Hurt but the Best thing that could have happened to me

[lovernotafighter]

You are clearly not happy.

No one with any sense of dignity and self worth wants half a man.

I tried to convince mysekf for a long time that I was happy with my free time away from mm but it was self deluding.

Frannie is an example of avery nice woman who fails to admit that her mm is not in love with her.

I will probably be barred from the narrow minded thought police on this site who will censor this but at the end of the day it is true.

Bu the way Frannie, I do know your mm's wife so game up.

 

how would you know Frannie's MM's wife, and more to the point if you did why would you air her laundry on the forum rather than in a pm?

 

you speak of dignity and self worth where is your class in doing what you just did?

 

people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones over&out

[movinon05]

For someone who supposedly had an 11 yr affair, you certainly have quite the attitude. Reminds me of.......... Sybil!!

[overandout]

how would you know Frannie's MM's wife, and more to the point if you did why would you air her laundry on the forum rather than in a pm?

 

you speak of dignity and self worth where is your class in doing what you just did?

 

people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones over&out

 

 

Get a sense of humour--americans have no sense of irony do you

[overandout]

Another one who doubts I had an 11 year affair. I did.

If it didn't cost, I would get you a sworn affidavit.

 

I woke up and smelt the coffee and had enough dignity to extricate myself from the affair and yes he wants me back.

[Lishy]

So selfish women like you really do exist? wow I thought it was a myth!

 

Why exactly have you posted? This is an advice forum not a smug forum!

 

Good luck in your 'relationship'

[smoochygirl]

He is married. Marriage isnt any good. More or less its just paper.

 

Thank you for not judging. I am by no means looking for people to say I was right getting involved with someone who is married. I guess the only reason I have is that old saying " IT just happened"

 

I apologized if I come off sounding SMUG.

 

Thats good for you, This is god's greatest gift for us it is called "Love" and sometimes it is accompanied by "suffering". Anyways If he really love you and his MARRIAGE is just a PAPER why not DIVORCE his WIFE? Most MM that do love OW usually end the Affair by Getting a Divorce and be with their OW. If they have a lot of Reason for not leaving then you should be asking yourself why? why is he staying with his wife if he DOES love you?

[Lishy]

He doesnt love her!

 

If he loved her he would be with her!

[blowingthetrout]

being my first post and all I suppose I needed to clarify WHO my post was to?

 

my bad!

 

heres a more clear post for your enjoyment

 

So selfish women like OVERANDOUT and MYSELF really do exist? I thought they were a myth!

 

 

it's to bad actually she/he isn't/aren't myths then we could exorcise this demon sock puppet out these forums, the most one can hope for is she'll/he'll will look in a mirror and turn into stone.

 

by the way there are two posters in this particular thread that finally made me register.

 

I am avid reader but these two compelled me to be a member of this hell hole, that's unfortunate for them because most people hate me on forums, especially if I have been forced to be there.

 

um like now.

 

btw Lishy aren't you the pot calling the kettle black *snap*

[sothisislove]

don't be surprised when his wife tries to kick you ass after she finds out about the affair.

 

i hope you feel good about yourself screwing a married man.

 

if he cared about you so much he'd leave his wife to be with you.

 

i have no respect for you or anyone that does this.

 

do you not have any morals?????

 

when he leaves you because he realizes what a mistake he's made in having an affair, be careful of who's husband you jump in bed with next. you might get mixed up in more than you can handle.

 

ughhh...makes me sick. HOW CAN YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING. you are nothing but his sloppy seconds. do you really settle for a married man? is that all you think you are worthy of? he says he loves you and cares about you, yet not enough to be with just YOU. you are setting some high standards for yourself. you are living a lie.....would you even have the guts to tell his wife face to face what you are doing with HER husband? just because they have an unhappy marriage doesn't make it okay.

 

they just need to stick all you cheaters in a big warehouse together so you can all just be one big happy "CHEATING, LYING" group of people. have sex all day and night with whoever you choose and not have to worry about the consequences.

 

YOU ARE DISGUSTING!!!!! YOU MAKE ME SICK!!!!

[blowingthetrout]

don't be surprised when his wife tries to kick you ass after she finds out about the affair.

 

i hope you feel good about yourself screwing a married man.

 

if he cared about you so much he'd leave his wife to be with you.

 

i have no respect for you or anyone that does this.

 

do you not have any morals?????

 

when he leaves you because he realizes what a mistake he's made in having an affair, be careful of who's husband you jump in bed with next. you might get mixed up in more than you can handle.

 

ughhh...makes me sick. HOW CAN YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING. you are nothing but his sloppy seconds. do you really settle for a married man? is that all you think you are worthy of? he says he loves you and cares about you, yet not enough to be with just YOU. you are setting some high standards for yourself. you are living a lie.....would you even have the guts to tell his wife face to face what you are doing with HER husband? just because they have an unhappy marriage doesn't make it okay.

 

they just need to stick all you cheaters in a big warehouse together so you can all just be one big happy "CHEATING, LYING" group of people. have sex all day and night with whoever you choose and not have to worry about the consequences.

 

YOU ARE DISGUSTING!!!!! YOU MAKE ME SICK!!!!

 

RED ALERT!! this chick needs some dick fast!! may day may day!!! in coming dusty snatch!!!

[Lyssa]

don't be surprised when his wife tries to kick you ass after she finds out about the affair.

 

i hope you feel good about yourself screwing a married man.

 

if he cared about you so much he'd leave his wife to be with you.

 

i have no respect for you or anyone that does this.

 

do you not have any morals?????

 

when he leaves you because he realizes what a mistake he's made in having an affair, be careful of who's husband you jump in bed with next. you might get mixed up in more than you can handle.

 

ughhh...makes me sick. HOW CAN YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING. you are nothing but his sloppy seconds. do you really settle for a married man? is that all you think you are worthy of? he says he loves you and cares about you, yet not enough to be with just YOU. you are setting some high standards for yourself. you are living a lie.....would you even have the guts to tell his wife face to face what you are doing with HER husband? just because they have an unhappy marriage doesn't make it okay.

 

they just need to stick all you cheaters in a big warehouse together so you can all just be one big happy "CHEATING, LYING" group of people. have sex all day and night with whoever you choose and not have to worry about the consequences.

 

YOU ARE DISGUSTING!!!!! YOU MAKE ME SICK!!!!

 

Sothisislove, relax. I know you hate cheaters... but the last thing the OP needs is a bashing...

 

She may have not done the right thing but she is here to vent out..

[sothisislove]

RED ALERT!! this chick needs some dick fast!! may day may day!!! in coming dusty snatch!!!

 

LMAO! are you saying that i need some dick?!?!

 

actually...i've had quite enough lately, thank you very much!

[sothisislove]

Sothisislove, relax. I know you hate cheaters... but the last thing the OP needs is a bashing...

 

She may have not done the right thing but she is here to vent out..

 

Look, I only said what everyone else is thinking. Why should I sugar coat things. She shouldn't post her life story about screwing someone else's husband if she doesn't want to hear what people think. Sorry about being brutally honest. I'm not a therapist and I don't claim to be. Like it or not, I'll stick by my words. If she wants therapy then I'll be happy to look up some phone numbers for her so that she can make an appointment. I'm just an average person and I honestly believe that the majority of people out there would feel exactly the same way I do.

 

Besides...the only person in the situation that needs to "vent" it out is the wife that's being betrayed?

[Lyssa]

Not everyone else is thinking the same thing. You have your opinions and others have theirs.

[overandout]

He doesnt love her!

 

If he loved her he would be with her!

 

 

THIS IS SO TRUE.

I know mm who have left their wives to be with the OW (some had children, some did not), but a coiple told me that they wouldn't have left had they not been in love with their OW.

 

If you were dating a single bloke and he was "cheating" on you by sleeping with someone else, I bet you wouldn't stand it for it. If you thought he was in love with you then you are deluding yourself.

 

The mm has a choice, and finances, kids, the career ladder are all bulsh*t excuses for a bloke who is not that unhappy at home and just wants a bit of action on the side.

The OW who have been in effect "rejected" when the MM says he is staying in the marriage, and who stay in the affair, are really fighting the "rejection" and still hoping that one day he will see the light and want to be with her full time.

 

This isn't going to happen because if he is not in love with you enough now, he isn't going to fall more in love with you next month.

[Lishy]

She did not come here to vent, she came to tell us how happy she is!

 

I am glad she is happy, but will she be happy when his wife b*tch slaps her to the floor when she finds out, and the man who 'loves her' walks away in thne sunset with the woman he really loves (his wife)?

[lindya]

Some people have told me the relationship is WRONG. And we will both suffer from it. But how can I suffer?

 

By having high hopes and expectations, then having them dashed when he becomes as bored with you as he became of his wife?

 

Eternal adoration on your part won't necessarily stop that from happening. It'll just make it more painful if and when it does happen....which is probably where the suffering element sets in. Not forgetting that if he does get bored of you, you'll start identifying with his wife. Which probably won't feel very comfortable, under the circumstances.

[frannie]

You are clearly not happy.

No one with any sense of dignity and self worth wants half a man.

I tried to convince mysekf for a long time that I was happy with my free time away from mm but it was self deluding.

Frannie is an example of avery nice woman who fails to admit that her mm is not in love with her.

I will probably be barred from the narrow minded thought police on this site who will censor this but at the end of the day it is true.

Bu the way Frannie, I do know your mm's wife so game up.

 

Well that's interesting, because that's more than I do

[frannie]

The mm has a choice, and finances, kids, the career ladder are all bulsh*t excuses for a bloke who is not that unhappy at home and just wants a bit of action on the side.

The OW who have been in effect "rejected" when the MM says he is staying in the marriage, and who stay in the affair, are really fighting the "rejection" and still hoping that one day he will see the light and want to be with her full time.

 

This isn't going to happen because if he is not in love with you enough now, he isn't going to fall more in love with you next month.

 

Oh for goodness sake!

 

Men don't just get divorced, leave their wives, abandon their kids, and half their lives behind because they 'fell in love'. That's for story books. How many men do you think actually get divorced because they 'fell in love'..? They'd need their heads examined

[With_In_My_Eyes]

Well my fellow LSrs. I seem to have stirred a pot here. I am assumed at some of the posts.

 

Lets see look at a few advice givers. We have the woman who is in a relationship that all she got was a man who left his wife and wont get a divorce, so he has a WIFE and a girlfriend. ( Yea, lets listen to her sound advice ). Then there is the one who was a OW and now knows everything. Has no guilt , saddness or anything. ( another winner ). And then there is the award winner BS who comes and goes brandishing her band of hate.

 

There must have been a mental delay somewhere in some peoples mentality. I came on here to inform people about my relationship, not to get responses about my morals. If I wanted that I would go into a marriage counseling group and inform the members that I am involved with a MM.

 

Like I have said before I enjoy the discussion format.

[LucreziaBorgia]

Varied responses keep it interesting, no? I have found in my years here that the different responses you get help you see your situation from POV's you wouldn't otherwise consider. You don't solve a Rubik's cube by solving only one side of it - just like you don't involve yourself in a relationship that you only consider one aspect of. A forum with varied responses to your posts, and other posts is a good way to consider and reconsider your own situation, even when you don't agree with what you read.

[JackJack]

I came on here to inform people about my relationship, not to get responses about my morals.

 

Wonderful! You made your point about tooting your own horn about being with a MM. Good for you, I'm sure you're proud, after all your post is not about morals.

 

Since advice is not what you wanted, please make sure in future posts, if its not advice you are wanting, that you are upfront with that, and word your post something like; "Here to tell others my story, do not give advice because its unwanted."

[JackJack]

Varied responses keep it interesting, no? I have found in my years here that the different responses you get help you see your situation from POV's you wouldn't otherwise consider. You don't solve a Rubik's cube by solving only one side of it - just like you don't involve yourself in a relationship that you only consider one aspect of. A forum with varied responses to your posts, and other posts is a good way to consider and reconsider your own situation, even when you don't agree with what you read.

 

 

I so agree with this. However, some people are not ready to see things they don't want to see. Even if its from people who were once in her shoes, and might actually know what theya re talking about.

[bigblueeyes]

I've been away for months and with a very good reason.

 

I came here, desparately in love with a MM, and was in need of help and support. While I did get some from people in the same situation (You know who are and I say thank you), I most of the time had to put of with the same crap I've seen on this thread.

 

"He doesn't love you", "You're a cheap whore", "He'll leave and go back to his wife."

 

If I wanted to talk to a BS, I would call MM's wife. I didn't come here to get crapped on by someone vicious and bitter. I came here to figure out what to do in a very difficult situation.

 

I have no clue why this forum has moderators. They seem to allow so much from BS and when the OW dares to stand up for herself, posts get deleted and people get warnings.

 

So with an aim to banned from this site, I say to all the BS here:

 

GET A FREAKING LIFE!!!!!! IF YOU WANT TO BLAME ANYONE FOR CHEATING, BLAME YOUR FREAKING HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! STOP PICKING ON OTHER PEOPLE, WHO ARE THE SYMPTOM OF WHAT IS WRONG IN YOUR MARRIAGE, NOT THE CAUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE OW DID NOT PROMISE YOU FIDELITY, YOUR HUSBAND DID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

There, I've said it.

[smoochygirl]

Well my fellow LSrs. I seem to have stirred a pot here. I am assumed at some of the posts.

 

Lets see look at a few advice givers. We have the woman who is in a relationship that all she got was a man who left his wife and wont get a divorce, so he has a WIFE and a girlfriend. ( Yea, lets listen to her sound advice ). Then there is the one who was a OW and now knows everything. Has no guilt , saddness or anything. ( another winner ). And then there is the award winner BS who comes and goes brandishing her band of hate.

 

There must have been a mental delay somewhere in some peoples mentality. I came on here to inform people about my relationship, not to get responses about my morals. If I wanted that I would go into a marriage counseling group and inform the members that I am involved with a MM.

 

Like I have said before I enjoy the discussion format.

 

Hello, did you come here to get a support and advice or to pick on OW and BS? sorry they are the best people who can give you an advice here. I am not an OW or BS so honestly my OPINION is that IF he love you he would be living with you right now.