Hey guys would this surprise you?

[keet]

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 9 years and it's been over 6+ years since we've truly been out on a date, and all night. We've had two kids who are 4 and 5.

 

With many long lasting relationships things get to the comfortable stage, and especially after one has kids.

 

I have been planning this night - next Saturday - for two weeks now and I want to know what the guys think or how they would feel if this happened to them.

 

On Saturday, I am leaving the house at 2:30 to go grocery shopping, or so I will tell my guy. In all actuality, I have reserved a hotel room with a jacuzzi and will be checking in, and also getting dressed for our dinner later.

 

At 4:30 p.m. a driver with a sedan will show up at our home to pick up my hubby. The driver will tell him that I've sent him to pick him up and to leave the kids with our friends next door. The driver is not to tell where he is taking him too.

 

When they arrive at the hotel and when my hubby is exiting the vehicle, the driver will hand him a note that says "Go to front desk and tell them your name is XXX"

 

He will go to the front desk and they will give him the key and tell him which room to go to. When he gets to the room, I will not be there. I will be at the salon getting my hair done in a sultry style.

 

In the room, his suit will be laid out on the bed and all his toiletries will be there. I've written him a long, sweet letter but since he is dyslexic I've recorded this letter on to voice recorder and there will be a note attached to it telling him to press play. At the end of the note it tells him to get dressed and meet me in the restaurant downstairs at 7 p.m.

 

I will arrive a little later in a black dress I've just bought and my hair all done up.

 

We will have dinner and then take a walk on the beach, perhaps stopping in a little tapa bar for a drink.

 

When we get back to the hotel, I will put on some romantic music and have a few dances with him and have a few glasses of champagne. I will also blindfold him and give him a nice massage, one that he keeps asking me for but doesn't get too often. When he takes off his blindfold, he will see then the lingerie I am wearing. Hmm, think we all know what may happen then.

 

To end the night, we will have a jacuzzi together.

 

Would this surprise you guys? What more details could I add to make it more wonderful?

[Scrivdog]

You see - now that's what I'm talking about! That's perfect, kiddo! Don't even sweat the details. Your lucky man is going to be 1000% thrilled you think of him this way and that you're willing to show it.

 

One warning: keep this kind of thing up and you'll be growing old together you two.

 

I hope you LS ladies are taking notes here. Do what the OP did - and 99.9% of your marriage issues go away. And your guy will be immunized against affair bait for good.

 

Either that or you can just spend another day where you emerge from yet another "my husband is such a drag" session with your Starbucks shrews and get the usual Cosmo, Redbook, Oprah magazine - plus a coupon booklet for 10 marriage counselor sessions to figure out a way to get your man to put up with even more of your bullsh*t.

[johan]

Would it surprise me if someone were to do that for me? Yes, I'd be completely shocked.

[a4a]

Keet that is awesome and so thoughtful!

 

Scriv- nothing like going taking such a wonderful thing and being able to turn it into a pissy bitter post........ you must be a dream to hang out with! :lmao: Are you still single?

 

Do you poop on everything?

[Scrivdog]

Keet that is awesome and so thoughtful!

 

Scriv- nothing like going taking such a wonderful thing and being able to turn it into a pissy bitter post........ you must be a dream to hang out with! :lmao: Are you still single?

 

Do you poop on everything?

I was being mighty supportive. Hit a nerve now, did I?

[Lizzie60]

This is a wonderful idea... I'm sure he'll be stunned and very happy.

 

I am just hoping you two can do that more often... doesn't have to be so elaborate every time.

 

In order to last, a couple has to do dates to keep it alive... LOL

 

Good luck... keep us informed...

 

Would I be surprised? Of course, I love surprises.. that would be awesome.

[Woggle]

This is what I am talking about. He will very much appreciate this and I hope one day he returns the favor.

 

I will refrain from my usual woggleness.

[a4a]

I was being mighty supportive. Hit a nerve now, did I?

 

no neve hit on me you just pooped in the middle of a beautiful thing for the OP IMHO...... bitter boy.....

 

:lmao:

 

My M is going perfectly at the moment thanks to my complete and utter control and bitchiness! Demand and punish!

[keet]

no neve hit on me you just pooped in the middle of a beautiful thing for the OP IMHO...... bitter boy.....

 

:lmao:

 

My M is going perfectly at the moment thanks to my complete and utter control and bitchiness! Demand and punish!

 

I didn't take ScrivDog's post as being negative. Actually, I have to agree in some ways. Unfortunately, there are too many women out there who want more romance, who complain about their spouse's lack of housecleaning, etc. Being a woman, I've heard other women's conversations

 

I don't nag my hubby about the housecleaning. He owns a roofing company and it is not a clean job. He messes up the floor, the bathroom, etc. But I will not and have not nagged him because he works very, very hard.

 

As for romance, sure, what women doesn't want it. But perhaps, instead of complaining about it, initiate it. My hubby could be more romantic but if I initiate something, perhaps that just may trigger something in him. Perhaps not in a drastic measure, but I think it will surely show him that I love him and to see the smile on his face each day is enough to make me know that I made him happy.

 

I now have a regular babysitter and date nights will happen more often after this Saturday. We both need to get out together more.

[Woggle]

Your husband is a very lucky man.

[keet]

BTW, sure I'd have loved for him to surprise me with something like this. But guess what? I've been more excited planning this for him than I would be to have this happen to me. I've hardly slept in two weeks because of thinking of new and better details to add. I can hardly wait!

[dropdeadlegs]

It all sounds very cool to me.

 

Somehow I don't think my man would get into the sedan which would really throw a stick in my spokes if I were trying something like this. I don't want to be a downer, but I have learned to expect some problems with my seemingly perfect plans. Otherwise I get so disappointed that my well-scripted ideal didn't work out the way I envisioned it.

 

I hope you have a wonderful evening that goes off without a hitch!

[Woggle]

Be prepared to be called a doormat by feminists who somehow think you are degrading yourself.

[a4a]

I didn't take ScrivDog's post as being negative. Actually, I have to agree in some ways. Unfortunately, there are too many women out there who want more romance, who complain about their spouse's lack of housecleaning, etc. Being a woman, I've heard other women's conversations

 

I don't nag my hubby about the housecleaning. He owns a roofing company and it is not a clean job. He messes up the floor, the bathroom, etc. But I will not and have not nagged him because he works very, very hard.

 

As for romance, sure, what women doesn't want it. But perhaps, instead of complaining about it, initiate it. My hubby could be more romantic but if I initiate something, perhaps that just may trigger something in him. Perhaps not in a drastic measure, but I think it will surely show him that I love him and to see the smile on his face each day is enough to make me know that I made him happy.

 

I now have a regular babysitter and date nights will happen more often after this Saturday. We both need to get out together more.

 

 

Well thats great!

 

I take it you are home with the kids?

[a4a]

It all sounds very cool to me.

 

Somehow I don't think my man would get into the sedan which would really throw a stick in my spokes if I were trying something like this. I don't want to be a downer, but I have learned to expect some problems with my seemingly perfect plans. Otherwise I get so disappointed that my well-scripted ideal didn't work out the way I envisioned it.

 

I hope you have a wonderful evening that goes off without a hitch!

 

Not get in the car? What is the mafia after him or something? :p

[JamesM]

BTW, sure I'd have loved for him to surprise me with something like this. But guess what? I've been more excited planning this for him than I would be to have this happen to me. I've hardly slept in two weeks because of thinking of new and better details to add. I can hardly wait!

 

 

Would I be surprised? Yes. Would I like it? Maybe...not being a party pooper, but my nature is one that likes things known and not an unknown evening. I like to know what is going to happen. So, for me to have some driver pick me up and take me to a motel where I read a note, etc...well, for me this is not as enjoyable as for other men.

 

So, the real question is....does your husband like surprises? IF he does, then I can say with guarantee that he will like it. I think it is a great plan....but for me, I would like to know more (not necessarily all) of those details and then I would enjoy it more. Me...half of the fun is the anticipation as you are experiencing now.

 

BTW, my wife would be thrilled if I did such a thing. Actually, for her 30th b-day, I did something similar...not quite as many details as your plan. She loved it.

 

So, yes, I would be surprised, and if I liked an evening of unknown thrills waiting for me, I would love it.

[Scrivdog]

Trust me. He's not going to care about the details. He's going to see you all dolled up for him for the night, the black dress - and I'm pretty sure the limo and the meal could all suck and he won't even notice. I sure as hell wouldn't.

 

Being like this with him after 9 years officially makes you a one hundred percent keeper!

[dropdeadlegs]

Not get in the car? What is the mafia after him or something? :p

 

Would I be surprised? Yes. Would I like it? Maybe...not being a party pooper, but my nature is one that likes things known and not an unknown evening. I like to know what is going to happen. So, for me to have some driver pick me up and take me to a motel where I read a note, etc...well, for me this is not as enjoyable as for other men.

No mafia hitmen that I am aware of, but I can't see my BF getting into a car with a stranger to go places unknown. It would be far better if he knew the driver, then he would probably go along. He's more like James M. He needs to have some knowledge about expectations.

 

No party-pooping here either, but that one detail would throw off everything else if I tried this.

 

Now if this was reversed, I would definitely be thrilled, yet I don't think all men have the same ideas of what is romantic as many women do.

 

My man doesn't own a suit and wouldn't wear one under any circumstance, not his own wedding or his father's funeral, so we are obviously talking about two very different men to begin with. keet knows her man and what he will do. I still say be prepared for a possibly huge hitch in this scenario to avoid disappointment. Romantic ideas have rarely gone as planned in my experience.

 

It's always best to have a backup plan.

[VIP]

I think everything is wonderful, except a long romantic letter. In my opinion, even though it's important to let the man know that you love him, but it's still necessary to keep him guessing. If I was doing it, I would have a plan in my mind, but I would let him take the initiative, otherwise it would look like I am trying too hard.

[Scrivdog]

I think everything is wonderful, except a long romantic letter. In my opinion, even though it's important to let the man know that you love him, but it's still necessary to keep him guessing. If I was doing it, I would have a plan in my mind, but I would let him take the initiative, otherwise it would look like I am trying too hard.

They've been together for 9 years - and in the "comfort zone". He's not guessing like when they were dating. The romantic letter is good stuff. It's a visual (a letter) that shows that's she's madly in love with him. I say keep the letter.

[a4a]

No mafia hitmen that I am aware of, but I can't see my BF getting into a car with a stranger to go places unknown. It would be far better if he knew the driver, then he would probably go along. He's more like James M. He needs to have some knowledge about expectations.

 

No party-pooping here either, but that one detail would throw off everything else if I tried this.

 

Now if this was reversed, I would definitely be thrilled, yet I don't think all men have the same ideas of what is romantic as many women do.

 

My man doesn't own a suit and wouldn't wear one under any circumstance, not his own wedding or his father's funeral, so we are obviously talking about two very different men to begin with. keet knows her man and what he will do. I still say be prepared for a possibly huge hitch in this scenario to avoid disappointment. Romantic ideas have rarely gone as planned in my experience.

 

It's always best to have a backup plan.

 

True - just leave a wad of cash on his pillow. :p:lmao:

 

My H would love that!!!

[Scrivdog]

True - just leave a wad of cash on his pillow. :p:lmao:

 

My H would love that!!!

 

That's what you'd want. He most likely wants something much rarer and more precious - 10 minutes where your mouth is occupied giving him a BJ instead of bitching about some crap that pissed you off last week.

[JamesM]

Trust me. He's not going to care about the details. He's going to see you all dolled up for him for the night, the black dress - and I'm pretty sure the limo and the meal could all suck and he won't even notice.

 

 

Remember, he is getting picked up by some driver who is taking him to who knows where and for some unknown activity. All he knows at the beginning is that the driver was sent by his wife. He has no clue if she will be waiting and certainly has no clue if she will be in a formal black dress. To me this is when it matters how he would perceive such a surprise. Once the evening progresses, he would get into it.

 

Like I said, if he doesn't mind all of the surprises, he will get a thrill out of it. But if he likes his life planned with routines, then it may be advisable to given him a general idea of what will occur in the first note when the driver picks him up at the house. Maybe the fact that the evening will consist of a nice dinner, a walk at the beach, and an overnight at the motel. Or simply that the driver will be taking him to a motel where more information will be given. No more details would be needed.

[a4a]

That's what you'd want. He most likely wants something much rarer and more precious - 10 minutes where your mouth is occupied giving him a BJ instead of bitching about some crap that pissed you off last week.

 

I will not give him a BJ ..... Her Highness does not do such deeds... I hire others to do so for me if I deem it appropriate and deserved.

 

Besides he is too busy polishing my riding boots to participate in oral sex acts.

[Scrivdog]

Remember, he is getting picked up by some driver who is taking him to who knows where and for some unknown activity. All he knows at the beginning is that the driver was sent by his wife. He has no clue if she will be waiting and certainly has no clue if she will be in a formal black dress. To me this is when it matters how he would perceive such a surprise. Once the evening progresses, he would get into it.

 

Like I said, if he doesn't mind all of the surprises, he will get a thrill out of it. But if he likes his life planned with routines, then it may be advisable to given him a general idea of what will occur in the first note when the driver picks him up at the house. Maybe the fact that the evening will consist of a nice dinner, a walk at the beach, and an overnight at the motel. Or simply that the driver will be taking him to a motel where more information will be given. No more details would be needed.

Oh Jeez - :rolleyes::rolleyes: