WiseOne Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 I posted here about a month, ago although im not new to loveshack this isnt my first time going thru relationship problems with a girl you can check these 2 links out to find the whole story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t124735/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t124593/ So out of the blue me and my ex stayed friends and argued every every every day over the sistuation over her having feelings for her ex that came back out of the blue after dissappering. I Didnt do NC or i didnt play games, nordid i try to make her jelous. Me and her argued time after time and we both threatned to just get out of eachother lives. Me and her dated for 8 months, and now were back on out of the blue. So Advice for people is NC isnt always the way to go, sometimes u just gotta sit in and let stuff play out on its own. She choose me over the ex. History was made becuz girls normally always choose the Jerk over the nice guy, and he treated her like **** bigtime. So there my success story. I've been thru this whole thing once before so i knew what mistakes i made last time becuz i lost. So 28 days later here we are backtogether not even a month. I Mean i am da champ, and like John Cena said "DA CHAMP IS HERE". Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne Posted August 31, 2007 Author Share Posted August 31, 2007 Since we've gotten backtogether she has been acting very very nice and friendly, shes always telling me she loves me over and over again, she maybe tells me like 10 times a day. I Dont really know what sparked this, i mean one moment she was cold as hell, and then the next moment we was back together like that i mean it was just last Saturday i asked her could we get back together and she said NO and got angry and funny acting, and Monday we was back together. Link to post Share on other sites
WThell Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 hi wise one, i am in the exact situation but i havent reach ur point yet, my ex gf said the same thing to me about 7 weeks ago, she said she broke up with me because she has feelings for her ex and she doesnt want to be with me because she is not whole hearted. and she even told me she is not with her ex as bf/gf but she is seeign him, but i have ignored my friends advice by not doing NC, since the day we broke up we still see each other about 3 times a week, and i did ask her can we try again but she keeps saying no...and everytime i leave interstate for work for a few days she will contact me and wish me a good trip. but during the time we broken up she was the one trying to make contact and i always answer... recently about 2 weeks ago we have become closer and she occasionally just give me a kiss out of the blue and asked me to come to her home for diiner with her parents, so i dont know if we are heading down the track of reconciliation? i dont know how ur ex return to you...what moves did she make or what signs she gave u? my question to you is what did u do during the time u broke up? and how did u approach the situation?any advise u can give me on handling this situation would be greatly appreciated.. i mean my story is EXACTLY the same as urs!!! thanks in advance.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne Posted September 1, 2007 Author Share Posted September 1, 2007 Well after me and her broke up, we argued like hell, maybe for hours and hours a day, and she kept telling me that i was pushing her away, we argued over everything we even threatned not to be eachother friend, sometimes i wouldnt answer her phone calls for a day and she would call atlest 10 times a day. A couple of times i wanted to go NC but she would cry and get very angry. Me and her was together for 8 months even though we was friends for 4 years before we started to catch feelings for eachother, and her and her ex was together for 3 years (Big victory huh). I've been thru this before with a ex before that i was with for 1 year and 7 months, i thought i was so so so in crazy about her and yea i came to loveshack for help on that relationship, but once i met my current gf it changed, she became my first love. So bassically i used my experience of what i did wrong last time to my advantage, NC may only push her further away from your ex, but it can make your ex come around and realise that she wants you. But i was very angry because she promised me she loved me and that she had no feelings for no one else, we even talked about marriage and kids but when he came back she flipped. She then said she isnt sure of who she loved the most and that she would not choose between us, and for no reason out of the blue were back together. So we became friends and i became nice ya know i told her all kind of sweet things like i love her and that no matter what ill always be there for her, bassically i was always makin her cry by sweet stuff i would say and here we are. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 The bottom line is she kept in communication and wanted to work things out. Most of the time, the dumpee doesn't want the relationship to continue and it's people who pursue, in the face of every red sign, that end up hurt. Know when to hold 'em. Know when to fold 'em. Know when to walk away. And know when to run. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne Posted September 1, 2007 Author Share Posted September 1, 2007 Its strange because she had just told me no saturday and she got very upset when i would talk about us getting backtogether and then monday shes all of a sudden ready to get back together. Shes very very nice i guess shes bassically aplogizing she tells me she loves me over and over like 10 times a day. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 Most of the time, the dumpee doesn't want the relationship to continue Correction. I meant DUMPER. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne Posted September 1, 2007 Author Share Posted September 1, 2007 Lol its kinda funny i remember the good old days when i use to sign on to loveshack and i use to get help from people like CaliGuy and such, like a couples of years ago, and i was so so crazy about my ex ex ex gf, it just shows that you can easily get over someone, and NC does help you get over a ex, and my ex ex ex gf contacted me begging me i mean the entire family was beggin me to get back with her the mother and farther now, i couldnt believe it and i turned her down because i was with my current gf and i wouldnt leave her for the past. But Anyways The Nice guy finally won over the jerk he was the jerk who cheated nd treated her bad and lied all the time, at one time i had gave up because i was sure that it was over between me and her. I think what won my ex back was my confidence, i told her times nd times again that i could find somebody just as great and smart and better looking than her, and i also pushed her away alot by trying to hook her up with her ex, (strange huh?) so i bassically told her i think she should be with her ex and the more i told her she should go back to him, the more she came closer towards me. Link to post Share on other sites
xtranz Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 Wow. I'm going through the exact same thing. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t128793/ I have no idea what to do. I really want to tell her how I feel and tell her how much her ex isn't right for her. Sux having her tell me how much she loves me and how much I make her happy then one day... nothing. I don't know whether to fight back... or leave it alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne Posted September 1, 2007 Author Share Posted September 1, 2007 I replied back to you Xtranz at your thread in Breaks and breaking up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne Posted September 1, 2007 Author Share Posted September 1, 2007 I've heard that sometimes before a couple gets back together you need to make sure that the reason you broke up was fixed, so it wont occur again. And i hope that by getting back with me that she means, shes over her ex or just would rather be with me, because if something was to happen i wont take her back next time. But so far things are going great. Better than before. I Knew Robin Thicke Album would come in handy, me and him are just so smooth with the women LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author WiseOne Posted September 2, 2007 Author Share Posted September 2, 2007 My ex was kinda nervous to ask me to go back with her, out of the blue she just started calling me her bf, i kinda already felt that way because things went back to the same way. So once day she called me her man, and i was like was that a mistake she just made. So how can she all of a sudden just pust us backtogether without asking me. And then to her friends she started to call me her bf again, it was kinda funny because i knew she wouldnt have the guts to ask me to go back with her, so i asked her and she said yes. I guess a person know that they really ****ed up when there to ashamed to ask you to go back with them. She went from saying i dont want a bf, and i wont want one atlest to a couple months. Link to post Share on other sites
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