need some help over here, im in love!

[why lord why]

so, ok, im new here so hi. i dont know how to start but anyway, theres a girl at my school, dam, i like her so much,(dont get me wrong, i not gone ****it and then just dumb her) i mean everytime i see her, i go crazy! shes asian, im white. i dident talk to her yet, and she dosent know my name and i dont know her name,(its kind sucks you know)( but im staying cool you know lolz)

i badly want to ask her out, but im to shy, god dam it ! and i hate it! what shall i do, if ill go ask her out, i dont think ill be able tell her all i want to say. so anyone here who can help me? shes 1 year younger then me, well, im not ugly, not fat, i could say that im good looking, i have nice style, not gangsta style! not gay style,! im pretty trendy if i could say so. well im not selfish, far from selfish, not arrogant. dont brief at all when im at school, i am myself, but there 1 littel thing, im shy when i try to talk to (pretty) girls, by the way i dont have many friends at school only 5. even the girls tells me " your to silent" but the thing is, im not shy talking to ugly girls, but when i try to talk to pretty girls, i get stuck, totally stuck.

 

so...damn whats next?? should i go to her and just say hi.....blabla bla and ask her out? to a movie or something? maybe i should ask her friends about what she likes to do and eat?....i dont know but that girl make me crazy, hehehe....i know i sound so desperate, but theres no other girls i like. and if she says no. well thats cool too u know, lolz. ill just leave her alone.

 

so can somebody help me? just a little bit?

 

my e mail is dani90obiwan

 

thx to everyone

[Yosef]

 

Welcome to the real world. I'm new as well, very new:o

 

It's not easy talking to someone whom you've never met and want to meet more than anyone else in the world. It's hard to, you know? Of course you know.

 

Please dont feel overwhelmed by the some tips people give. I'm sure you're gonna feel uncomfortable to "just go and ask her!" Not everyone is as comfortable with the feeling as they are, and people like you and me may not be able to handle it unless it's a total confidence.

 

Maybe some... less involved tactics you could take may give you a good idea on how to make contact with her:

 

1) If you ever see her staring at you, give a little smile. You might not be able to resist if you have to look at her. When she DOES look at you, try not to look away, but keep looking and just kinda smile. Then, if she gives you a smile back, she may be interested in having you as a friend, or future lover, and it will make you feel more at ease about talking to her. Proceed to step 2 if you will.

 

2) You could actually learn her name by asking her directly. If someone wants to get to know your name, do you feel special, as if you are looked positively upon by someone else? Girls feel the same way and I recommend you could take this action, as it would also promote conversation. Of course, this could be hard for you. An alternative could be to stand near her in the morning and maybe... eavesdrop to listen for her name in conversation, and see who her friends are.

 

3) If you want, you can always ask her friends, after you find out one or two. The one she talks to more often will be the best person to ask, as both are probably very close to each other and may be willing to help you out, by giving her name, favorite activities, or something simple, just to get to know her better. Mention to the best friend that you like her (say it in any way you choose) and the best friend will either smile and be glad to tell her, or mention of a current relationship, just so you can find out before you take too big a leap.

 

4) Find a location that is a favorite spot or a common spot for her and walk up to her one morning. If it's hard, work on getting closer and closer to her every morning, turning around, and doing it again the next, until you can comfortable reach her. Don't ask her mumbo jumbo about the weather or love life. That's usually not interesting to anyone in high school or within the high school age range. Think of something that would give her an open-ended answer, rather than just a yes or no. Don't ask her if she's going out with anyone at first, as it's intruding.

 

5) If you don't really want to do #4, attempt to communicate with her by finding a common spot, as mentioned in #4. This could be at lunch, mornings, after school, w/e. You should attempt to speak to her when she is not in a busy conversation, as that is also intruding. Wait for her to be in a small group or alone, sit by her, do your homework or eat your lunch or w/e, and talk to her as if you were bored and wanted someone to talk to. She won't find it strange, and may find it nice. Maybe once you've talked to her for a time, short or long, you'll get to know her better and be willing to be around her more often, in turn becomming a friend.

 

6) Within a developed friendship, you may want to spend time with her, invite her to group activities, invite her to singular activities between the two of you, your choice. Group activities may seem to be easier on you, as singular ones may make you uncomfortable. Pace yourself and don't rush. Maybe after you've participated in a couple activities, group or no group, think about asking her out. All girls love to hear that a man is interested in her. I'm sure you would be flattered if a girl came up to you and asked you out!

 

 

Take your time and it will be easier for you to make a relationship.

[why lord why]

hello, thx for all dose tips, but the thing is,i dont see her at school very often, i mean the school is pretty big, shes on the other side of school, i see her 1 time in a school day, so its pretty hard to walk to her, by the way she dont hang around with many firends, so maybe thats good:D, im going to school in about 1 hour, ill see what i can do:D and yes im not gone rush.

[why lord why]

well, as i see, she leaves 500m away from my house, she and take the same bus as me, so, im going for it? anyone know how to start the conversation? while we are waiting for the buss.?

[Yosef]

Well, I could think of a few tactics, so long as assigned seating doesn't apply to your bus:

 

Do you get on the bus earlier than most to get your seat? Go later and if the bus is full enough, and you cant find any good seats, sit next to her (if she's alone, of course). Ask her if you can sit down with her, being polite, making sure you're not invading her personal space. If she says Yes, go ahead and sit down. Ask her what her name is, how she likes school so far, etc.

 

If the bus is quite empty, take a seat adjacent to hers, but dont exactly sit down next to her yet. If she's not with someone, try and make simple conversations like said above. Don't try to be showy or anything. Pretend you're bored. "I wish it would rain soon" (say as if saying it to yourself outloud). "[insert Name], do you like the rain? (bring her into the topic. Space the two phrases out about two or three seconds. If you don't know her name yet, then that can be a conversation starter.

 

If she sits with someone, and if they talk to each other, they could be friends. If the girl leaves first and the friend is dropped off later, talk to the friend. Ask her what her name is, and what the girl's name is that you're interested. You don't have to mention that you like her or anything. Maybe, if you're up to it, ask the friend some questions you have regarding the girl. Only ask this if the friend is nice or doesn't mind answering the other two questions. If she hesitates, that means she isn't interested in talking with you, or with you at the moment.

 

If, in the worst case scenario, you get off before the friend or the girl, then you'll have to take measures that you may be uncomfortable with. You'll actually have to go up to her the next time you see her and ask for her name in person, wether in the bus under the hard circumstances or at school when you might see her. This will be a harder resort to take but have confidence in yourself.

 

Confidence is Key.

[why lord why]

thx a lot for tips and help, i take the buss before her, and the bus its pretty empty, shes not with any friends on the buss, by the way, i change 2 busses. when im getting of the first buss, we both are heading to the next buss. and we wait like 5 min for the buss, and that buss is completely full, and we dont sit on seats. but i think im gone try talking to her while we are waiting for the buss nr 2. or?

[Yosef]

thx a lot for tips and help, i take the buss before her, and the bus its pretty empty, shes not with any friends on the buss, by the way, i change 2 busses. when im getting of the first buss, we both are heading to the next buss. and we wait like 5 min for the buss, and that buss is completely full, and we dont sit on seats. but i think im gone try talking to her while we are waiting for the buss nr 2. or?

 

That sounds like a fantastic idea. If you want, you can still take the advice for the first bus. When you walk to your next bus, and while you're waiting, you might catch up to her or walk near her and maybe start a little conversation if you're up for it.

 

I wish you the best of luck.