poemsandpeaches Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 WHERE IN THE WORLD DO YOU MEET A DECENT MAN, WHO ISN'T GAY,MAMA'S BOY, GOOD JOB, GOD FEARING , INTELLIGENT, SEXY, HALF WAY DECENT LOOKING, AND A SENSE OF HUMOR... I HATE HUMANS TODAY... I AM VEEEEEEEEEERY ANGRY AND BEYOND FRUSTRATED... I REFUSE TO SETTLE AND DUMB IT DOWN JUST TO SAY "HEY I GOTTA MAN" I'S MARRIED NOW...F_CK NO!!!! NEVER!!! I HAVE HOBBIES, FRIENDS,EX BOYFRIENDS ,A GOD JOB, GREAT FAMILY, GOOD MONEY, BELIEVE IT OR NOT A GOOD ATTITUDE, LETS EXCUSE TODAY'S RANTING AND RAVING MIND YOU...BUT OVER ALL IM BEYOND DECENT... WHERE THE HELL IS MY MATE/MATCH... AM I THE ONLY PERSON IN THE WORLD WHO FEELS THIS WAY....?????????? Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 He's probably one of your good male friends that you don't see in "that way" or he's a MM at your job. They seem to be very popular with women. Link to post Share on other sites
Yosef Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 Well, I would have to say that you're gonna have a not-so-easy time finding your love of dreams. Now, the grammatical way you put your first sentence confused me. Are you looking for a mama's boy or not? If you are looking for a man who isn't, it's rather a shame. [Generally speaking] Those who respect their elders, especially their parents, gain more than just money in return. Now, as for the personality that matches yours, you have a 1% population of people with that kind of match. You want a husband who is an INFJ personality-subtype, "The Protector". Unfortunately it's the rarest kind of person and, to find a God-Fearing one with a Good Job already cuts that chance in half. Moving onto your other choices; Sexy, Intelligent, and Half-Way Decent Body is another challenge. It's hard to get a package like this. If you want Intelligent & Good-Looking look for young doctors. You won't find a Pastor like this everywhere you go. The guys you're looking for are shy. They're not the outgoing, extraverted, partying people you may think of. They are Intraverts and perfer Low-Key situations, and dislike conflicts, so look in general areas where the guy may hang out alone, in a park, on a side-walk bridge, or w/e. Look for the peaceful places and, if you find a good-looking guy who is alone in a quiet setting, you may have come across the man you're looking for. You're, I GUARENTEEEEEEE, not the only person who feels this way. The kind of guy your looking for is a very rare occassion, and I know that every girl looks for "Mr. Right" and girls, such as yourself, look for "Mr. Perfect". I'm sorry to say I won't be able to help you locate such a man, but looking and exploring different environments may be the best option. After all, you're looking for a spoon in the refrigerator. Sometimes it can get misplaced there but chances are, most of the time, it's not. Sorry to give such negative news, but I do hope you respect the fact it isn't easy to find Mr. Perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
ftheunion Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 There are lots of single guys out there, but you'll never know about them cause they are just another person on the planet. If you our so picky though, then you can pick someone else, cause not all them are eye candy, or have the personality you want. Link to post Share on other sites
ls707 Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 WHERE IN THE WORLD DO YOU MEET A DECENT MAN, WHO ISN'T GAY,MAMA'S BOY, GOOD JOB, GOD FEARING , INTELLIGENT, SEXY, HALF WAY DECENT LOOKING, AND A SENSE OF HUMOR... I HATE HUMANS TODAY... I AM VEEEEEEEEEERY ANGRY AND BEYOND FRUSTRATED... I REFUSE TO SETTLE AND DUMB IT DOWN JUST TO SAY "HEY I GOTTA MAN" I'S MARRIED NOW...F_CK NO!!!! NEVER!!! I HAVE HOBBIES, FRIENDS,EX BOYFRIENDS ,A GOD JOB, GREAT FAMILY, GOOD MONEY, BELIEVE IT OR NOT A GOOD ATTITUDE, LETS EXCUSE TODAY'S RANTING AND RAVING MIND YOU...BUT OVER ALL IM BEYOND DECENT... WHERE THE HELL IS MY MATE/MATCH... AM I THE ONLY PERSON IN THE WORLD WHO FEELS THIS WAY....?????????? no your not the only one who feels this way. Unfortunately for me, i guess i still cling to certain standards that i wish to see in a woman. Although lately i have just tried to sit back and judge a book by its material not the cover. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 I can tell you where NOT to find a good man....not in bars or nightclubs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author poemsandpeaches Posted September 7, 2007 Author Share Posted September 7, 2007 Well, I would have to say that you're gonna have a not-so-easy time finding your love of dreams. Now, the grammatical way you put your first sentence confused me. Are you looking for a mama's boy or not? If you are looking for a man who isn't, it's rather a shame. [Generally speaking] Those who respect their elders, especially their parents, gain more than just money in return. Now, as for the personality that matches yours, you have a 1% population of people with that kind of match. You want a husband who is an INFJ personality-subtype, "The Protector". Unfortunately it's the rarest kind of person and, to find a God-Fearing one with a Good Job already cuts that chance in half. Moving onto your other choices; Sexy, Intelligent, and Half-Way Decent Body is another challenge. It's hard to get a package like this. If you want Intelligent & Good-Looking look for young doctors. You won't find a Pastor like this everywhere you go. The guys you're looking for are shy. They're not the outgoing, extraverted, partying people you may think of. They are Intraverts and perfer Low-Key situations, and dislike conflicts, so look in general areas where the guy may hang out alone, in a park, on a side-walk bridge, or w/e. Look for the peaceful places and, if you find a good-looking guy who is alone in a quiet setting, you may have come across the man you're looking for. You're, I GUARENTEEEEEEE, not the only person who feels this way. The kind of guy your looking for is a very rare occassion, and I know that every girl looks for "Mr. Right" and girls, such as yourself, look for "Mr. Perfect". I'm sorry to say I won't be able to help you locate such a man, but looking and exploring different environments may be the best option. After all, you're looking for a spoon in the refrigerator. Sometimes it can get misplaced there but chances are, most of the time, it's not. Sorry to give such negative news, but I do hope you respect the fact it isn't easy to find Mr. Perfect. I APPRECIATE YOUR REPLY.... I GUESS IM JUST EXHAUSTED AND HAVE GIVEN UP HOPE... Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 And where are the women who won't dump a man like this for some user who just feeds her the right lines. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 He's probably one of your good male friends that you don't see in "that way" Right on. The best potential match is your best male friend. Having said that, and to answer one of your questions: No, you're not alone in the way you feel, P&P. Link to post Share on other sites
Diplok Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 And where are the women who won't dump a man like this for some user who just feeds her the right lines. Amen!!!! I'm 26 and there i nothing I would like more than to have a family of my own. But, I keep picking the wrong women. Link to post Share on other sites
ftheunion Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 Nobody cares. just a wining yankee. you don't what lonely is. at least you have friends, unlike some of us humble people. Link to post Share on other sites
Geoffrey Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 I hate to say it, but it's a numbers game. It's win a few, lose a lot. I don't know your age, but I have found that the older I get, the fewer choices I have. I'm 42. When I was 21, I could basically have my pick of almost any gal. They were so optimistic and starry-eyed then. Now they've all flown their lives in to the ground (bankruptcy, addictions, crippling emotional issues they never resolved), have been divorced at least twice, and have more baggage than a Greyhound bus station. At least that has been my experience, I must apologize in advance if I have stepped on anyone's toes in saying this. But just take a tour of some of these threads and take note of the recurring themes....and you'll see what I mean. I've spent the last two years getting myself together, investing in ME. And I've decided that no one can have me, I can't handle the PROBLEMS and CEASELESS DRAMA that relationships bring, I've just been through too much and it is DRAINING. If you have found a mate that doesn't make you seriously compromise what you want and who you are, consider yourself very fortunate. Good for you! It's a person's own choice if the want to play the game, or remain single. As for me, I've chose the latter. Best wishes to everyone! Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 I keep picking the wrong women. According to the statistics of divorce, you'll realize that it's the women picking the men. A lot of women can go out and get any guy they choose. Most men don't have many options, so when we find ONE decent woman, we learn to deal. In most states, women can walk out of a marriage way better off than they went in, especially if there are children. There's really not much incentive for them to stay in it when they can come out on top financially and get another man at the drop of their pants... Yeah, so I'm bitter.... Link to post Share on other sites
hrtbroken99 Posted September 21, 2007 Share Posted September 21, 2007 WHERE IN THE WORLD DO YOU MEET A DECENT MAN, WHO ISN'T GAY,MAMA'S BOY, GOOD JOB, GOD FEARING , INTELLIGENT, SEXY, HALF WAY DECENT LOOKING, AND A SENSE OF HUMOR... I HATE HUMANS TODAY... I AM VEEEEEEEEEERY ANGRY AND BEYOND FRUSTRATED... I REFUSE TO SETTLE AND DUMB IT DOWN JUST TO SAY "HEY I GOTTA MAN" I'S MARRIED NOW...F_CK NO!!!! NEVER!!! I HAVE HOBBIES, FRIENDS,EX BOYFRIENDS ,A GOD JOB, GREAT FAMILY, GOOD MONEY, BELIEVE IT OR NOT A GOOD ATTITUDE, LETS EXCUSE TODAY'S RANTING AND RAVING MIND YOU...BUT OVER ALL IM BEYOND DECENT... WHERE THE HELL IS MY MATE/MATCH... AM I THE ONLY PERSON IN THE WORLD WHO FEELS THIS WAY....?????????? Where are they? There are none. And if there are, they are already taken. And the ones that are not taken, well good luck finding them because they are VERY hard to find. I understand how you feel, I am 26yrs old going to be 27 this year and have been going through all of this myself. I also see myself and have been told by many that I am a good catch but still, finding someone has always been a difficult process. It really sucks and hurts especially when everyone around you is in relationships and you are the only single one. I don't even hang out with all my "married or in relationship friends" anymore because I hate being the third wheel. Most of my time is spent alone or with single folks. I have already given up and have accepted that finding that man and getting married and having babies is just not going to happen for me. I have ALWAYS had a hard time meeting decent men and the ones I come across "Act" decent in the beginning and show true colors eventually (most are only after a sex session, fear of commitment,cheaters, etc.) And as far as the thing about your male friends, being that guy, I can't even imagine that, that just disgusts me as I see my male friends as my brothers and am not attracted to them in anyway. Just don't rush into anything, after all the divorce rate is so high that marriage should be taken as a very serious issue. Good luck to you, and yes, it does get harder as you get older, there really aren't that many fish in the sea. Your not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Aintayankee Posted September 21, 2007 Share Posted September 21, 2007 Sorry you feel that way. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
Author poemsandpeaches Posted September 22, 2007 Author Share Posted September 22, 2007 Where are they? There are none. And if there are, they are already taken. And the ones that are not taken, well good luck finding them because they are VERY hard to find. I understand how you feel, I am 26yrs old going to be 27 this year and have been going through all of this myself. I also see myself and have been told by many that I am a good catch but still, finding someone has always been a difficult process. It really sucks and hurts especially when everyone around you is in relationships and you are the only single one. I don't even hang out with all my "married or in relationship friends" anymore because I hate being the third wheel. Most of my time is spent alone or with single folks. I have already given up and have accepted that finding that man and getting married and having babies is just not going to happen for me. I have ALWAYS had a hard time meeting decent men and the ones I come across "Act" decent in the beginning and show true colors eventually (most are only after a sex session, fear of commitment,cheaters, etc.) And as far as the thing about your male friends, being that guy, I can't even imagine that, that just disgusts me as I see my male friends as my brothers and am not attracted to them in anyway. Just don't rush into anything, after all the divorce rate is so high that marriage should be taken as a very serious issue. Good luck to you, and yes, it does get harder as you get older, there really aren't that many fish in the sea. Your not alone. Heartbreak99 you totally nailed it... I am 26 will be 27 in October....and Im thinking..why did I spend all this time getting myself together..for NOTHING... Sigh* what to do, what to do???? You guys got any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
hrtbroken99 Posted September 22, 2007 Share Posted September 22, 2007 yeah, well be glad you do have your stuff together, that is a good point. I have also been doing that and continue to grow and do that even more. As far as finding good mate, well thats just down the drain because again, there are no fish in the sea and if there are they are hard to find or taken. I don't have much ideas, considering I am in the same boat. Its pretty despressing how society has changed so much. I just feel like finding love and getting married and settling and all would be like winning the lottery for me.... and we all know how just how low the chances are of winning the lottery. My only suggestion is just work on what you can conrol like your health, hobbies you like, job development and stuff besides that I can't think of much in terms of finding that special someone (if he even does exist). I don't know I just feel like an old grandma who has just given up on everything. Ever since my ex left me almost eleven months ago, I have just turned into a zombie who lives in a black cave. All I see is darkness. I really thought we would get married and do all those fake things he would tell me (have children etc.). But no, just another man feeding me lies. I can;t even get him out of my head. Now, I am left with getting close to thity, feeling old and sick and tired of this dating mess which does not last or go anywhere. I try to do that BS cliche people tell me ( like go out date, keep yourself busy, etc.) but nothing workS. My life is pretty dull and useless. Its such a joke to me when people ask "so have you gone on any dates?" as if there are so many decent wonderful men available to date that a girl can just so easily jump and meet her companion that easily. There are far more women on this planet then men. I also feel that it is so much easier for men to meet women since there are so many and they can take there time because they dont have some stupid biological clock to worry about. It sucks being a woman. Ok I think I need to stop now, I am just going into a rut...but just some words for you, for now focus on what you have and enjoy doing, and if love is meant to be then it will just happen Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted September 22, 2007 Share Posted September 22, 2007 Well, we could even say the same about women... so hey its a 2 way street. Link to post Share on other sites
hrtbroken99 Posted September 22, 2007 Share Posted September 22, 2007 yeah monkey, I agree it can also be said about women. I have had several guy friends tell me stories about how difficult it is to find a single woman these days without children, who aren't done partying or other things. but I still feel you guys get lucky because you don't have to live off of some time clock that is ticking away inside of you. I really hate that part about being a woman:mad: Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Heartbreak99 you totally nailed it... I am 26 will be 27 in October....and Im thinking..why did I spend all this time getting myself together..for NOTHING... Sigh* what to do, what to do???? No, good thing you have yourself together so you can support yourself in case you don't get married. Link to post Share on other sites
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