addison032 Posted August 25, 2007 Share Posted August 25, 2007 Hi All, I am looking for some advice on my current situation... I went o9ut with a guy 2 years ago for about 10 months. After about 3 months of "I Love You" being said we brokew up. It was a joint decision. I don't think it was over saying those words, that was just a crux point in the relationship I am using for a development point. Anyway, the break up was rather hurtful but they generally are. I never contacted him and he never contacted me. I saw a few men after, but nothing quite the same as being with him. I decided a few weeks ago to call him up on hte off chance of saying hi and I guess sussing where he was at with his life. The conversation was fantastic. We still were on hte same wavelength and communication band we had when we were together. It turnesd out he had broken up with someone and I had too, so we are both single. He remiisced a bit about our relationship as you do. We had a laugh and was going well, like two old friends catching up. I asked if he wanted to pop up for a coffee the next day..he said maybe..he was on my doorstep at 11:00!! We chatted again and it was good to see him. Nothing was said about catching up again. I went on hols this week and when I got back i messaged him how he was..he responded straight away. Whats going on? What does he want? Is he just being polite, or social, or does he want to get back? I am not sure at all. What do I do next?? Do I wait for him to contact me now? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 25, 2007 Share Posted August 25, 2007 It sounds like he wants something, what it is, you'll have to find out. Since both times you contacted him, see if he contacts you back if you don't do anything. If all he wants is friendship, are you okay to do that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author addison032 Posted August 25, 2007 Author Share Posted August 25, 2007 yes I am more than happy to be just friends. I would like to really suss out what he is after too! Friends I think is the best place to start after all this time. Ok, I will wait and see if he contacts me. How long should I wait? If he doesen't after a while, should I just leave it alone? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 25, 2007 Share Posted August 25, 2007 Part of the reason why I ask is what you want from him, is how you want to proceed with this. If you keep contacting him, do it as a friend. If you want something more from him, you'll have to let him meet you halfway and come to you this time. Not a game, more stating where you stand. If he doesn't contact you and you really value his friendship, contact him in a week and tell him that you want to hang out as friends, nothing more. This will stop him from getting nervous about getting back into something he might not be ready for. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts