moongirl2523 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 My husband of two years cheated on me. The last couple of weeks I was trying to see him and spend time with him to try and work it out. The last day we spent time together he told me he loved me without me having to say it first. Then two days later, he tells me he's confused and he needs time. He even had the nerve to say that he wanted to see if he had a chance with the other girl. I say girl because she is 16. He is 25. What kind of chance can he really have with her. Up until the day he cheated, things seemed to be going fine, in fact they were going fine up until a few hours before the act supposedly occured. I spoke to him a few days ago and he said he doesn't know what he wants. He doesn't know if he loves me, or wants to be with me, or wants a future with me. I am copletely crushed. I never saw it coming, we just got a new place and he seemed to excited about having a new place to decorate and a new place to make our own. But now it is like he is being a whole other person. I don't know what to do, I was trying to give him his space, we haven't talked in 4 days. I tried to call him today and all I got was voicemail. I know where he is staying, but I don't know if he is with her or not. I would like to think that the 6 years we spent together mean something. We were together 4 years when we got married, and have been marrie almost 2. When all of this went down we were planning so much for the future. Things we wanted to do, places we wanted to go. We have/had a trip planned for Memphis in a few weeks. I need some advice on what to do,. I am dying and I don't even know if he cares. Any help or advice would be appreciated. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 He even had the nerve to say that he wanted to see if he had a chance with the other girl. I say girl because she is 16. He is 25. He does know she is under age right? Assuming you live where the actual adult age of consent is 18. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 moongirl Dump your husband and get a divorce right away while you are still young and don't have any kids. He is to never be trusted again and he should be thrown in jail for statuatory rape. Trust me, get out now while the getting is easy. Link to post Share on other sites
ohmy3 Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 wow get her name and # call her parents or if you afraid to, have a friend she being Sexual Abused, clearly taken advantage of! DON'T MAKE THIS ALL ABOUT YOU........... shes a kid and he's a sick (well words) i can't say! be a stand up ADULT women here leave, let16 yr. parents know, ++ police.......... Link to post Share on other sites
Capricciosa Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 I don't think this woman is ready to call the police on him. Her problem is her feelings and her disappointment. Moongirl, I would say have him move out so you can get a grip on yourself and decide how you want to proceed. A lot of that stuff is unforgivable, and some possibly illegal, but first things first. You need to turn your attention to yourself, surround yourself with other people who love and care about you. It's like you've been hit by a truck. First the shock and pain has to wear off a bit before anything else can be done rationally. Try not to do anything at this point that would add more stress and drama to this situation. Later everything will be clearer. Link to post Share on other sites
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