Out Of Control Parents

[J.LO]

I'm almost 18 and I'm having an awlful time trying to get along with my parents. I try to do what they ask me, I dont say a word. I try to hangout when I feel I can tolerate them, and that still backfires on me.

 

My parents have been divoreced for 7 years, and my mom has a bf and i stay with them. I hardly ever get to see my dad, and me and my brother are seperated cuz he lives with my dad. I see them sometimes once every 6 months, sometimes once a month..if I'm lucky 2 times.

 

My mom and dad cant stand eachother and the step parents all hate eachother as well.

 

Anyways, my stepdad is mad at me cause I'm seeing my father more. And i have this bad vibe towards him now. Like, I dont feel comfortable around my parents at all. I try to talk to them, but they wont listen to me, they say that I think I'm always right and that they dont know a thing.

 

My mom..I try and talk to her but she only talks about herself, and her feelings and about her work. Or how shes having realtionship problems or not ever seeing my little brother.

 

Then if we all are hanging around they always say things that they know me inside and out, that they think they brought me up wrong, they should be more discplined with me, I dont know what's out there in the world, they say I have an attitude if I try and say that I'm aware that there is bad things out there, and they diss me alot, and try to make me cry.

 

Why would your parents try and make you cry all the time? I know my family is big on having "power over people". But it doesnt matter what I do or say cuz they always try and bring me down. Even when I do know I'm right. I wont argue on a topic if I'm wrong, that would be a stupid thing to do. They make me feel very stupid.

 

They make my stepbrother and sister that are younger then me seem they are more respectful to them. Yes I do sometimes yell back if she yells at me, that's because I'm sick of them telling me they made a mistake when rasing me.

 

I dont smoke, do drugs, drink, go to parties, i"m not allowed out with my friends, she choses what clothes I'm not to wear, they say how I think, how I feel.

 

I used to get this at my dads and that's why I moved out..but now they complain soo much about how mean my dad is..and it's like they're becoming him. Though..my dad has been nicer..probably cuz I'm only over there for afew hours.

 

I try to get them to see my point of view and how I see things. I'm not a bad person..but they make me feel that way. I do know things, but they seem to think I know nothing. And talking to them is like talking to a wall.

 

And they say I use them, which I dont understand because I help them out, and do things without being asked, but to my mom..it's never enough.

 

You also cant joke with them either...my stepdad just pounds on things when he's mad..he has a serious anger problem..and they dont care about my feelings, but they say I dont care about theres.

 

But how is that when I'm the one that is there when they were thinking about splitting up? And they come to me when they're mad at someone or eachother. I have to hear the dissing.

 

But they cant put themselves in my shoes..or others because my stepdad disses soo many people, and I ask him not to cuz it's wrong. And you shouldnt judge people.

 

It's not fair he is yelling and mad at me cuz I'm tryin to talk to my dad. It's hard to not have both parents together. And I feel awlful because of my dad and I only seeing eachother for so long.

 

It just doesnt make any sense..and I dont sleep at night..my grades go down at school..and I just dont like to talk to people if I have issues like this. But it's getting worse every year. Especailly now.

 

ANyways, any advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks.