still in love with ex boyfriend

[ygirl]

I was in a 5 year off and on relationship with this wonderful guy who I am so in love with. 6 months ago he broke up with me over a lie that he misunderstood and he told me that he finally gave up on thinking that I was the one for him. That he was tired of trying and that he couldn't take it anymore and didn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. I have begged and pleaded with him to reconsider and give me a chance but he keeps saying he won't do it anymore and he doesn't even want to know anything about me. I have been through everything with him and I cannot even imagine myself without him. I am so depressed and I hear people talking about him and they say that at first he was real depressed but now he is doing good and he is actually dating again. I need him back and I don't know what to do, I can't let go of him just hte thought makes me cry. I started dating again but every guy I date while I am with them I am just thinking about my ex. What can I do to get him back I will do anything....

[Ladybug313]

I am really sorry you are going through this pain. Is the misunderstood lie all straightened out but he STILL doesn't want to be with you? Or does he still believe the lie? That kind of makes a difference.

 

But, looking at the overall picture, I hate to break it to you. I think you just need to move on. Give yourself however long it takes to get over it, but you WILL get over it. He really has made it clear he doesn't want to get back with you, so just move forward. Date others, find new activities. Keep busy, and you'll heal. That's the best I can give you. Just try to let it go. I know it's easier said than done, but it's what you need to do.

[Tony T]

The relationship has always been off and on for a reason. It wasn't meant to be an on-going thing. He broke up with you because of some stupid lie he misunderstood because that was the first great excuse to do so.

 

Why in heaven's name would you want to spend your life with some jerk who yanks your emotions all over the place, who doesn't have an understanding bone in his body and is unwilling to forgive and forget. Listen up, life is way too hard when you're around really decent people...why make it even harder by keeping a complete jerk like this in your life.

 

He did you a favor...no, a MAJOR FAVOR...by releasing you to find someone a whole lot better. Yes, I know it hurts but why turn a five-year mistake into a lifetime mistake. That's just plain dumb.

 

You should be rejoicing that this guy is out of your life and free to go make somebody else miserable. Yeah, I know all about the good times you had with him and all that crap. But, I promise you, in six months or a year you will look back and wonder why you even spent an hour letting this guy yank your chains.

[luvsux]

my break up with my boyfriend was hard. I've been dating him 4 a year and thats a long time for someone my age. Well let me tell you how it all started. We were having some problems and he started thinking I was cheating on him, so he went off a messed around with the girl I hate to death. I found out and before I could say anything he broke up with me. Later that week him and his friends tried hooking us back up. I wouldn't listen though because I was so mad. Well the dance came up and we both were going solo. Well the dance started and this one fyne guy asked me to dance. We ended up being hooked up and my ex foung out. He called me up later that day and told me he still loved me. I don't know what to do I still love him too, but I can't trust him no more. So I told him I have a boyfriend and to leave me alone. To this day we both still have feeling for each other, but I'm not gonna do anything about it. Should I?

[ks7997]

I dated my last bf for 5 1/2 years off and on as well. I also learned a lot of lessons, and it has been close to probably 2 years or more since we have actually been a couple. Ok, my first word of advice, never never never beg and plead for someone to be with you. Once you get it, it won't be what you wanted becasue they are there because of the pleading, not because they want to. Now, number 2, the reason when you go out on a date with someone else and you only think of the ex is either A. you are not ready or B. you are telling yourself you can't live without him, which is obviously not true and you won't even allow yourself to try and spend time with someone else. When you are really ready, you will know it. It takes an extremely long time to get over something like that. I guess you can take me for example. I date, not a lot, but I do. But I have just now been able to be in a relationship again, or at least know I am ready. It just takes time, but you can't put everything on hold because you fel as though your world has stopped, becasue rest assured - it hasn't!