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elizabeth

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hello people,

 

im desperate. ive recently told my boyfriend of two years that i kissed a good friend of mine a couple of weeks ago. at this point i didn't have any doubt that my true feelings were for my boyfriend. i was just expressing a closeness that had developed between this friend and i before he left the country. i may never see him again. my boyfriend will not syy yet if he will leave me or not. i love this relationship and i dont want to lose it. do you have any advice. please help!

 

elizabeth

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Hi, I have a few questions for you, that you might want to think about...for yourself. But please, don't be offended, okay? That's not my intention at all. Why did you feel the need to tell your boyfriend you kissed your friend? Were you attempting to make him jealous? Are you not completely secure about your boyfriend's feelings for you? Or... Do you possibly have romantic feelings for your friend, which you have yet to admit to yourself, but nevertheless feel guilty (about the kiss) and wanted to alleviate your guilt? You say you love your relationship with your boyfriend, but do you actually love HIM? Before you and your boyfriend decide to continue your relationship, or end it, you may want to ask yourself these questions... There's a line from a song that, even though I like the song, I don't necessarily agree with the line... It goes, "If you can't be...with the one you love...love the one you're with". Sometimes, for a whole number of reasons, holiday spirit, feeling insecure about our partner, feeling a bit lonely on a particular day, we can all succumb to being "romantic" with someone we shouldn't. More often though, it is not recommended, because we usually just create problems for ourselves. Have a think about things, talk with your boyfriend, and then see how you feel. Do what is best for YOU. Good luck, Kate.

hello people, im desperate. ive recently told my boyfriend of two years that i kissed a good friend of mine a couple of weeks ago. at this point i didn't have any doubt that my true feelings were for my boyfriend. i was just expressing a closeness that had developed between this friend and i before he left the country. i may never see him again. my boyfriend will not syy yet if he will leave me or not. i love this relationship and i dont want to lose it. do you have any advice. please help! elizabeth
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