Can't take a compliment.

[Yosef]

I can't take a compliment. When someone flatters me I tell them not to, as it makes me smile and smiling is just something that im not used to doing. I'm very modest, maybe too modest, but I hypocritically desire compliments, even If I say I don't like them. I don't know how to respond to a compliment, which is another reason I dislike taking them.

 

Anyone have any remedies for someone like me? I guess I just need someone to beat me up.

[Hurt & Alone]

I am not quite understanding why you have a problem with taking a compliment. It is human nature to give them when a person sees fit. For ex. when you have done a good job, or you change your hairstyle.........people notice these things. I would take this as someone has noticed you for whatever and has taken the time to share thier acknowledgement with you. As far as responding to them, it is just a simple thank you for noticing.

[Yosef]

I am not quite understanding why you have a problem with taking a compliment. It is human nature to give them when a person sees fit. For ex. when you have done a good job, or you change your hairstyle.........people notice these things. I would take this as someone has noticed you for whatever and has taken the time to share thier acknowledgement with you. As far as responding to them, it is just a simple thank you for noticing.

 

A simple thank you isn't simple. When I'm complimented, I freeze up, and I forget what to say. It's like when the girl of your dreams says Hi to you and you don't know how to respond so you freeze.

[Hurt & Alone]

Well...Try saying it over and over again, then it will become second nature to spew it out when complimented. Just my suggestion though. I personally get embarassed by compliments but I still thank the person for noticing.

[bathingape]

most people dont like compliments cause its awkward to take praise, but sometimes its frustrating when people just shoot down a compliment that you give over and over

its OK to smile and say thanks n be friendly

[underpants]

I agree you should smile and say thank you.

 

Hee hee, a few weeks ago somebody told me that I was 'Hot'. I flipped my hair and responded ...."I know thats right". Then I laughed.

 

The thing is, if you continue to meet compliments with silence, eventually people will cease to compliment or approach you.

 

Also it works both ways. Give out a compliment or two here and there.

[outrageousxcgirl]

with underpants they are right.

 

Just Accept the compliment my friend is exactly the same way.

 

Get over it. The person gave you a compliment being modest

 

is good. But that's not modesty anymore when you just

 

deny everything that comes at you it's almost like

 

obsessive complusive. lol just be polite and take it in,

 

deep breath and remember it, your confidence will

 

grow with every compliment and eventually you'll

 

believe them and be a happier person! BAM =]

[Geoffrey]

Smile and say "thank you."

 

That is what works for me, I'm not the greatest at receiving compliments either, probably because I didn't get very many when I was growing up - it makes it hard to believe the complimenter is really sincere (but they are).

[Yosef]

Thanks everyone. I'm sure the next time I'm complimented I'll get over my rediculous attitude.

 

I've realized that it just embarrases me. It's not that I dont like them, it's that when someone does, it embarasses me.

 

I'll be working with it. I've still got some growing up to do, and I'm glad you're all there helping me along the way.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

I can't take a compliment. When someone flatters me I tell them not to, as it makes me smile and smiling is just something that im not used to doing. I'm very modest, maybe too modest, but I hypocritically desire compliments, even If I say I don't like them. I don't know how to respond to a compliment, which is another reason I dislike taking them.

 

Anyone have any remedies for someone like me? I guess I just need someone to beat me up.

 

What's the big deal with smiling?

 

I can understand the rest of the problem. I'd ask you not to take yourself so seriously. Not every compliment is flattery. And people don't really think about you as much as you think they do. Everyone is busy thinking about themselves.

 

Being modest is one thing. But if you try too hard, it will come across as just that - trying too hard.

 

A simple "thank you" works fine. Accompanied with a smile.

[EricOnTheWeb]

I guess I just need someone to beat me up.

 

 

Meet me outside in a few minutes.

[here0822]

An ex-coworker once told me that I didn't know how to take compliments... that I should just say "thank you." I guess my modesty had me shooting compliments down.

 

So now, I simply say "thanks!" I'm surprised at how easy this is. Sometimes I try to attempt to return the compliment- but only if it's sincere and if I don't feel I'm going out of my way.

 

If you have trouble saying something, maybe try just nodding in acknowledgment until you can work yourself up to saying "thank you"?

[Cerise]

An ex-coworker once told me that I didn't know how to take compliments... that I should just say "thank you." I guess my modesty had me shooting compliments down.

 

So now, I simply say "thanks!" I'm surprised at how easy this is. Sometimes I try to attempt to return the compliment- but only if it's sincere and if I don't feel I'm going out of my way.

 

If you have trouble saying something, maybe try just nodding in acknowledgment until you can work yourself up to saying "thank you"?

 

I agree!

 

I have always had a hard time taking complimnets and like you I wanted to hear them, but felt put on the spot and a little emmbarassed to hear them.

 

My H has given me a hard time about this and I am now at a point where I smile and say thanks, not a big smile, just a little one but it is enough that I am learning to relax and he is happy, but I still feel a little akward lol.