If you both agree to meet and the dumper backs out twice..

[Donza]

Even though they agreed to it, and in one case the dumper literally begged for another chance..

 

They are just not worth it are they?

 

What kind of perosn does that to someone they used to "love"..

 

It defies belief...

 

why do this?

[trendyaznchica]

I believe in forgiveness, but it is a personal pet peeve when anyone stands me up or backs out of a plan at the last minute, be it an ex or a friend. That is irritating and annoying. When it is an ex who does this, I think it's because when he/she does agree to it, he/she may actually want to meet. But then during the time that elapses between the agreement and the actual meeting, he/she has a change of heart.

 

If this happens again, be the one who says no. Or have the other person meet you somewhere you usually go anyway. Like, say, if you always lunch at this one diner at 12:30, suggest that you meet there at 12:30, when you would usually be there anyway.

[trendyaznchica]

double post... whoops

[CaliGuy]

Even though they agreed to it, and in one case the dumper literally begged for another chance..

 

They are just not worth it are they?

 

What kind of perosn does that to someone they used to "love"..

 

It defies belief...

 

why do this?

 

Who suggested getting together?

 

If the dumpee did and the dumper backs out, it's because the dumper really isn't ready and feels pressured.

 

If the dumper did and backs out, the dumper is just making sure you're still on their string.

 

In either case, actions speak much louder than words. Never believe most of what they say, definitely believe all of what they do.

[Donza]

I arranged to meet the first time. SHE AGREED, AND THEN SHE BACKED OUT.

 

I said ok fine, i was extremely ok about it. Then i implemented NC.

 

Three days went past and then i recieved a barrage of texts accuasing me of hurting her and ruining it.

 

History: She broke it off as she thought we were not compatible. In short she had a lot of emotional baggage from her previous relationship which spilled over into our relationship.

 

She had a huge emotional outburst at me in a public place. I had no choice but to suggest we breakup. What she shouted at me, sent shivers to the very core of my soul.

 

I had fought to be with this girl, even though my parents did not agree with our union. And she just threw it away..

 

So after her texts, i suggested we meet again. Remember, i was hurting still very much after she refused to meet me.

 

I stated very clearly. That she had to be SURE she wanted to see me. There was no guessing, as it backing out would do neither of us any good.

 

So i told her we could meet at some point later in the week. Anyway, the day before we were meant to meet i suggested some places.

 

She was not happy about any of the suggestions. So i left it with her to tell me where and when.

 

Come the day of the meeting. A few hours beforehand she backed out again.

 

I was back to square one, all my progress had been shattered..

 

I told her that was it, never again would i let myself be open to reconciliation.

 

And that was that....

 

We both would have saved a lot of grief if we talked. We had mutual friends you see.

 

I cant believe how imature she was..

[CaliGuy]

I arranged to meet the first time. SHE AGREED, AND THEN SHE BACKED OUT.

 

I said ok fine, i was extremely ok about it. Then i implemented NC.

 

Three days went past and then i recieved a barrage of texts accuasing me of hurting her and ruining it.

 

History: She broke it off as she thought we were not compatible. In short she had a lot of emotional baggage from her previous relationship which spilled over into our relationship.

 

She had a huge emotional outburst at me in a public place. I had no choice but to suggest we breakup. What she shouted at me, sent shivers to the very core of my soul.

 

I had fought to be with this girl, even though my parents did not agree with our union. And she just threw it away..

 

So after her texts, i suggested we meet again. Remember, i was hurting still very much after she refused to meet me.

 

I stated very clearly. That she had to be SURE she wanted to see me. There was no guessing, as it backing out would do neither of us any good.

 

So i told her we could meet at some point later in the week. Anyway, the day before we were meant to meet i suggested some places.

 

She was not happy about any of the suggestions. So i left it with her to tell me where and when.

 

Come the day of the meeting. A few hours beforehand she backed out again.

 

I was back to square one, all my progress had been shattered..

 

I told her that was it, never again would i let myself be open to reconciliation.

 

And that was that....

 

We both would have saved a lot of grief if we talked. We had mutual friends you see.

 

I cant believe how imature she was..

 

 

She was never really high on meeting. Stop suggesting it. The proof was all the suggestions you made on where to meet. You are the one driving this, not her.

 

Stop wasting your time on her. You already know how immature she can be. You are not surprised.

 

You're wasting far too much effort on someone who is not putting any real effort into you to.

 

Cheers.