how do guys look at women with flat chest/small breast?

[ElvenPriestess]

Height and chest have nothing in relation. Men like the size of breasts when they think with their hormones. And not all guys I might add. Men who care about it need to get their priorities straight.

[Green]

I didnt mean they were related I was just trying to come up with a comparising of something the sexs find apealing about eachother. The comparison was women suposedly find height attractive and men suposedly find nice breast attractive... so they are just things people find attractive.

[ElvenPriestess]

I suppose, but women like height on men mostly for security reasons. Breasts being big. What does that accomplish?

[cj1988]

I am 41 and have a B' cup....I am 5' 6" and 120 ponuds. I LOVE my brests because all my friends complain about sagging, indentions in the shoulder etc.....Mine do not sag AT ALL and I can even go bra less when I want to and it does not look bad or trashly ! Love your small breasts, when you are my age you will appreciate them even more !

[blind_otter]

It's so funny to be so invested in physical appearance when there's nothing static about how you look. WE are constantly changing, aging, nothing can stop it (aside from artificial surgical intervention and even then results are iffy). Being pregnant has really made me confront my issues about my body. I worry about how I will change, how I'm already changing. My breasts look 100% different now than they did 2 months ago.

[Dboo103]

I'm the complete opposite I have really big boobs DD and I hate it! I'm very insecure with them and always try to cover them up. Be happy with what you have!

[Florida]

If I made the title of this post it would be :

 

Who cares what kind of boobs guys like!

[Green]

u do enough to enter this thread. and tons of women aparently care about their boobs

[fral945]

I would say boobs are the femal equivelent of height for a man. Sure theres women out there who dont care how tall their man is or like tall men but fell in love with a short man, well thats how id describe boobs, sorta

 

KMT, I think you are on to something. Can any of the women on this board honestly say that if you had to choose between two men, one say 5'-7" and the other 6'-0", with similar physical features (other than height) and personalities, that you wouldn't pick the 6 footer?

 

Same for men. If there are two women, one a C or D cup and one an A or B cup, all other things being fairly equal, which one would you choose? It's a no brainer, I'd pick the C or D.

 

I have to laugh at some of the online dating sites I've been on. There are some women out there that specify they are only looking for men 6'-0" or taller. The funny thing to me is that some put no upper limit on height. So apparently they would date a man 7'-6". If they had a breast size requirement on those sites, I bet there would be a number of men who would use that. They probably wouldn't get any dates, though, lol.

 

Most women like men to at least be a certain height and most men like women to have breasts at least a certain size. Neither one is necessary, obviously, but these preferences do exist. I think there's probably an upper limit though, for most people. I can't imagine many women wanting to date a man that is 7'-0" or many men wanting to date a woman with FF cup breasts (though I would, lol).

 

There is a reason these types of stereotypes exist, because there is some truth to them. Otherwise, there wouldn't be discussions about this that yield so much feedback. Yes, there are exceptions, but if we are talking majorities, I think the stereotypes hold true.

[ElvenPriestess]

Most women like men to at least be a certain height and most men like women to have breasts at least a certain size. Neither one is necessary, obviously, but these preferences do exist. I think there's probably an upper limit though, for most people. I can't imagine many women wanting to date a man that is 7'-0" or many men wanting to date a woman with FF cup breasts (though I would, lol).

 

You seem to be assuming that those preferences can be categorized. As if all men like thin women perhaps? I can tell you I know men who only like women who are quite heavy. How can you say that men would take large breasted women over smaller breasted women if given the choice? Just like a woman just might prefer the 5'7 guy because 6' might not be her taste. You can't say that men will pick the C or D over the A or B. There are many guys out there who feel that, and I'll quote "a handful is just right." You are stereotyping. And the reason women are on here is yes, there is care about breasts, because too many men are shallow, and make women feel as if it's the first thing that matters. So you can't blame the women who support the OP, blame the men who put the thought in her head that she had to care in the first place.

[Stockalone]

And the reason women are on here is yes, there is care about breasts, because too many men are shallow, and make women feel as if it's the first thing that matters. So you can't blame the women who support the OP, blame the men who put the thought in her head that she had to care in the first place.

 

 

We all have certain preferences and are attracted by different things. From a distance, there is no way to tell whether or not the other person has a great personality. However, we can tell if we like what we see. The first attraction is physical. Some men will look for large breasts, others will look for a petite woman, some will take a closer look at the butt, the list goes on.

 

Physical attraction is somewhat shallow but I don't think there is a substitution. Personality can enhance or diminish the initial interest quite a bit but I don't think that there is a way around the physical attraction.

 

Why is a man who likes bigger breasts more shallow than the guys with other preferences?

[IpAncA]

 

Why is a man who likes bigger breasts more shallow than the guys with other preferences?

 

Their not. Shallow is shallow in my book no matter what it is.

[Stockalone]

Their not. Shallow is shallow in my book no matter what it is.

 

I consider all of us to be shallow in that regard. People are different and what each of us finds attractive is subject to personal preferences. For example, I do like women with a bit of meat on their bones and with bigger boobs. I am just not attracted to the petite women with smaller boobs. For other men, it's just the opposite.

[fral945]

How can you say that men would take large breasted women over smaller breasted women if given the choice? Just like a woman just might prefer the 5'7 guy because 6' might not be her taste.

 

Are you telling me with everything else between the 2 guys things being equal (looks, personality, money, etc.), that you would not choose the guy who is 6' tall? I find that hard to believe. If it's true, you are in a small minority.

 

I'm making a generalization. I don't understand what is wrong with that. Do you not make generalizations about people you meet, the food you buy, the places you shop, etc.? Just because everyone doesn't fit into a category doesn't mean we shouldn't make generalizations. I know everyone has their quirks (including me), but that's seems unreasonable to say we shouldn't make stereotypes or generalizations because one person is different. I can't think of a stereotype or generalization that applies to 100% of the population.

 

It doesn't mean all men like skinny women with big boobs. It just means that if you took 1000 guys and showed them a lineup of different types of women, if I had to guess, I would say that's what the majority would choose. It's a fact of life that people have preferences one way or the other about things, and unless it is split 50/50, there will always be people who prefer one over the other.

 

I'm not blaming any women for anything, I'm not sure where you got that idea. I know not all men like big boobs. I also know that not all women require a man to be 6' tall, which is good news for me (since I'm only 5'-9"). But I do know that if a woman was choosing between me and another taller guy (everything else being equal) she'd probably pick the taller guy.

 

Same for money, if another guy made more money than me, and everything else between us is equal, why wouldn't the women go for the man who makes more money? Just a fact of life.

[xpinksoda]

I have small breasts and I used to be very insecure about them. I thought I would be so much more pretty if they where just bigger. But then I met a great guy who loved everything about my breasts.

 

I must admit though, even today I still look in the mirror and start to worry about my size, but then I just talk to my very-accepting boyfriend and he makes it all better.

 

The only suggestion I have is to try to accept yourself for who you are. Even if you can't do it 100% - I'm sure you will find a great guy who will make you feel better about yourself.

[annieo]

I am definitely on the small side (36 A, 5'6" tall, about 135 lbs.) and have had moments where I feel like if I were bigger, I'd be more attractive.

But I've had more than a few lovers, married twice, and never felt like a man rejected me because of my breasts (probably because the ones who require bigger didn't look at me twice lol!!)

My h has been with women of all sizes, and he says that what gets him going is sensitivity, not just the look. The worst lay he ever had was with a bigger-breasted girl, who was unrelaxed in bed and super-self-conscious, gimmicky. He dumped her within 2 weeks, just before we met.

I have extremely sensitive breasts - have often thought that if I end up numb from the waist down from some horrible accident, that my nipples will very easily stand in for my clit .

About 5 or so years ago, when it seemed like everyone was getting a boob job, I considered it, but what scared me was the possibility of losing the sensation (plus scarring, weird lumpiness, anesthetic issues, death!!!). Plus, I'd feel like a fake, the same way I feel when I wear a bra with a little too much enhancing.

So I am happily reconciled to my perky dimensions. As I get older (and they stay in more or less the same spot on my chest) I am positively grateful.

[ElvenPriestess]

We all have certain preferences and are attracted by different things. From a distance, there is no way to tell whether or not the other person has a great personality. However, we can tell if we like what we see. The first attraction is physical. Some men will look for large breasts, others will look for a petite woman, some will take a closer look at the butt, the list goes on.

 

Physical attraction is somewhat shallow but I don't think there is a substitution. Personality can enhance or diminish the initial interest quite a bit but I don't think that there is a way around the physical attraction.

 

Why is a man who likes bigger breasts more shallow than the guys with other preferences?

 

No, what I meant was a guy who would make that grounds for dismissing someone on sight is shallow. Your point is well taken and I agree with you. All I was trying to say from my other reply is that no woman or man can be stereotyped as one way or the other, and that it's not right to make a woman feel like she needs a dangerous operation to have men's attention whatsoever. You can agree with that right?

[ElvenPriestess]

Are you telling me with everything else between the 2 guys things being equal (looks, personality, money, etc.), that you would not choose the guy who is 6' tall? I find that hard to believe. If it's true, you are in a small minority.

 

I'm making a generalization. I don't understand what is wrong with that. Do you not make generalizations about people you meet, the food you buy, the places you shop, etc.? Just because everyone doesn't fit into a category doesn't mean we shouldn't make generalizations. I know everyone has their quirks (including me), but that's seems unreasonable to say we shouldn't make stereotypes or generalizations because one person is different. I can't think of a stereotype or generalization that applies to 100% of the population.

 

It doesn't mean all men like skinny women with big boobs. It just means that if you took 1000 guys and showed them a lineup of different types of women, if I had to guess, I would say that's what the majority would choose. It's a fact of life that people have preferences one way or the other about things, and unless it is split 50/50, there will always be people who prefer one over the other.

 

I'm not blaming any women for anything, I'm not sure where you got that idea. I know not all men like big boobs. I also know that not all women require a man to be 6' tall, which is good news for me (since I'm only 5'-9"). But I do know that if a woman was choosing between me and another taller guy (everything else being equal) she'd probably pick the taller guy.

 

Same for money, if another guy made more money than me, and everything else between us is equal, why wouldn't the women go for the man who makes more money? Just a fact of life.

 

My apologies, I was not trying to come across as though you were blaming anybody for being who they are. All I'm saying is that there is so much more to life than a guys height or a woman's chest. I've dated men who were 5'5 and men who were 5'10 and 6'0. For me as long as they're taller than me, I'm happy. (I suppose I'm a bit shallow as I prefer to look UP at a guy rather than DOWN to him.) I guess I prefer to think that all women have their own attractiveness in one way or the other. And that no one thing or another thing can dictate that all the way around. Hop that clarifies. I am sorry, I re-read my post and I was a bit harsh.

[ElvenPriestess]

I am definitely on the small side (36 A, 5'6" tall, about 135 lbs.) and have had moments where I feel like if I were bigger, I'd be more attractive.

But I've had more than a few lovers, married twice, and never felt like a man rejected me because of my breasts (probably because the ones who require bigger didn't look at me twice lol!!)

My h has been with women of all sizes, and he says that what gets him going is sensitivity, not just the look. The worst lay he ever had was with a bigger-breasted girl, who was unrelaxed in bed and super-self-conscious, gimmicky. He dumped her within 2 weeks, just before we met.

I have extremely sensitive breasts - have often thought that if I end up numb from the waist down from some horrible accident, that my nipples will very easily stand in for my clit .

About 5 or so years ago, when it seemed like everyone was getting a boob job, I considered it, but what scared me was the possibility of losing the sensation (plus scarring, weird lumpiness, anesthetic issues, death!!!). Plus, I'd feel like a fake, the same way I feel when I wear a bra with a little too much enhancing.

So I am happily reconciled to my perky dimensions. As I get older (and they stay in more or less the same spot on my chest) I am positively grateful.

 

You're husband and mine seem the same. I'm 5'2 and a 34B, and he has also been with women of different shapes and sizes. He says that he doesn't find size as a factor for liking more or less, as much as how everything fits together. I too think that anybody considering implants would be making a mistake in SO many ways. Love what you said annieo.

[fral945]

I am sorry, I re-read my post and I was a bit harsh.

 

No problem, makes for entertaining discussion. You're right, there's a lot more to people than just their physical features. The overall package is what wins most people over (me included).

[Trialbyfire]

Hopefully, everyone can agree that what matters more, isn't what someone else sees as attractive, but how you perceive yourself. Self-image, confidence and acceptance in who you are. If you feel you need to lose a few pounds or get fit, do it, but do it for yourself. Never get cosmetic surgery for someone else. You've now taken on someone else's issues. No thanks.

 

Cosmetic surgery solely for something as meaningless as a set of breasts, I will never understand. As I've previously stated in this thread, if some man feels I'm not the right size or shape, too bad. I will personally escort him to the exit and provide the forward momentum via stiletto-power.

[ElvenPriestess]

Hopefully, everyone can agree that what matters more, isn't what someone else sees as attractive, but how you perceive yourself. Self-image, confidence and acceptance in who you are. If you feel you need to lose a few pounds or get fit, do it, but do it for yourself. Never get cosmetic surgery for someone else. You've now taken on someone else's issues. No thanks.

 

Cosmetic surgery solely for something as meaningless as a set of breasts, I will never understand. As I've previously stated in this thread, if some man feels I'm not the right size or shape, too bad. I will personally escort him to the exit and provide the forward momentum via stiletto-power.

 

Exactly! Perfectly stated, it is very meaningless. Love the last line too TBF;)

[Stockalone]

No, what I meant was a guy who would make that grounds for dismissing someone on sight is shallow. Your point is well taken and I agree with you. All I was trying to say from my other reply is that no woman or man can be stereotyped as one way or the other, and that it's not right to make a woman feel like she needs a dangerous operation to have men's attention whatsoever. You can agree with that right?

 

 

Trying to talk somebody into an operation is insane. But I also never understood why people would consider changing, let alone think about an operation, just to please somebody else.

[ElvenPriestess]

Exactly. I maintain that any woman can easily get an operation, bad idea, and just as easily can wait for someone who would never want that for them. It is unfortunate that many women today feel that they have to have an expensive and dangerous operation to "fit in." It's just not the case.

[Florida]

KMT, I think you are on to something. Can any of the women on this board honestly say that if you had to choose between two men, one say 5'-7" and the other 6'-0", with similar physical features (other than height) and personalities, that you wouldn't pick the 6 footer?

 

I can honestly say given both all things being more or less equal, I'd prefer the 5"8-9" , especially if his face was more beautiful than the taller guy. Given equal personality traits (if there ever was such a thing!-but just for the sake of argument)