Nezero Posted September 3, 2007 Share Posted September 3, 2007 Okay overthinking this but I need a third person's opinion. Which do you think is better, asking out this person to a group activity (ie my friend is going away to Europe and we're going bowling on the 16th) or rather asking her out to something with only us. Now I guess each has it pros and cons. For the latter other than coffee what else is good for a date which is suitable for 18year olds? Anyway please reply Link to post Share on other sites
Yosef Posted September 3, 2007 Share Posted September 3, 2007 Well, I've always debated over which action to take as well. If you really want to get to know the person as an individual rather than get to knowing the person around friends, do one-on-one. Sometimes a girl/guy will act a certain way around their friends, and that could show off some wrong ideas. Maybe the guy/girl shows himself/herself to be very distant or very obsessed with how he/she looks to other people and masks the REAL them. You want to do your best to get to know a person for who they are, not for who they look like they are. If you already like the guy/girl and vice-versa (he/she likes you) then group activities would be a way to unwind and be yourselves. Other than that, do group activities just to hide that you have the crush:o:rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
ftheunion Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 Hey there. There are ways to do it both at the bowling alley, and in more private ways. If you do it in a group, it takes guts. I dunno If I got that kind of balls, but it is possible. It is just acting when there is opportunity. If you can talk to her when y'all aren't down in the action. If she walks up into the lobby area or something. If you can get her when she isn't with the group body of people. Depends on how well you two know of each other. The only time I could think of is out in the parking lot after if everyone has their own rides, it would be to akward to follow her or catch her coming back from the bathroom. So if you can get her alone, or with one or two of her female friends. Just let the conversation go on for like a half hour. If you sense it is about to end, and there is that silence or the chatter subsides for a little bit, then ask her: "Hey, is it alright if I tell you something?" Then they all sould give their attention to you, then you say: "You look nice, and I've liked you for the past 2 months" or however long. Then tell her you find her attractive. Then there should be some calm for a few seconds. Then you could say: "I'd like to take you to the movies this thursday (or whatever day) if that's ok with you" Let the post coversation be light and small talk. Make sure to face her, and look her in the face/eyes a few times during that. Look at her direction maybe down a little when you are telling her you like and she looks nice and you like her. That is what I propose for this situation. Like a parking lot on sidewalk is good and usually secluded enough. Good luck. I had to pull something like this described above in front of two of her friends, but it turned out fine, even though she wasn't interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nezero Posted September 5, 2007 Author Share Posted September 5, 2007 Okay should of made it clear. The bowling thing is for a friend from high school so it will mainly be people from my HS and his work friends. Now she's from uni so other than maybe one of my friends from HS who goes to uni she won't know any of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandra-Girl Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 WHOA... Girl from Uni should NOT go to a highschool reunion. Awkward!!! This is definitely a one-on-one circumstance. Ask her out for coffee or something - NOT a bowling party. You can't control others actions and they may make you look like a big goofball - which she will remember during impression period. Alex Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nezero Posted September 5, 2007 Author Share Posted September 5, 2007 Well I can seee what you mean. I guess I could ask her out to coffee when I see her tomorrow but we'll see, if not it looks like the bowling party. Anyway I think she already has the impression of a goofball anyway, the good way though,. Link to post Share on other sites
justice Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 Okay overthinking this but I need a third person's opinion. Which do you think is better, asking out this person to a group activity (ie my friend is going away to Europe and we're going bowling on the 16th) or rather asking her out to something with only us. Now I guess each has it pros and cons. For the latter other than coffee what else is good for a date which is suitable for 18year olds? Anyway please reply Is this a first time thing? I'd think going the group might be a great start and then afterwards suggest going out for a coke or coffee would be a nice way of getting to know them better and in seeing if they are interested. Link to post Share on other sites
ftheunion Posted September 6, 2007 Share Posted September 6, 2007 WHOA... Girl from Uni should NOT go to a highschool reunion. Awkward!!! This is definitely a one-on-one circumstance. Ask her out for coffee or something - NOT a bowling party. You can't control others actions and they may make you look like a big goofball - which she will remember during impression period. Alex Only yankees make hardcore impressions right from the start. According to skepticism, nothing can be asserted. You can doubt everything. But I agree friends could make you look dumb in that situation. That is why it is a detached occurence, aside from the main setting. The friends usually are oblivious, cause guys don't share that stuff with anybody, it just aint somethin that happens. That is sometimes why they make themselves and you look dumb in front of her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nezero Posted September 6, 2007 Author Share Posted September 6, 2007 Well here is what happen. I asked her if she's doing anything on the 16th and she said shes going to the soccer. Stupidly didn't ask what time and stuff but I checked it up and its 5PM and the bowling thing starts around 7:30pm. Though they are both around the city area. BUT I guess I should just give it a miss and do something else. Link to post Share on other sites
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