TheRock Posted September 3, 2007 Share Posted September 3, 2007 My GF and I are on shaky ground and taking it slow. We've been dating a year and yesterday she broke down in tears saying she loves me and I'm perfect for her in everyway, but sexually. Lately, she doesn't have any desire for me or anyone period. She's been moody, depressed, fatigued, and just wants to sleep. She's become a hermit and has even distanced herself from her friends and family. She's 30 years old and should be spunkier than this. (She's been like this since she changed birth control pills in Feb. Luckily her doc put her on a new one starting today.) She said she doesn't want to break up, but doesn't know what to do to get that HOT feeling back that we had and feels like she's hurting me and she's not pleasing me like before. We're going to keep seeing each other and see if the new pill changes her back. I feel I may have changed over the past few months and have become "too nice" and accomodating and maybe that's part of the problem. Question is how do I spice up our relationship and act more like a "Bad Boy" with out seeming like a jerk? Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted September 3, 2007 Share Posted September 3, 2007 When men get comfortable in the relationship they get nice and stop being spontaneous. I don't know if her problem is medical or just a lack of desire for you. You can try being more romantic and do the dating routine and see if it sparks her interest. You need to talk about it and see if she seems willing to see what happened to the spark. If she's not willing I don't see much hope. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheRock Posted September 3, 2007 Author Share Posted September 3, 2007 She appears willing, but doesn't know how to get the spark back. When she's not too tired and we do go out, I surprise her with interesting dates and we have fun, but afterward when we get home, she just wants to sleep or pulls away when I advance. I'm playing it cool now and trying not to initiate anything. It's gotten so bad, that we took a 2-week break from physical contact so she could concentrate on some of the things that have been stressing her lately. The first week, she called me and said she called to say hi and that she missed me alot. Then a week later, when she finally saw me, she said she didn't even want to have sex or even "play around" and didn't even miss me. Her attitude was just cold. I'm confused. Link to post Share on other sites
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