TMC Posted April 3, 2003 Share Posted April 3, 2003 My husband and I have been married for 8 months. he moved to MA from TX to start our life together. Cutting to the chase.... I have his password to his email account from when I was planning a surprise party for him a while ago. I went into his email recently to get a mutual friends email address. In his INBOX I saw an email from his x girlfriend who still lives in TX. I am not proud -but I read it... For 2 weeks they have been exchanging hello emails. He told her he was happily married, but there has been back and forth exchanges... Bottom line is I am upset that he has not shared that they have been talking over email. I dont want to say anything because I invading his privacy reading his personal email, which is wrong, (again, i am not proud of this) but what do I do. we are both happy, have a great relationship and share everything. Should I be concerned about his emailing his x? Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted April 3, 2003 Share Posted April 3, 2003 i'm not married but ... if he told her he was happily married, and the emails don't contain anything over-friendly, why worry? -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Author TMC Posted April 3, 2003 Author Share Posted April 3, 2003 thanks for posting. I know he wouldnt cheat but concerned that he is not sharing that he is in contact with an x that he was with for 5 years, lived with etc... Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 3, 2003 Share Posted April 3, 2003 After the first few emails, they cease to be "hello" emails and could evolve into more. Who started these? If he did, you may be in trouble. If she did, then he should cease answering them. Sometime, in general conversation, work in a question like: "Do you ever hear from your old girlfriends?" See what his response is. I think you are correct to not mention going into his email. Also, if you REALLY want to give him a surprise party...send an invitation to her. After all, her address is right there with all the others. If she comes, she's got balls...and no guy likes a girl with those. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TMC Posted April 3, 2003 Author Share Posted April 3, 2003 She initiated the emails. Hers were long and his responses have been oneliners.... As for the invite that's a good idea....I think I'll slip it into a conversation tonight. Thanks.. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted April 3, 2003 Share Posted April 3, 2003 Is she the only one from TX that he's in contact with? Maybe he's interested in hearing about his friends back there. Or maybe he is just a nice guy who, even though he doesn't owe his ex anything, is too polite to tell her to leave him alone. I think the invitation thing is a touch much. Why not just tell him after the party, that you used his computer to get addresses and noticed that he received some emails from her. Be honest with him, and give him the opportunity to be honest with you. If he was hiding anything I would think the guilt would lead him to delete the messages on the off chance that you Might read them someday. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TMC Posted April 3, 2003 Author Share Posted April 3, 2003 he is a nice guy and is probably just seeing how old friends are back home.... Link to post Share on other sites
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