Yosef Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 I want to build more enthusiasm, if it's possible. I'm not often surprised and I almost never look forward to anything. Is there a way I can fix this? I've recently been hanging out with my youth group, full of enthusiastic people, and I feel so out of place when someone asks "Are you excited about this?" Well, no, not necessarily. I usually reply with "Not really. I usually don't get worked up over anything." Then they ask "Why not?" And then I always feel I need an excuse and it always turns out stupid. I don't know in reality why I don't have a lot of enthusiasm for activities, but im afraid it's going to negatively affect me somehow later on. So how could I raise some enthusiasm? Is it possible or does it soley rely on my own personality and there's nothing to naturally change it? I'm always a very composed person. It's a good thing, but is that something that could inhibit my enthusiasm? Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 I want to build more enthusiasm, if it's possible. I'm not often surprised and I almost never look forward to anything. Is there a way I can fix this? I've recently been hanging out with my youth group, full of enthusiastic people, and I feel so out of place when someone asks "Are you excited about this?" Well, no, not necessarily. I usually reply with "Not really. I usually don't get worked up over anything." Then they ask "Why not?" And then I always feel I need an excuse and it always turns out stupid. I don't know in reality why I don't have a lot of enthusiasm for activities, but im afraid it's going to negatively affect me somehow later on. So how could I raise some enthusiasm? Is it possible or does it soley rely on my own personality and there's nothing to naturally change it? I'm always a very composed person. It's a good thing, but is that something that could inhibit my enthusiasm? I'm the same way. I use to have enthrusiasm for things but over time I don't know why I don't. I'm not sure how you can build enthusiasm because not everyone gets excited over anything. Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulearth83 Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 Maybe helping others get excited about things will help you get excited about things Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted September 6, 2007 Share Posted September 6, 2007 Used to I had enthusiasm for lots of things and activities, especially the fact I've always had the mental energy for it. Generally I'm always an optimistic person, but my enthusiasm has been missing for awhile now. And I often do miss having my enthusiasm when I need it most, because I might come off uninterested or bored in social situations or at work. Sometimes when one is stressed or mentally exhausted, it often kills enthusiasm. Another reason is due to one's personality, are they a pessimist/bitter? And mostly it is due to age, the more wisdom you acquire from your environment, the more you know and the less you are fascinated by certain things. As for curing it, they say attitude is contagious. Perhaps surround yourself with people who are always enthusiastic and it should work for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yosef Posted September 6, 2007 Author Share Posted September 6, 2007 And I often do miss having my enthusiasm when I need it most, because I might come off uninterested or bored in social situations or at work. That's what I fear sometimes. When I'm hanging out with the two girls I like most in the world, they can get so excited about something, but I'm there, unfascinated, and I'm afraid of them considering me boring or no fun. And mostly it is due to age, the more wisdom you acquire from your environment, the more you know and the less you are fascinated by certain things. I guess the lack of enthusiasm comes with being ready for whatever life throws at you. As for curing it, they say attitude is contagious. Perhaps surround yourself with people who are always enthusiastic and it should work for you. Thanks for answering these questions for me. I guess theres still a side of me I've still yet to discover, and thats what I come to you all for. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 6, 2007 Share Posted September 6, 2007 I usualy have to hold back my true enthusiasm for things dont want to come off as a loser so i play it cool but damn I get so exited about stuff some times I cant fall asleep the night before a big event or what ever. I say the key to enthusiasm is to build up big, like say you are sending a script you wrote to a contest keep imagining ur going to win the prize, or if your working out keep braging to yourself about your progress at the gym or what ever, stuff like that. I have a page of events I started so I can remember them as they come up and I psyche myself for the events and parties Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 I think the root of enthusiasm comes from genuine want/desire. When we're kids if we want a video game or something we've seen in the street, we show a lot of enthusiasum. if we dont get it we become brats, if we get it we explode with happiness. Desire can come in the form of doing something, seeing something/someone, goals/motivation/ambition. I find it is often hard to be enthused about something if we dont care for it, or have little interest - the end result is we wind up being passive or laid back on the situation. Which is where assertiveness comes into play. A positive outlook on life, remaining socially and physically active can improve enthusiasm...the more life reacts to you, the more you react to it, hopefully positive. Laughter releases endorphins in your brain (a feel good chemical), which is another reason to surround yourself with positive people. Link to post Share on other sites
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