Living in a World with People just out for themselves

[georgejungle]

It's hard to understand. Why do I bother saying hello

or good morning to the girl who lives across the hall,

when she never answers back? I know she understands

what i'm saying, she speaks english and laughs it up with

her loud friends late at night. But ever since she moved in,

She's NEVER said hello back to me. And whenever i go out

of my way to hold the door open for someone else who's

coming in, why can't they say 'Thank You'? This one time

before I held the door open at a restaurant for this man and

a woman, they walked right thru, didn't say Thank You,

walked right up and got their name on the waiting list before

me and my girl. All because I held the door open for them?

How do you argue that? get in their face? it's silly and

pointless.

 

People want the closest parking spot and will speed in

front of you to get it. why do people speed around in a

busy parking lot? There's people walking around and kids.

Some drivers will cut you off, speed all over the place and

weave in and out of traffic just to be FIRST. We live in this

"i don't care about you, ME FIRST" kinda world. People

lie and cut in line...People even complain that their coffee

isn't being served fast enough...I mean COME ON, How do

people really have the nerve to be pushy like that? I go

to a coffee shop in the morning to get a cup before work

and there's always someone rude who has to stress that

they want a coffee drink, but that They're LATE, so can

the server BE QUICK ABOUT IT....are they serious? If you're

late, Skip the Coffee....the server isn't making you late, you

are buddy.

 

If i really sit down and really think about it, I hate this world.

People can be so rude and be so selfish in this world and i don't

understand where it comes from.

[beautifulearth83]

It's hard to understand. Why do I bother saying hello

or good morning to the girl who lives across the hall,

when she never answers back? I know she understands

what i'm saying, she speaks english and laughs it up with

her loud friends late at night. But ever since she moved in,

She's NEVER said hello back to me. And whenever i go out

of my way to hold the door open for someone else who's

coming in, why can't they say 'Thank You'? This one time

before I held the door open at a restaurant for this man and

a woman, they walked right thru, didn't say Thank You,

walked right up and got their name on the waiting list before

me and my girl. All because I held the door open for them?

How do you argue that? get in their face? it's silly and

pointless.

 

People want the closest parking spot and will speed in

front of you to get it. why do people speed around in a

busy parking lot? There's people walking around and kids.

Some drivers will cut you off, speed all over the place and

weave in and out of traffic just to be FIRST. We live in this

"i don't care about you, ME FIRST" kinda world. People

lie and cut in line...People even complain that their coffee

isn't being served fast enough...I mean COME ON, How do

people really have the nerve to be pushy like that? I go

to a coffee shop in the morning to get a cup before work

and there's always someone rude who has to stress that

they want a coffee drink, but that They're LATE, so can

the server BE QUICK ABOUT IT....are they serious? If you're

late, Skip the Coffee....the server isn't making you late, you

are buddy.

 

If i really sit down and really think about it, I hate this world.

People can be so rude and be so selfish in this world and i don't

understand where it comes from.

 

Here's what happened:

 

A Loveshack story: Evolution of the Inconsiderate

 

A man worked in the city. He was a nice man. He worked in a high-rise

building and took pleasure in holding the door open for others. One day after

the next he started to notice his kind gestures weren't being acknowledged.

 

He tossed and turned in bed one evening, thinking about all the different ways

that perhaps he is not being acknowledged throughout his daily life. Being that

he didn't get much sleep, he slept through his alarm clock. He woke up startled

thinking "I'm late, I'm late, and I need to get coffee". So he got ready fast, got

in his car and sped off toward the closest Starbucks, cutting people off, going

through red lights, and grunting at old people.

 

When he finally screeched his car into the parking lot, he walked up to his coffee

palace, opening the door swifty, which hit somebody's poodle sending it 20 feet in

the air. He walked in, red in the face and yelped "could you please acknowledge

how late I am and hurry up on my fu-fu latté?". So he finally got his coffee, not

leaving a tip and went off to work.

 

He parked and ran up to the main doors and slipped right into one of them. There

he lay aside the open door, like a human door-stop. At that moment a lady walked

in, over him and through the door, then turned around and said... "hey thanks". He cried

and realized how selfish he had been, and realized that holding a door isn't something

you just do for a response, it's something that you do simply because you take pleasure

in doing it. And perhaps that kindness will move others to do the same and more.

 

He also remembered all the nice fellows who have opened doors for him in the past. He

cried a little more, then went pee-pee. Him and the lady got married and lived happily

ever after holding doors open for each other and others.

 

The End

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

Aw George, don't get so run down. Sometimes people really have too much to think about and are way too stressed to respond with a nice big smile to everyone.

 

I'm usually polite, but I get pretty pissed myself if I have to wait too much in line at the grocery store or at Starbucks. I don't yell, but yes I have asked the server or cashier to speed it up a couple of times.

 

That's how it is. It's not worth going off the deep end for that.

 

By the way, stop the one-sided good morning with that girl...you need to have some self-respect, man.

[wreckedhorse]

i really like this story. i think it resembles me.

 

when i get run down. i focus my mind elsewhere. to times where people have been considerate to me, to times when i hadn't been so, and it's humbling.

[georgejungle]

I don't yell, but yes I have asked the server or cashier to speed it up a couple of times.

 

I'm not saying this is YOU but...

It's not their fault that you're late to get somewhere. Something

as insignificant as a cup of coffee isn't worth getting to the point

where you need to ask the hardworking people behind the counter

to speed things up just for you, because you're in a hurry. It's coffee.

If you're late, that's your problem. If they're not moving fast enough

for you, that's your problem, no offense to anyone, i'm just saying.

it's the "I'm in a hurry, so i'm going to get nasty with

you because you're making me late" kinda thinking that irritates

the hell out of me. People have some nerve to think that they deserve

stuff like that. The A-Hole who yells in line "Oh come on, can't we

open another register??" You think they aren't doing the best they can?

 

It's not the end of the world, it's just LIFE. It's just a rotten way of

life.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

I'm not saying this is YOU but...

It's not their fault that you're late to get somewhere. Something

as insignificant as a cup of coffee isn't worth getting to the point

where you need to ask the hardworking people behind the counter

to speed things up just for you, because you're in a hurry. It's coffee.

If you're late, that's your problem. If they're not moving fast enough

for you, that's your problem, no offense to anyone, i'm just saying.

it's the "I'm in a hurry, so i'm going to get nasty with

you because you're making me late" kinda thinking that irritates

the hell out of me. People have some nerve to think that they deserve

stuff like that. The A-Hole who yells in line "Oh come on, can't we

open another register??" You think they aren't doing the best they can?

 

It's not the end of the world, it's just LIFE. It's just a rotten way of

life.

 

True, it's not Starbucks' problem that a person is late. But when you go to any place that provides you a service, you expect value for your money in terms of quality AND time.

 

Asking them to make it a bit quicker actually does work. They try to be expeditious about your order. And it's all good when the person leaves them a good tip for their service.

 

Case in point: I was at a California Pizza Kitchen recently, for dinner. They took almost 30 minutes to get the order on the table. I talked to the manager about it, and she got us the order for free.

 

Sometimes you have to speak up to get stuff done. That's how it is.

 

Of course, it doesn't mean yelling at the staff or making rude comments or creating a scene. But there are people who do that, too. That's an unfortunate thing, but there are all kinds of people in the world.

[Mustang Sally]

I find myself making excuses for others, such as "bad" drivers, when H is driving and say, someone cuts him off or something. It really pisses H off, and I always say, "Well, maybe that person is having a bad day, and not thinking appropriately about what they just did...or maybe they are in a hurry trying to get somewhere or something...."

 

I think the same when people are rude in public places, like old people who cut in line (always seems they think their AARP membership entitles them to not have to stand in the grocery line like the rest of us! )....

 

Sometimes I am the one who is having a bad day and is rude or just preoccupied....

 

When I get frustrated with anonymous others I say my little mantra:

"We (meaning people of the world) are all in this thing (meaning life here on earth) together, so let's try to get along, shall we?"

[directx]

Hey George!

Remember, your key word in your own description is 'some' people. Not all.

 

I gladly say thank you and smile to people that don't respond. It's kind of fun!

 

And if its a hot snobby girl, I just take it as a free ticket to imagine them naked or other fantasy. I don't feel so guilty if they are jerks.

 

With driving, yeah, relax. Let others be jerks. I just confine myself to parking far away. Its less stressful than worrying about finding a spot, plus we all could use more exercise.

 

Its funny how people get so serious about 'coffee' or a parking space. Those are people that truly don't have real problems so they have to create some.

[georgejungle]

For the record, i'm not attacking anyone

on this board, i know there are kind people in the world.

It's not EVERYONE. It just seems that there is so much selfish

behavior in the world.

 

i Agree, if a server is taking forever, yeah, it's o.k. to speak

up. And yeah, sometimes you'll come upon a bunch of younger

kids behind the counter who are chatting it up while ringing you

up, taking their sweet time and that's annoying, you should have

the right to say, 'Can we ring me up and get me out of here'?

 

*I'm just annoyed by people who assume they deserve special

treatment or those who take advantage with no regard to

human safety (speeding thru traffic, riding the shoulder to get

around gridlock, zooming around a parking lot, etc.) or people

who complain, just to get Free things like the guy who complained

last week at the coffee shop, so he got his money back, just

because they got his drink partially wrong because he wanted

it in a 'special' way. he was very mean to the people behind the

counter and made a big stink, so they gave him his money back.

why? He looked like a toddler throwing a fit, so they gave him

what he wanted.

 

I'm sick of those people.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

This reminds me, I was at a Starbucks a couple of weeks back. In front of me in the line was a middle-aged lady with poufy hair, looking mighty pissed.

 

When it was her turn at the counter, her only command was: "Can you lower the volume of the music being played?" For the record, the song being played was "Mrs. Robinson". I wonder if that got her agitated

 

Guy behind the counter, meekly: "Sorry, ma'am, I can't lower the volume".

Poufy-haired lady, bellowing: "You can't lower the volume?"

Guy behind the counter: "No ma'am. If I could, I would have".

 

The above dialogue was repeated twice. After which she stormed out of the coffee shop in a rage without getting her coffee.

 

I was laughing, so was the server.

[Sand&Water]

RE:

 

I understand what you're saying, Georgejungle.

 

How old are you? and Is this part of the reason why you don't ask women out? (If you don't mind me asking, as you seem to be very mature for your age)

 

It is rare to experience welcoming gestures from others -if only a handful of people. Everyone is just out for themselves: I experience it and feel this way everyday.

 

Life is made out this way -don't let it get to your head. Cheer up!

 

Sand&Water

[Tony T]

Unfortunately, as the world progresses materially it gets more greedy, selfish and self centered. Some of it has to do with the fact that there are way more people on the planet than way back when people were more kind and gentle. A lot of it has to do with the way people are raised.

 

But you have it pretty accurate. Many people are rude, thoughtless, inconsiderate, selfish, self centered, etc. It's not nearly as nice a world to grow up in as it once was. That's too bad. But I am very grateful that I knew the world for a time when the majority of people were nice, kind and generous. The minority who still are that was give me a ray of hope.

 

Reality is for people who can't deal with drugs.