Quinch Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 I don't know if this is normal but I've had the same thought going round my head for the past couple of weeks. I haven't been in a relationship for a while and, given current circumstances, I'm not looking to start one any time soon. The problem is what happens when I do get in another relationship. Basically I need to know if I can trust someone again. If she says "I love you, Quinch" my instinctive thought reaction is "She's lying". Hell, all the other girls in my life did. I keep thinking that all this doubt might become a self-fulfilling prophesy and I might subconsciously sabotage the relationship myself rather than let her do it first. It makes me wonder if I might be better of as I am - alone. I suppose you're going to say I'm being paranoid or irrational and maybe you're right. I get on fine with girls as long as its just friendship but I don't know if I could handle letting someone get close emotionally. I just can't shake these thoughts from my head. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 Welcome to the world of people who have been hurt by exes! (AND RECOVERED!!) Firstly, let me congratulate you for looking forward rather than back, its a great stage to be at! Everyone who has been hurt is reluctant to put themselves on the line again once they recover from a broken heart. Falling for someone else is risky- you risk getting hurt- something that is rare in friendships with the opposite sex. When I was feeling the same way as you someone told me that- you can play it safe, and never get hurt again, but stay single, or you can risk it and potentially find the love of your life the next time. And if the next one doesn't turn out to be the love of your life? You survived this time.... you can survive again. Each relationship is practice for the next one! Link to post Share on other sites
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