Still a chance of getting back??

[john 07]

So my ex broke it off with me back beginning of march after more than 6 years. (We were close friends for 7. We met in high school.) A couple days later she started to date my used to be friend. She even said she wasnt looking for a new relationship. The thing is I let them hang out before we even broke up, b/c she said they were just good friends. My mistake!! Her main reason for breaking up was our relationship was going no where for the past year.

During summer they took a break b/c she wanted to focus on her life and religion again. turned out to be BS. They hooked up again when they got back on campus this Aug. Over summer she called or texted once every 10 days. I never picked up bc I wanted to REALLY heal. Beginning of July she calls again. I didnt pick up so she calls my brother to tell me she needs closure. The thing is everything has been already closed. She stopped calling then. Aug second week I get a call from random number. I pick up, it was her. Shes used her moms cell to call me bc she knew i wouldnt pick up her call. She just wanted her stuff back. table, bike, books, and a bunch of other things she was letting me use for a couple years.

We are back on campus and I ran into them a few days ago. We just looked at each other and didnt even say a word. It was so awkward. It was so bad bc her and I were best friends we have ever had. I havent seen her since. I really miss her these days. Its been half a year now since the break up. I still hurt inside but its not as bad as the first couple months. Time and NC does heal. I have been in NC for 3 months now. Well she broke it when she called me. I went right into NC. The funny thing is she doesnt even see a future with this guy. I found out from her room mate. Why be with some one if you dont see a future with them? I just dont get it.

Honestly I want to try things over again after I learn from my MANY mistakes. I just hope she will want to try in the future. One of my friends said I should try light contact. To atleast say hi with a smile when I do see her. I guess im just looking for advice. Do i still have a chance?

 

Thanks for reading this far. You all are the best!!!

[CaliGuy]

Aren't you better off starting fresh with someone new? Someone who won't take you for granted?

 

Honestly, if you love and respect yourself you won't have thoughts about getting back together with her. Everyone who walks in this life will experience heartbreak at some point in time.

 

Those who succeed in new relationships are those who have learned from past failures.

 

Learn from the failure, but don't try and change the past. Start with working on yourself and correct whatever behaviors that lead to the demise of the relationship and apply them to your NEXT relationship, not an old one.

 

Cheers.

[matwithonet]

My situation is very close to yours. I hoped for a while that there was a glimmer of hope for a second chance, but to tell you the truth, now I just want her to come back and offer me a second chance so I can tell her to "f" off. Bitter sweet victory after all the pain she has put me through. I already have a speech planned out that will basically tell her that she has a long road ahead of her if she ever wants anything to happen between us again. Because she will have to build up trust again as just a friend before I would ever date her again. Believe me, I know that 6 years is a while but like Caliguy said, does she really deserve you?