and we started getting along much better. Then she met this bloke, who she obviously really liked, and I started feeling quite bad about it because I know if she "liked" me then she'd be that way with me, and she isn't. When I was drunk I told her I still really liked her, and how great I thought she was. Then when we finally ended up doing something alone together she told her friend I was amazing, and felt really comfortable with me. It made me feel good untill I remembered that nothing would ever come of it. When I'm with her it feels like she is actually my girlfriend, it's so wierd, her friend even said she thought we were together last time we did something. Well this bloke ended up hurting her before they even got anywhere. I started telling her how much of a fool he was and that kind of thing. She told me to say something nice so I told her I loved her. Aparently she was crying because she wished she could "like" me because she'd be so happy, but she doesn't. She's been a bit funny with me ever since, but still talks to me every day. I know she'll never want to be more than friends, I just want to know how to get over her while still being friends. We have stuff arranged to do, but I know the more I see her the more I like her. I'm finding it quite hard! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted March 31, 2003 Share Posted March 31, 2003 There's no way to get over her while being friends and hanging around her. You are simply going to put yourself through more pain as she meets and dates other guys. It would be different if you just felt friendship for her...but you want a lot more and she just can't do it. It does sound like she really likes you. But chemistry is something you can't just wish for. It's either there or it isn't. It sounds like she really wanted to have it there but it wouldn't appear. You should be very flattered that she gave it the effort. There's somewhat of a chance that if you start seeing somebody else yourself her chemistry for you could beging to flow but that would be too late...and doing so intentionally would be a cruel game. Get away from her. There's a chance that someday in the future, the flames of passion could flare up in this friendship but don't count on it. Take it from one who's been where you are many times, go find a girl who's romantically excited about you. Stay away from your friend for six months or so and give yourself some space to find true love. Link to post Share on other sites
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