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[4whatItsWorth]

I don't think it sounds very nice how you keep saying how sorry she is, and how you pity her. It's not nice to do so. Sorry, but I still feel like you are not over it.

 

If you were, you'd be saying "Whatever, as long as they're happy I am happy for them because I am happy where I am." But instead you keep on talking about how much she's put up with.

 

It was her choice. Respect it, move on and never mention her again.

[annabelle75]

I don't think it sounds very nice how you keep saying how sorry she is, and how you pity her. It's not nice to do so. Sorry, but I still feel like you are not over it.

 

If you were, you'd be saying "Whatever, as long as they're happy I am happy for them because I am happy where I am." But instead you keep on talking about how much she's put up with.

 

It was her choice. Respect it, move on and never mention her again.

 

No. It was a part of my life. I have every right to think about it and discuss it. I will not just sweep it under the rug and pretend it didn't happen to suit you or anyone else.

 

It happened. It was my life. I have every right to talk about it and to talk about her.

[4whatItsWorth]

to suit you or anyone else.quote]

 

It was a life you were part of stealing from H-E-R.

 

Lol, I dont care whatever you write. I was just voicing my opinion.

[annabelle75]

to suit you or anyone else.quote]

 

It was a life you were part of stealing from H-E-R.

 

Lol, I dont care whatever you write. I was just voicing my opinion.

 

What does that have to do with my story? I didn't steal anything from her. The fact I feel any sympathy for her after the things she did to me, really show how much I have grown from the situation. Its taken me a long time to get to this point.

 

Why can't some of you just accept that I have genuine concern for her? Perhaps I just have more of a heart.

[luvmy2ns]

I agree with you. But sometimes you really have to look at each situation individually to see who is being the bigger fool. Is it the BS that will "do anything" even if it means sacrificing her dignity and values to keep the cheater or is it the OW that believes every word the cheater says and hangs on even though its obvious to everyone else he will never leave his wife.? Or is the MM the only real fool for screwing up a good marriage just to have some fun on the side?

 

I think everyone is a fool in that little dysfunctional mishmash. And I think most would agree that MOST cheaters are serial cheaters, in which case any OW/OM is clinging to hope where none exists.

[luvmy2ns]

No. It was a part of my life. I have every right to think about it and discuss it. I will not just sweep it under the rug and pretend it didn't happen to suit you or anyone else.

 

It happened. It was my life. I have every right to talk about it and to talk about her.

 

You're right Annabelle. People can discuss whatever they want. If people don't want to read it then they shouldn't read it.

[annabelle75]

You're right Annabelle. People can discuss whatever they want. If people don't want to read it then they shouldn't read it.

 

Thank you.

 

It really is helping me to talk about it here. Next month I am making a return to the sporting world that I met the MM in. After the whole mess two years ago, the BS went on the attack and did alot to publicly slander me and try to discredit me as a competitor. I understand she was venting her anger at me instead of him because she knew if she showed any signs of hostility towrads him he would have left, but it still wasn't fair to me. If I had known he was married i would never have let anything happen. It was all very public and he even made a public statement admitting to what he had done, but she felt justified waging war on me anyway. I actually think I took the high road by stepping down and leaving the scene. This next month I will be attending my first official event since then. I am slowly making my way back onto the circuit.

 

Its probably good for me to vent about it here a bit (anonymously) before I go some where where there is a very good chance I will run into both of them. I will do everything within my power to stay out of their way but if we do cross paths I am going to handle it with as much class as possible. I didn't fight back before and I have no need to confront either of them now. In fact, I never talk to anyone (even though alot of people ask me about it) about it. This is the only place I've felt safe enough to discuss it. It really does help.

[Impudent Oyster]

INo one forced her to do to me what she did.

 

Are you so bitter about your own husbands betrayal, you can't even allow me to show genuine sympathy and compassion for the BS in my situation? I think your repsonses shows more about your sitaution than mine.

 

Okay I'll bite, just what did this woman whose husband you were sleeping with do to YOU?

 

And please, you're not fooling anyone by saying you have genuine sympathy and compassion for your MM's wife...you take every opportunity to disparage and degrade her. To hear you tell it, she's a complete idiot and you're just an innocent victim.

 

I'm not the bitter one Annabelle, you don't see me whining about how desperate the exOW is, and how I should pity her, and what a fool she is, do you?

 

That's bitterness, and you are seething with it.

[annabelle75]

Okay I'll bite, just what did this woman whose husband you were sleeping with do to YOU?

 

And please, you're not fooling anyone by saying you have genuine sympathy and compassion for your MM's wife...you take every opportunity to disparage and degrade her. To hear you tell it, she's a complete idiot and you're just an innocent victim.

 

I'm not the bitter one Annabelle, you don't see me whining about how desperate the exOW is, and how I should pity her, and what a fool she is, do you?

 

That's bitterness, and you are seething with it.

 

This post shows how bitter and quick to attack you are. I have shared my story with you more than once and anyone here that has ever bothered to read my posts knows that I was innocent and knows that the BS in my situation treated me very badly. I'm not going to tell my story again, because you won't bother to read it. I'm no longer wasting my time on you.

[Tomcat33]

Annabelle the BS in your case sounds lame. It's been two yrs and she is still harping on about "winning" Pffft, clearly she doubts her prize and needs to overcompensate. Why even stoop to such pettiness..the best revenge is to do nothing at all.

 

To her: It's been two years lady, you got your "prize" get over it already!

[Tomcat33]

You know this reminds me of something I have noticed alot practically all my life, sometimes when I walk down the street there will be a couple and the woman sees me coming and feels the need to throw herself on her man or grab his arm quickly practically to show he is off limits. Ahhhh, lady if you are THAT insecure that your man would just want any woman who walks down the street, maybe you shouldn't be with him? Best part is I will purposely not make eye contact with the guy to not give her the satisfaction of proving her lame insecurities, but they feel threatened anyway.

 

When I am with a guy and he checks out another woman the last thing I will do is make him realise I notice that, how lame! I purposely make myself preocupied to avoid the whole scene. Why would I give another woman the satisfaction of making her realise she makes me feel threatened? Not to mention guys get so turned off by that kind of stuff. heck I get turned off when it's the other way around, you gotta trust who you're with or not be with them at all.

[Impudent Oyster]

This post shows how bitter and quick to attack you are. I have shared my story with you more than once and anyone here that has ever bothered to read my posts knows that I was innocent and knows that the BS in my situation treated me very badly.

 

I have no idea of how badly the BS treated you. None at all, I don't recall ever hearing about the horrible way SHE treated YOU. I do know that you screwed her husband and you think she's a complete loser, or have I got that wrong?

 

I recall something about her husband cutting you completely out of his life after d-day, which is actually completely understandable, hence the phrase NO CONTACT.

 

At any rate, I'm sure she put the comment on MySpace just to bother you, and boy did it ever work.

[annabelle75]

I have no idea of how badly the BS treated you. None at all, I don't recall ever hearing about the horrible way SHE treated YOU. I do know that you screwed her husband and you think she's a complete loser, or have I got that wrong?

 

I recall something about her husband cutting you completely out of his life after d-day, which is actually completely understandable, hence the phrase NO CONTACT.

 

At any rate, I'm sure she put the comment on MySpace just to bother you, and boy did it ever work.

 

You are pathetic. I challenge you to stay out of the OW forum. Lets see how long you can last before needing to come back here and attack some one.

 

And I have retold you my story countless times, yet you either don’t bother to read it or don’t know how to comprehend English. If you had even just bothered read the posts in this thread you would know what you have said isn’t true.

 

I did not know my MM was married. When the truth came out I broke off the relationship. He then left his wife and begged me for a second chance and asked me to marry him. I eventually agreed to give him another chance. His W then threatened to kill herself, emotionally abused their kids and then threatened to make sure he would never again see his step daughter again. When that didn’t work she agreed to let him screw other women, as long as he never talked to me again. He eventually caved. The whole fiasco was very public and so when the choice was made, she waged a public war against me in order to try to gloss over what had really happened. She didn’t want people to think she was pathetic so she tried to twist the facts. She also knew if she showed any anger towards her H, he would have left her without another thought. She funneled all her anger and hate towards me even though I was a much a victim of his lies as she was. I lost a lot because of what they both did to me.

 

Her actions were desperate and pathetic, but over the last two years I've learned to forgive her and understand a bit more why she reacted the way she did. In her head she had to make me the villan so she could forgive her H. It may not have been right, but I kinda understand it now.

 

Sadly, the more I read your posts the more I am starting to think you are a lot like her. Its easier to “re-write” the truth of what happened than to just come to terms with it.

[Impudent Oyster]

I did not know my MM was married. When the truth came out I broke off the relationship. He then left his wife and begged me for a second chance and asked me to marry him. I eventually agreed to give him another chance. His W then threatened to kill herself, emotionally abused their kids and then threatened to make sure he would never again see his step daughter again. When that didn’t work she agreed to let him screw other women, as long as he never talked to me again. He eventually caved. The whole fiasco was very public and so when the choice was made, she waged a public war against me in order to try to gloss over what had really happened. She didn’t want people to think she was pathetic so she tried to twist the facts. She also knew if she showed any anger towards her H, he would have left her without another thought. She funneled all her anger and hate towards me even though I was a much a victim of his lies as she was. I lost a lot because of what they both did to me.

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You're angry at the wrong person. Be angry at yourself for believing the incredible LIES this MM told you, be angry at HIM for telling those lies, be angry at him for asking you to marry him then reneging (how is that his wife's fault?). Be angry at him for letting her believe that you are the bad guy and he's the innocent victim.

 

Finally, how do you know she threatened to kill herself, emotionally abused her kids and threatened to withhold the children from their stepfather, because this colossel LIAR told you that's what she did? And you believed him?

 

He's the lying cheat who said he was divorced and lied again when he asked you to marry him, stop blaming his wife for his lies.

[annabelle75]

You're angry at the wrong person. Be angry at yourself for believing the incredible LIES this MM told you, be angry at HIM for telling those lies, be angry at him for asking you to marry him then reneging (how is that his wife's fault?). Be angry at him for letting her believe that you are the bad guy and he's the innocent victim.

 

Finally, how do you know she threatened to kill herself, emotionally abused her kids and threatened to withhold the children from their stepfather, because this colossel LIAR told you that's what she did? And you believed him?

 

He's the lying cheat who said he was divorced and lied again when he asked you to marry him, stop blaming his wife for his lies.

 

Once again you are just twsiting what is said to fit your agenda. you want to attack me and even though everything I say contradicts what you are accussing me of, it doesn't matter. As I said before if you have ever actually read my posts you would know I witnessed the suicide threats and the way she terrorized her kids in order to scare him into staying. And I am sorry, but it was pathetic. What he did does not excuse her choices. people need to take responsibility for their own actions.

 

Unlike you I actually take the time to read what you post and I am very familiar with your situation. You need to take a step back and ask yourself why if you honestly think your marriage is good now (after he cheated on you three years ago) and you have happily moved on, why do you have to come here to abuse OW? You aren't over it and you are still venting your anger at the wrong people. Try taking some of your own advice.

[whichwayisup]

As I said before if you have ever actually read my posts you would know I witnessed the suicide threats and the way she terrorized her kids in order to scare him into staying

 

Did your exMM or yourself call the authorites or let this go on infront of their kids? Seems this woman was pushed past her emotional limit and had a breakdown...a big one. Did she get on medication or did he try to take the kids away from her to protect them?

 

Either way, that's a sad situation and I hope your exMM has done some family therapy with his kids.

[annabelle75]

Did your exMM or yourself call the authorites or let this go on infront of their kids? Seems this woman was pushed past her emotional limit and had a breakdown...a big one. Did she get on medication or did he try to take the kids away from her to protect them?

 

Either way, that's a sad situation and I hope your exMM has done some family therapy with his kids.

 

Neither. I didn't want to involve myself in his family anymore than I already was. Out of guilt, he just let her get away with it. I felt horrible for the kids.

 

Based on what I have heard they have not gone to any counseling (couples, family or individual). They feel their new "arrangement" has fixed everything and they don't need it. I hope someday they all get counseling. They've been through alot and its not healthy to just sweep it under the rug like it didn't really happen.

[Cobra_X30]

Neither. I didn't want to involve myself in his family anymore than I already was. Out of guilt, he just let her get away with it. I felt horrible for the kids.

 

Based on what I have heard they have not gone to any counseling (couples, family or individual). They feel their new "arrangement" has fixed everything and they don't need it. I hope someday they all get counseling. They've been through alot and its not healthy to just sweep it under the rug like it didn't really happen.

 

Not to suggest you try to forget, but this event does not in any way define you! It happened... you took the high road. Feel secure in the fact that you are a good person and that you have learned that some men are not worth loving.

[luvmy2ns]

...why do you have to come here to abuse OW? You aren't over it and you are still venting your anger at the wrong people.

 

I too feel that you are being bashed unfairly in this instance. However, in IO's defense, when I wind up on on a thread in this category, it's because the title makes me curious and, at times, I feel I want to weigh in. For example, when a well known prostitute on this forum came out with the ludicrous thread titled something like, "Cheating can actually be good for a marriage," I just could NOT help myself.

[a4a]

Anna might want to stop and think if it is possible that what you were told by the MM is not real.

 

He lied - errr..... forgot to tell you he was married.

 

So is it possible he told his W lies too? Maybe she thinks you hounded him, forced him into the affair. Perhaps he told her you threatened him?

 

Maybe all the suicide and harming of children were lies or exaggerations too.

 

Who knows..... you only know what you actually witnessed.

 

If the MM related any of this to you or it came as a rumor - it might not be true.

 

You could have been painted as a relentless stalking crazy OW by this MM..... that is why she feels the need to fling more poo at you.

[whichwayisup]

Bottomline now - Stop looking at her myspace page...All that is going to do is drudge up memories that you do not need to remember.

[annabelle75]

I too feel that you are being bashed unfairly in this instance. However, in IO's defense, when I wind up on on a thread in this category, it's because the title makes me curious and, at times, I feel I want to weigh in. For example, when a well known prostitute on this forum came out with the ludicrous thread titled something like, "Cheating can actually be good for a marriage," I just could NOT help myself.

 

I get that. But I honestly never though I'd get bashed for saying that I sympathize with a BS. I guess with some people you could just never win. If they want to hate you and disagree with everything you say, there is nothing stopping them.

[annabelle75]

Bottomline now - Stop looking at her myspace page...All that is going to do is drudge up memories that you do not need to remember.

 

Agreed. I only looked at it once, but it was once too many. I don't need that drama in my life anymore.

 

:now focusing on trip next week with hot younger bf:

[CAT100]

 

:now focusing on trip next week with hot younger bf:

 

You go girl!! lol Have fun

[Impudent Oyster]

I witnessed the suicide threats and the way she terrorized her kids in order to scare him into staying. And I am sorry, but it was pathetic. What he did does not excuse her choices. people need to take responsibility for their own actions.

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Well. if you witnessed her suicide threats MAYBE SHE WAS SUICIDAL! I knew a BW who DID try to kill herself, it was no threat, and if you want to call her pathetic, suit yourself.

 

If you witnessed her terrorizing her kids, what did you do about it?

 

And you are so right, people DO need to take responsibility for their own actions, so stop worrying about what she writes on her Myspace page and start worrying about why you're so concerned with her and that compulsive liar she's married to. Maybe she's getting what she wants out of the marriage, maybe she doesn't care who he screws, who knows, but really, it isn't your business.