ladies what do think i shoud do?

[sneak]

ok here's my story. My girl and i broke up about 3 weeks ago from a 1 1/2 relationship due to the fact she wanted to be single (in other words another guy). Just a little background we did have good relationship even i think she would say that. are biggest problem was i was so sick of clubbin', drinking, etc. and she wasn't. You see she never got to truly live that part of her life and i do understand how important living that part of your can be. I do believe she love me, but she feels she has to do this. I do admit I wasn't the best boyfriend around, due to the fact i was so into making my career happen. so i did negect her, and our relationship, but that's the only real mistake i ever made. I would say home and study and she would go out clubbin'. Just to get a better understanding of where we were, we where planning to get married, (her idea) so i figure i was working for our future. (boy was i wrong!)

She wasn't the best at communicating her feels (seriously) I would have to work on her for hours just to have her express a little of her feelings. so i didn't pick up any warning signs or red flag that the relationship was going south.

 

Before the break up there was 2 week of her being torn on what to do, one minute she was loving the next she acting distance. Up and down for 2 week, i know it wasn't easy for her to make a chose. Like most guys when i started to realize thing were going bad i was the perfect boyfriend, but of course it was to late. We the break up happen it was over the phone, and i didn't fight it i just read off a list of everything i was will to give her and what she was giving up and made her say "yes i understand to each one". She did start to cry, so i know it got to her. she told me, "this could be the biggest mistake i ever make, but i have to do it".It end with me saying "l want you to know I understand, and i do love you and i hope one day you understand how good we had it". i said goodbye and hung up..

 

It ended well...

I haven't talked to her sense.. but she did call me once after 2 week, but i didn't pick up and she didn't leave a message.

Now she's in a rebound relationship (or dating this guy) i really don't know, but he's all into clubbin', parties, etc.

 

I do love her.. And a part of me wants her back.

 

So my first question is if she sees me with another woman would i be burning the chance of ever getting her back?

 

Second, do i call her like after 4 months or never call her ever again and just see if she ever calls me?

 

with the first question i just wanna move on, but i still want to work it out if possible. And most likely i will be taking any new girl clubbin' etc and i would probably run into her. so would it mess up any chance that i had? Also, if she find outs i'm dating someone though friends or something will this mess up my chance too?

 

thanks you ladies for taking the time to read this i hope you can help me do the right thing.

[KneelBeforeZod]

OK well I'm a guy but I can try and help out!

 

First off, you guys are through, right? She's dating someone else right? She made her decision right? No matter how teary-eyed she was, she cut you loose. So that means you are totally free to go out with whoever you want. In fact, that's the best thing you can do -- maybe it's a little to early for a real relationship but you can go out and have fun with girls. Just don't abuse them or lead them into thinking you're ready for more than you actually are, naturally. By going out and actually taking the risk of running into your ex, you're telling yourself that you have nothing to lose, and that will do wonders for your self esteem at this time. Don't worry about her.

 

I would wait for her to call you, and if that happens, I'd still be wary. It sounds like you did everything right, and maybe even more so if she's so closed up about her feelings. There are girls out there that are just as fun and attractive as her that actually can communicate. Hang in there!

[sneak]

i kinda wish i didn't use that title "Ladies what do you think?" i want everyone's input not just women. Cool, i'm planning to do just that hang out with women and do what want to do. I always was the grounded one in the relationship (mental, emotional, etc.) the more and more i think about she's going to crash and burns emotional, because she just got's way to many issue deeply seeded in her. I can't even begin to tell how emotional F up this girls is. Don't get me wrong she's good person and all, but she lacks the most important part of life.. simple loving yourself...

I honestly kinda feel sorry for her.. Problems always caught up with us in life, all the party's, drinking, partners, can never fill that void... That's true for all of us.. She's just going to just have to find out the hard way. I'm only on week 3, but i had a high self esteem for the being, so even though i loved this girl more than anything i'm getting over it pretty quick.

So thanks KneelBefore i hope whatever brought you to this site is working out for you..

thanks for your post...

 

And to all the people out there going through this great lesson in life remember this....

 

The fastest way to get over a person is loving yourself.. Ask yourself..

 

"Why do I expect (persons name) to give me my happiness??

 

really think about it and you'll find your void.

 

Real happiness can never be given to you by someone else, it's something only YOU can give to yourself.

 

Also, remember the best revenge is living well..