Ladybug313 Posted April 6, 2003 Share Posted April 6, 2003 Please help me to avoid the things I have to do this weekend. (general quest) 1. "It took me (insert time) to get over my past relationship. But I think a lot of it also had to do with the fact that someone like you came along. " Good sign? Or proceed with caution sign? After reading some of the cases here hmm.... (snippet of past conversation) 2. "My parents think you seem cool. I talked to them about you, see. My older brother thinks you're great for someone to date too...yeah. He really likes you.." Drifts off. Says nothing. Ok that's nice...um. So..what then? Was I supposed to say something then? Was the guy implying something? (another snippet of past online talk with 'buddy' -- happen to still have it. You can see how ridiculous I was back then. tee hee) 3. -Me: "where is this all leading? What's happening here?" -"Buddy": "Are you interested in me?" -Me (thinking whoa!): "um..um..I..I don't know. why..." -"Buddy": "Do you want to be in a relationship with me?" -Me: "um..I don't know..Do you?" -"Buddy": (pause) "I don't think it's the right timing. I am leaving for boarding school soon and my parents don't want me to date right now. I'm sorry." -Me: "why are you sorry? it's ok." -"Buddy" well ok. I gotta go now. I'll call you later. Bye. " About 2 months later back to this topic. ( and within those two months I realized I DID like him. A lot) -Buddy: "You felt this way but you didn't know then?" -Me: "I was confused." -Buddy: "You know if you had told me you were interested I would have answered differently about the relationship part..." -Me: "yeah...well, thanks for listening. I just thought I'd let you know. And I am glad things are going great with your girlfriend at school." -Buddy: " Well thanks for letting me know. I appreciate it. I'm just sorry this didn't work out." And we gradually lost touch when we went to college. Would he have really answered differently if I had said I was interested? Was he scared? My inability to act/ sense probably kept me from experiencing a nice relationship. Or am I being dumb and they were just yanking me around and playing word games? This is past stuff and they are both gone, but I figured I'd bring it up here. I am just curious as to what you guys think. Have a nice day. Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted April 7, 2003 Share Posted April 7, 2003 Sometimes guys say things to not hurt another's feelings. I wouldn't worry about analyzing it anymore. It's overwith, and you've both moved on. It could go either way here, and I don't see how it's worth caring about... Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 7, 2003 Share Posted April 7, 2003 Looking back is a total waste of time. Carpe Diem...seize the day. That is, take advantage of every moment, take risks, seek what you want, do what you feel you must do in your heart, and take the word "regret" out of your vocabulary. Link to post Share on other sites
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