Author With_In_My_Eyes Posted August 30, 2007 Author Share Posted August 30, 2007 WIME, Divorce aside, why is he still home with his wife? Kids? Dontcha think he would've left already if his marriage was dead & over? If he no longer loves his wife he would be gone already. And don't give me the "He's stays for the kids" excuse. Forgive me TF for asking but I have looked into other posts you have entered. I am confused by you myself. As I have chosen to make a choice in accepting the terms of our relationship as it is for the moment. My confusion in you lies in how can you give one advice in not accepting reasons for a MM/MW for staying. Arent you , yourself involved with someone who refuses to enter a divorce but continue keeping you and also a woman titled as his Wife. Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 Forgive me TF for asking but I have looked into other posts you have entered. I am confused by you myself. As I have chosen to make a choice in accepting the terms of our relationship as it is for the moment. My confusion in you lies in how can you give one advice in not accepting reasons for a MM/MW for staying. Arent you , yourself involved with someone who refuses to enter a divorce but continue keeping you and also a woman titled as his Wife. You sound as if you know me. Hmmm. Anyway, My s/o is not divorced, that's correct. But, the difference between my rel. & yours is that we've been in a ltr now. Living together for quite a few years. If you know me, you'd know that. And why wouldn't you want advice??? You asked for it now didn't you! When your mm leaves his marriage, divorce or not, then you can question me. This is about you & your problem. It's not about my business. TF Link to post Share on other sites
Author With_In_My_Eyes Posted August 30, 2007 Author Share Posted August 30, 2007 You sound as if you know me. Hmmm. Anyway, My s/o is not divorced, that's correct. But, the difference between my rel. & yours is that we've been in a ltr now. Living together for quite a few years. If you know me, you'd know that. And why wouldn't you want advice??? You asked for it now didn't you! When your mm leaves his marriage, divorce or not, then you can question me. This is about you & your problem. It's not about my business. TF As I said I looked at your previous posts as I have others. I like to research the advice given to me. Sorry if I have seemed to hit a nerve. And you are quite right. This is about me. But as I thought this was a discussion forum I would ask. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 Forgive me TF for asking but I have looked into other posts you have entered. I am confused by you myself. As I have chosen to make a choice in accepting the terms of our relationship as it is for the moment. My confusion in you lies in how can you give one advice in not accepting reasons for a MM/MW for staying. Arent you , yourself involved with someone who refuses to enter a divorce but continue keeping you and also a woman titled as his Wife. TF's situation differs from yours. Whatever advices she gave you, it came from what she had been through - more or less. You did come here for some advice, input.. and we're all here to help you out. Most of the time, some of us are on neutral mode. At least, I try to be. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 ... truth and trust becomes apparant. This man is married, obviously he know nothing about truth and trust. Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 As I said I looked at your previous posts as I have others. I like to research the advice given to me. Sorry if I have seemed to hit a nerve. And you are quite right. This is about me. But as I thought this was a discussion forum I would ask. Very Well Then. Carry on. Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 But how can I suffer? And if suffering is loving him and feeling happy then I love suffering. I'm not sure how much advice you were really seeking. The post seems to be more of how happy you claim to be. Fine. But you did ask one question which is above, "but how can I suffer?" But I think you also answered you own question by saying, "And if suffering is loving him and feeling happy then I love suffering." I think no matter what people may say or advice they may give, it seems your mind is made up anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 But how can I suffer? And if suffering is loving him and feeling happy then I love suffering. I'm not sure how much advice you were really seeking. The post seems to be more of how happy you claim to be. Fine. But you did ask one question which is above, "but how can I suffer?" But I think you also answered you own question by saying, "And if suffering is loving him and feeling happy then I love suffering." I think no matter what people may say or advice they may give, it seems your mind is made up anyway. Right!! So what was the original question? Ditto from TF Link to post Share on other sites
Author With_In_My_Eyes Posted August 30, 2007 Author Share Posted August 30, 2007 TF's situation differs from yours. Whatever advices she gave you, it came from what she had been through - more or less. You did come here for some advice, input.. and we're all here to help you out. Most of the time, some of us are on neutral mode. At least, I try to be. Well ty lyssa. I directed the question to TF as it seem at least for me. That there was an aggressive tone in the questioning. So I research previous posts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author With_In_My_Eyes Posted August 30, 2007 Author Share Posted August 30, 2007 But how can I suffer? And if suffering is loving him and feeling happy then I love suffering. I'm not sure how much advice you were really seeking. The post seems to be more of how happy you claim to be. Fine. But you did ask one question which is above, "but how can I suffer?" But I think you also answered you own question by saying, "And if suffering is loving him and feeling happy then I love suffering." I think no matter what people may say or advice they may give, it seems your mind is made up anyway. My post was more of a statement of my feelings of the relationship. As I do enjoy the discussion. I was not looking for advice. But I welcome a healthy discussion format. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 My post was more of a statement of my feelings of the relationship. As I do enjoy the discussion. I was not looking for advice. But I welcome a healthy discussion format. a healthy discussion on cheating with a MM. I have seen many posters on here that were in your shoes, and real confident about the situation they were in, inlove with their MM etc, only to return a short time later on here, to tell the story of how their MM cheated on them and they just couldn't understand why. But they do know why, the signs were there when they first cheated with them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author With_In_My_Eyes Posted August 30, 2007 Author Share Posted August 30, 2007 a healthy discussion on cheating with a MM. I have seen many posters on here that were in your shoes, and real confident about the situation they were in, inlove with their MM etc, only to return a short time later on here, to tell the story of how their MM cheated on them and they just couldn't understand why. But they do know why, the signs were there when they first cheated with them. Again I am sure this has happened. Along with those that have resulted in the MM divorced and the OW becoming the W. Thank you for your advice and as I am not a fortune teller I will progress in the direction the relationship is going. Taking care of myself first and foremost. And my discussion is in no way in the form on HOW to cheat with a MM. Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 WithIn, Good luck with your relationship. I'm sure all will work out for the both of you. Keep us posted. TF Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 You have nothing now but false hope and wishful thinking. Until you see signed and notarized divorce papers, and a lease on his new place - that is all you can ever expect, as well. MM are notorious talkers, with little or no real action to back it up. There's no reason to think this one is any different, until you see actual legal proof of his actions, paired with a change of residence. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 Again I am sure this has happened. Along with those that have resulted in the MM divorced and the OW becoming the W. Thank you for your advice and as I am not a fortune teller I will progress in the direction the relationship is going. Taking care of myself first and foremost. And my discussion is in no way in the form on HOW to cheat with a MM. I'm sure its not, and thats not what I was meaning. You made a statement about your situation,and there is nothing wrong with that. I simply made one as well. Link to post Share on other sites
overandout Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 My post was more of a statement of my feelings of the relationship. As I do enjoy the discussion. I was not looking for advice. But I welcome a healthy discussion format. You are clearly not happy. No one with any sense of dignity and self worth wants half a man. I tried to convince mysekf for a long time that I was happy with my free time away from mm but it was self deluding. Frannie is an example of avery nice woman who fails to admit that her mm is not in love with her. I will probably be barred from the narrow minded thought police on this site who will censor this but at the end of the day it is true. Bu the way Frannie, I do know your mm's wife so game up. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 So how was the concert? Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 What was it that was least painful? Inquiring minds want to know. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 You are clearly not happy. No one with any sense of dignity and self worth wants half a man. I tried to convince mysekf for a long time that I was happy with my free time away from mm but it was self deluding. Frannie is an example of avery nice woman who fails to admit that her mm is not in love with her. I will probably be barred from the narrow minded thought police on this site who will censor this but at the end of the day it is true. Bu the way Frannie, I do know your mm's wife so game up. When are you going to learn? tsk, tsk, tsk... Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 So how was the concert? How is this in any way related to the topic? Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 WIME, I am not going to bash you at all or tell you to leave your MM (I wouldn't hacve. All I want to say is that I was in your position not too long ago. I knew from reliable sources that my MMs M was unhappy. I truly believed (and still do) that he loved me and wanted to make a commitment to me (that IS how he felt at the time) but when it came down to it, he couldn't leave - because of the kids. Whether this is an excuse or a reason I don't know. I just want to warn you that it may not turn out as rosy as you hope (although I probably don't need to tell you this). On the other hand, the opposite DOES happen and I sincerely hope that this will be the case for you. Fingers xd, eh? Keep us all posted. Lots of luck x Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 No offense or anything, but it disturbs me to hear someone say they "sincerely hope" someone else's marriage gets torn apart. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 No offense or anything, but it disturbs me to hear someone say they "sincerely hope" someone else's marriage gets torn apart. Don't take it personally! I am not giving advice to the BS - if I were I would tell her that I 'sincerely hope' her M will work out. For WIME, I DO sincerely hope FOR HER SAKE that things work out for her the way she wants them to. So shoot me! Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 How is this in any way related to the topic? It's not related to the topic. GG just needed to track me down & break my stones. Link to post Share on other sites
overandout Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 How is this in any way related to the topic? You need to keep up girl......... Link to post Share on other sites
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