Ashbash11 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 Okay, I'm really frustrated right now, so bear with the title of this post. I'd like to share my story with those out there considering trying a second chance with their ex. My ex was my first boyfriend and first love. We've been broken up for 2 years, and since then we've both changed and grown A LOT and I started having second thoughts about the breakup...... He and I had always been close friends but more recently, we were spending more and more time together and eventually, it was as if we were boyfriend and girlfriend again. We'd spend hours together and hold hands and he'd pay for things when we went out. He'd spend every spare second he had with me, basically. We have amazing emotional/sexual chemistry and I was totally content with the way things were. I was deluded enough to believe that he actually was willing to give ME a second chance. As it turns out, all along he's been just using me because he's lonely and he's had poor luck meeting girls.. He admitted this to me the other day! He wants to date and "play the field" and basically I will never be goood enough for him. But. I'm a good security blanket when he needs one. ugh! So, there's my story. I will never be given a second chance, no matter how much I change, or how hard I try. Like everyone says, there's a reason why an EX is an EX. Leave it be! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 You'd be amazed at how many people are seeing other people for the sole purpose of filling a void, all the while waiting for something else to come along. It happens every second of the day. It's scary. Most people will never admit to it. Your guy must be very stupid or extremely mean. There are so many other ways he could have gotten out of the picture. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 Your ex is incredibly twisted to want to do that to someone who was supposedly his friend. What a jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 You'd be amazed at how many people are seeing other people for the sole purpose of filling a void, all the while waiting for something else to come along. It happens every second of the day. It's scary. Most people will never admit to it. Your guy must be very stupid or extremely mean. There are so many other ways he could have gotten out of the picture. This is actually common... some people even remain in a miserable relationship or marriage because they can't face being alone. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 It sounds like he takes you for granted. Don't let him get away with that. You might have to remove him from your life for him to get the point. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 Like everyone says, there's a reason why an EX is an EX. Yes there is a reason... EX is an abreviation for EXIT... time to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 You'd be amazed at how many people are seeing other people for the sole purpose of filling a void, all the while waiting for something else to come along. It happens every second of the day. It's scary. Most people will never admit to it. Your guy must be very stupid or extremely mean. There are so many other ways he could have gotten out of the picture. Amen, Tony. This is much more rampant than people are aware of. Nothing like being a warm port in a storm. NOT! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashbash11 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 Yes, it is scary that so many people seem to stay in relationships just because they are more comfortable than being alone. I have to say that I think my ex is a very mean person to be doing this, and I hope this doesn't happen to anyone else, because it's a truly awful feeling when you know that you are being used by someone you love. Take it from me. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 Here's the general rule on second chances. Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me. And that's all ya need to know Link to post Share on other sites
vivi Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 I'm so sorry this happened to you. That was a very mean thing to do. I wonder if the chemistry was so strong because he was a little unattainable to you? You're young, and there are plenty of men out there who would be happy to know you. One thing I learned from hard experience....if you are too available, people take you for granted. Please take care of yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 re: Ashbash11: "Second chances are B.S." Second chances are B.S. when the first go 'round involved people who weren't right for each other to begin with. -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
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