thromback Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Whenever I hook up with a girl, I almost always can't be friends with them after. I think there might be something mentally wrong with me. I just can't handle being just friends with them after. I just get so depressed when they don't like me back. Usually they say I'm not ready for a boyfriend, but I like you. After that we never talk. I can't handle this, I think a normal person wouldn't care, but it drives me crazy... I'm so clingy. Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulearth83 Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Perhaps just letting girls make out with you and run isn't something that makes you feel good (although it may temporarily). Maybe focus less on "hooking up" and focus more on getting to know people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thromback Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 Well, I sound like i go for anything. I don't! I get to know them, then it happens, then I'm just friends and it gets me so mad. Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 So the girl you find attractive you can't be friends with? If so, then that's normal. You want something more and she doesn't and you can't handle being her friend without physical contact. I believe that after you go NC with a girl and are able to heal that a future friendly contact is possible. Maybe it's a bad idea though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thromback Posted September 12, 2007 Author Share Posted September 12, 2007 ya idk theres something wrong with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 How long do you get to know them, before you hook up with them? Do you date them or just call for a hook up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author thromback Posted September 12, 2007 Author Share Posted September 12, 2007 It's different in every case. The latest one I didn't call for a hookup, it just happened and she came into my dorm. Other times, I have known them for years or months, and it happens. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I always want to date the person too, and they never want to. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 Based on what you've mentioned, I would start dating them, get to know them first, then if it all works out, hook up. The girls who want a relationship will rarely hookup right away, especially before a few dates. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thromback Posted September 14, 2007 Author Share Posted September 14, 2007 good idea, thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
kinesis Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 'friends zone' videos on youtube Link to post Share on other sites
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