IamASelfishSOB Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 I didn't think I would ever cheat. I even chastised others for doing so, but I cheated. I did it without thinking or reason. Since that time, I have contemplated continuing and doing it again. Never say never. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 "Honesty is the thing most cheaters lack". Yes, luv, and ultimately it is what hurts us the most! Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 I didn't think I would ever cheat. I even chastised others for doing so, but I cheated. I did it without thinking or reason. Since that time, I have contemplated continuing and doing it again. Never say never. Then your moniker fits you perfectly, doesn't it? So you would be alright, then, having a partner who f's around behind your back? How many c**cks do you want to share that thang with? Link to post Share on other sites
IamASelfishSOB Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 Then your moniker fits you perfectly, doesn't it? Yeah, pretty much. That's why I chose it. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 Yeah, pretty much. That's why I chose it. You refrained from answering the rest of my post. That's very telling. Link to post Share on other sites
IamASelfishSOB Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 You refrained from answering the rest of my post. That's very telling. Lot's of morals to the story, but one is definitely don't be so quick to judge.... and no I wouldn't want my wife to cheat. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 Anyone can make a mistake. The trick is to not ever put yourself into that position. And yes, if you choose to do so, you can always avoid those situations. It's what separates men from boys. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 Lot's of morals to the story, but one is definitely don't be so quick to judge.... and no I wouldn't want my wife to cheat. So what you're saying is that you have a valid excuse for being a deceitful, selfish cheater? Link to post Share on other sites
wwjd Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 everyone has the potential to cheat, and if you disagree with that, then you are being ridiculous. everyone and anyone can cheat--there is no marvel in that revelation, really. the difference, truly, is that just because you can, it doesn't mean you will; that is where personal integrity comes into play. personally, i think cheating is immoral because you are accumulating pleasure for your own self at the expense of others, and i think that any situation that benefits you at the expense of trampling all over other's beliefs, feelings, and emotions is immoral. morality takes into account the well-being, per se, of others and not just your own, imo. i believe i would never cheat on anyone because i could never be able to live with the guilt of hurting the object of my affection in such a cruel way. but--although i don't agree with the percentage she claims--i agree with lizzie in that, if given the opportunity, most men (and women) would cheat. absolutely. also, as a4a previously mentioned, i find it really naive to hear some posters say that their SO "would never do that." that's just silly. it's hard enough to concretely outline what we ourselves would absolutely do and not do. to claim such assurance of the thoughts and feelings of another is ridiculous. people need to keep in mind that no matter how hard we may want to believe it, we will never know another person "100 percent" and thus we can never be 100 percent sure of their actions given a situation. we may know them well enough to speculate the course of action they will take, but it remains a speculation--one where there is probability of error. most people hardly know themselves completely, so i find it rather arrogant for some to claim that they know their SO so extremely perfectly to know exactly what they would and would not do, cheating included. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 everyone has the potential to cheat, and if you disagree with that, then you are being ridiculous. I don't think anyone is disputing the fact that all people (unless some kind of physical birth defect exists) are born with genitals. Therein lies the potential to cheat. personally' date=' i think cheating is immoral because you are accumulating pleasure for your own self at the expense of others, and i think that any situation that benefits you at the expense of trampling all over other's beliefs, feelings, and emotions is immoral. morality takes into account the well-being, per se, of others and not just your own, imo.[/quote'] I was heartened to read this above piece of your post. We can all choose to be who we want to be. Someone with integrity, or someone without. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 I find this type of thread exhausting. Of course anyone with genitals and a pulse is capable of cheating... but there are SOOOO many facets of the argument that blanket statements such as "all men cheat" are ridiculous and inflammatory. I don't know my SO 100%... but I know 100% that if i cheat on him i am out the door. I know he has a zero tolerance attitude towards cheating due to the fact that his parents split over it and he has been cheated on twice before. both GFs didn't get another chance, and I wouldn't take my chances this time either- hence saying that for now, cheating is not an option if i want to keep my R. With an attitude like that if my SO cheated, he would be being a hypocrite which I know he hates. Besides from the fact that I have no desire to cheat anyway. So its a moot point for some of us... Now look what has happened... i am rambling and making no sense. But I don't believe that ALL men are cheaters. I believe that in SOME circumstances MANY people MAY have the POTENTIAL to cheat, and SOME do, and some DON'T Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 personally, i think cheating is immoral because you are accumulating pleasure for your own self at the expense of others, and i think that any situation that benefits you at the expense of trampling all over other's beliefs, feelings, and emotions is immoral. morality takes into account the well-being, per se, of others and not just your own, imo. i believe i would never cheat on anyone because i could never be able to live with the guilt of hurting the object of my affection in such a cruel way. . Thanks wwjd, I liked this part too. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 personally, i think cheating is immoral because you are accumulating pleasure for your own self at the expense of others, and i think that any situation that benefits you at the expense of trampling all over other's beliefs, feelings, and emotions is immoral. morality takes into account the well-being, per se, of others and not just your own, imo. I like this part as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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