euronumber Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 ...it's been on the books for a few weeks; the ticket has been bought; now, suddenly, he sent me an IM last Thursday that he may have to cancel his trip; I told him he cannot and that simply thinking about it makes me sick; he IM's back: don't think, I'll figure something out - so, I felt a bit more secure; then, got a txt Sunday night, saying that he was back home (was away for the weekend) and that things back at the office are getting worse --- I am angst-ridden again; can't concentrate at work; can't sleep; can't eat - won't rest until I have confirmation he's coming/until he is on that plane on Thursday!! It's mad and I want to stop it! We spent a week together at the beginning of July - so, it hasn't been that long! Is he preparing me for a let down! How does anyone cope with such a situation! Should I threaten him? Pressure him or even put an ultimatum: If he cancel, I'll tell him, not to bother coming at all - ever again! Link to post Share on other sites
catrocks Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 If he has to cancel for a real reason, like work, then an ultimatum could mean you saying he has to choose between you and his job.... and he would need his job to be able to buy stuff. I'm assuming he's cancelling due to work from your post but correct me if I'm wrong. Disappointments like this can't be helped - it's everyday life. It's not like he wants to right? And sure, feel free to be mad and freak out but don't be irrational - it's not his fault, these things happen. It's ok to be upset about it but be upset with the situation, not with him. I don't know your situation, but could you not go and see him instead? If he's busy at work then at least he'd be able to come home to you and you could spend some time together. Talk through some alternatives - if it's not feasible for you to go there then try to reschedule his trip so that you have something to look forward to. Just don't give him an ultimatum if it's not his fault because he can't do anything about it and you'll just end up losing him - is it really worth that? Link to post Share on other sites
Just Visiting Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 I am in the same situation. My boyfriend text me last night and said that he has no days off left until the movie project is done in November. He left for Montreal in August to work on a movie and it has been so hard not seeing him. Our plan was for me to go visit for a couple days sometime soon. Now that is out the window altogether and I am really pissed off at the moment. I understand that he is working crazy hours over there. But now it is taking any bit of quality time we had planned away, and I am trying to be as supportive as possible. One side is saying that I am being immature, the other side is saying that I am not asking for alot. Ugh...I don't know. I was really looking foward to seeing him and now I have to wait for 2 more months. Link to post Share on other sites
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