redfathom Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]My brother in law moved in with my husband and me in 2002, after there mom passed away, he was 16 at the time. My husband and I had been married about a year and half at that point. While my brother in law was in high school, he was getting child support so we agreed that he would pay us $200 a month for rent, since we could not afford to support him 100%. He also had to pay for his car payment. During that time we paid for car insurance and his cell phone bill. He has never paid for food or utilities. When he turned 18 he got a summer job then started college, at this point he started to pay for his cell phone bill and insurance. He still did not contribute money towards food or utilities; this was because after high school he went to college and we decided to continue to help him.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]In May of this year he graduated from a great school with his BA in Finance. He still only pay us $200 for rent. Even after graduating he still lives with us and he still pays us the same rent and still has not contributed to food or utilities.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]This would not be so bad except I have to say in the six years he had lives with us he has probably cleaned the kitchen 30 times, leaves a mess (a lot), pays for himself if we go out to eat about 40% of the time, his car is still in his name and my husbands (as the primary) even though he was suppose to change refinance in his name after the 1st year, it’s been three years. He eats a lot of food, or wastes it by leaving it out. His bathroom is a mess, his bedroom a mess, he uses all the towels and leaving them in his hamper for weeks at a time. He invites people over to the house, with out asking if we have plans or company coming over. He has done this twice this week and I am not saying he needs permission but a simple, “hey I was thinking of inviting people over, but I wanted to make sure you have no plans before I do.” Instead I over hear him talking on the phone asking his friends if they are almost here - to watch the four hour football game on our big screen tv in the living room, so that I get stuck hanging out in the bedroom when there was something I tivoed that I was planning on watching. Then having people over and leaving a mess in the living room when they are done. GRRRR. He can’t even take the trash out then put a liner back in. When I ask him to clean the kitchen because I made dinner it takes him two days and he only does some of it.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]So, he is planning on moving out once he gets a good job, but since graduating in May he has gone on two job interviews. He is not saving money for rent, deposit, ect. So now, I think enough is enough. I think rent needs to increase to $400 and he needs to contribute $100 a month to the grocery bill. If this was me, I would have increased rent when I graduated and I would have cleaned the house all the time. That is the least he can do. I mean we have been helping to support him for six years.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]When we told him he needed to get a job while in college part time, he sulked and said that none of his friends had to get job and that we don’t understand the responsibility of going to college. I said, yeah you’re right because no one was there to support me so I could go to college. [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Now that football season is starting, my house will be taken over on Sunday’s. I will just come home and there will be three guys in the living room watching the game, which would not be so bad but my husband sleeps during the day so I have no where to retreat to but my brother in laws messy bedroom.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Sorry to vent, but gheesh!!! I really want my house to me and my husband. I think it is time. Should be give him a deadline of mid December? I mean we could use the extra room and honestly we will probably save money because of food and utilities. [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I think he needs to:[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Get his own cell phone plan, we tried to get him to do that in June but he said it was too expensive. So he rule is that if he can’t afford it then he can’t have it.[/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Pay us $400 for rent until he find’s a place of his own with a goal of December, January the latest.[/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Go on one job interview a week.[/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Buy groceries next time we need them.[/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Can not have guests over unless the house is cleaned before and after.[/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Any other suggestions?[/sIZE][/FONT] Link to post Share on other sites
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