How is this???

[Aussie65]

My boyfriend of a year and I have gone through some rough patches however last Sunday he and I had a fight over a simple issue and that was I asked him to help me with my car and he whined about it to the point where it ended up in an arguement and one thing lead to another,we pushed and shoved each other and that night he got a bit too physical by pushing me.

He has been sleeping in the car since and two nights ago feeling sorry for him I allowed him back into my home to sleep in the spare room.He stayed the night and left the next morning,we were not on very good talking terms and I was still upset from the weeks events.

Yesterday afternoon he comes home all lovey dovey and starts hugging and kissing me.I was thinking that things were going to take time but we could work things out.I have a 15 yr old daughter that hates him but I have had trouble with her years before he came along so it's nothing new.Her and I had discussed him and I getting back together but what happened last night was something I was not expecting.My daughter was out with friends and came home,I was sitting in the loungeroom,the minute she saw him in bed she went off and starting yelling at me.I went to her room and she continued to tell me how bad of a Mother I am and that she didn't want to live here anymore.Now,I know I am good to her and give her everything she wants,take her places,do things with her yet she said so many hurtful things to me.

After the confrontation between her and I I walked upstairs and my boyfriend said to me that he thought her and I worked things out and that he could not be here if we hadn't/mind you,he has not spoken to her in the last two days.I feel like my daughter is trying to control my life so heres what happened next.I walkied into the spare room where he was and I was clearly upset as I love them both.I then asked him to hug me as I really needed some support from him but he refused to!he said no,that he couldn't hug me and I said to him but I need you right now,I need you by my side through this as I want to be with you but I also love my daughter and we have to work on this together.

Here is where he turned into an instant jerk and I am so fuming right now!He would not hold me,he could not see my point of view only that he could not be here until her and I sorted things out.I woke up this morning and he is all chirpy like nothing is wrong and I am clearly upset by the previous nights events so whats he do?starts being a smart arze about things laughing and trying to make me look like this is all my fault!.He tells me I wont stop,that the night before I refused to kiss him....yes ONCE,but after that I went out and bought us both dinner and we sat on the couch together eating it,I thought all was fine between us well it seems that because I didn't want to give him a peck before I went out for dinner that gave him the rights to withdraw from me and not hold me????WTH....I am so confused!I gave him another chance and instead ofbeing supportive of me he pushed me away.I tried explaining this to him this morning and he could not see my view instead he was joking and laughing,meanwhile I was getting more and more upset!.So he says,I AM GOING TO WORK TO SEE MY MATES!(yes I am australian)oh and threw in AND WHAT A GOOD DAY I AM GOING TO HAVE!.he was being so mean to me I am still shaking and I told him it's over and not to come back here but he tells me that I will be wanting him back as I love him....tell me something here,is this emotional abuse?I am confused,I know I feel so upset,that he seems to be not showing any emotion towards me and if anything he used me for somewhere to stay for two nights...I need to be strong!Is this man insane?All I wanted was for him to show me some support and what does he do?....then walks off saying I will ring him and that I keep going on and on.I don't want to give him any more chances,I know how I am feeling right now and it's not right and he was being a jerk about things and thinks he can come back like nothing is wrong.Obviously he hasn't learned anything from our days apart....help me out here please!