Yamaha Posted September 3, 2007 Share Posted September 3, 2007 Telling her of his feelings WILL end the friendship. She won't be able to see you in the same way and you 2 will start hanging out less and less until your no longer friends. I don't know that KMT's advice would be the best for you but you need to make her see you as a man and not a male girl friend. Believe me this is how she sees you now, as a good male buddy. WWJD has given you some good advice but she already knows how she feels about you and the odds that she is harboring any romantic feelings are slim to none. YOU just want WWJD's advice to be correct because it gives you the most hope for a change in your relationship. No offense but you need to listen to men in these matters because guys have been through it and they know the results of such honesty. You are not going through anything that most guys haven't gone through and that is how you grow and learn. YOU very well may have to see your friendship as a learning experience and not what to do with the next girl you have feelings for. Women think differently from men. You were attracted to her from the start and the time you have spent with her has developed a strong emotional bond with you. She liked you but saw you as a friend so the emotional feelings she developed with you has made your friendship stronger, for her. IT is very possible for a girl to have strong emotional feelings for a guy and not want more than friendship but when a guy develops strong emotional feelings for a women he wants to take it to the next level. It is the difference between men and women. They are emotional beings and she sees the strong emotions with you as a good thing but that does not relate to romantic feelings for her. You have to learn that when you don't express your romantic feelings for a women from the start and develop a friendship the odds of her seeing you in a romantic way get less and less as you get closer. Your best course of action is to leave things as they are and look for another girl your attracted to and ask her on a date. Just know that she does like you as a friend and she enjoys your company. She doesn't see that as a bad thing but men see romantic rejection as that she doesn't like me. She will be more than happy to give you advice on your next GF but unless you want to end it with your best friend I would not have the talk with her and look for love in another girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jewklar Posted September 3, 2007 Author Share Posted September 3, 2007 well i did tell her... but im not gonna go into details on what happend cause it will take waayyyyy to long.. basically she said it was cute how i felt and that she knows what im going through because shes been through the same thing pretty much. She does still wanna be friends and we're sappost to do something tomorrow. Thankfully she didnt make things awkward for me. And to WWJD i asked her what she ment in the future what she ment and it's that she wants to go out with me later when we're older Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted September 3, 2007 Share Posted September 3, 2007 You are lucky that she really is your friend because many women would freak out and the friendship would end. I hope she is being truthful with you and that she really does want to date you when you are older. I wish you the best but you still need to date other women and not just wait around for her. You never know that you might meet someone you like better or that she might do the same so don't just lay down and wait, she won't respect you for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jewklar Posted September 3, 2007 Author Share Posted September 3, 2007 ya i know.. its just gonna take me a while to do so but thanks for all ur guys help i really needed it Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 3, 2007 Share Posted September 3, 2007 jewklar u'll never get your groove on with a girl in your current mindset. Any girl you meet and connect with is only going to turn into just another friend with your current approach. Take risks and make moves such as going for a kiss getting touchy, flirting. try it with this girl, and move on and start getting friendly with other girls as soon as posible. A guy in HS can not just be friends with a girl he finds hott not posible... not natural... WWJD is a woman and while what she says is true dont read into it as far as what your next move should be im telling you here the sooner you learn how to be yourself instead of this guy who pretends to just be happy being friends you'll be alot better off, take some actions, this girls friendship will only depress you in the end believe me she will start to date some one, and its going to hurt Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jewklar Posted September 3, 2007 Author Share Posted September 3, 2007 to be honest i think each of you have a good point.. but im not just gonna do **** with her and then never talk to her again.. im just gonna forget about ever hoping to have a thing with her and move on ... each one of you have given great advice and ive used a little bit of each of you to help me along the way. so thanks... and dont worry ill start working on other chicks and take ur advice on that KMT Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 3, 2007 Share Posted September 3, 2007 to be honest i think each of you have a good point.. but im not just gonna do **** with her and then never talk to her again.. im just gonna forget about ever hoping to have a thing with her and move on ... each one of you have given great advice and ive used a little bit of each of you to help me along the way. so thanks... and dont worry ill start working on other chicks and take ur advice on that KMT my only advice was to be yourself and actualy try to get what you wanted by taking some action (kiss). Look if you keep this attitude your going to find a new girl and make up new excuses of why you cant attempt anything on this new girl you find and blah blah blah. On a less relevant note your on a turning point dont give up on things see them through and give it a good try and then you can never regret failing. People get scared and they dont try the thing they should because they think keeping the dream alive is better but they are wrong. you need to try, or else when you find some other girl you'll be in this same exact position all over again not wanting to ruin the friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
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