Andy1984 Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Well, where do I start... I have been with a girl for two years now, moved 500 miles away from home and settling into a great job. however, my mom is having a major affect on my relationship. she hasent accepted my new girlefriend and always brings up my past girlfriends. She also has made my gf cry and really upset on more than one occasion and is really nasty to her when she is drunk, which is quite regulary as she drinks nearly all the time. the thing is, i will have a go at her at the time and then it all changes when she is sobor and nothing more is said. if i have a go at her when she is sobor, she starts crying and affectively emotionally blackmails me to make me feel bad and forgive her. This is cycle is starting to REALLY annoy me. I dont want to lose my gf, but i can feel that she is and she dosent trust me to stand by her, i really want to prove to my gf that i am going to stick up for her and stand by her, but so much has happened over the past 2 years she dosent believe me. it is her 21st party this weekend and i am dreeding it, we are not on great terms right now and when ever we go home we always take to steps back because of my mom. I suppose i am scared of getting hurt, i really dont think that she will hurt me, i suppose i need measure the risk of getting hurt iver how much i want to be with this girl. is this being scared of commintment? because i am committed to her i would never cheat on her or run off with someone else, is this just the next stage of starting a life with someone? Any Advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalynd Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 If your mother calls when she's drunk, the call should end right there because she says out-of-control things. You can tell her to call back tomorrow, when she's sober. If she tries the emotional blackmail, just calmy say you'll speak to her when she's sober, and stick to your guns. If she persists, say you are hanging up the phone now...and promptly do so. When she's sober, let her know you will not be taking calls from her when she's drunk. Why doesn't your girlfriend believe that you'll stand by her? Link to post Share on other sites
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