clandestinidad Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 You stated that you wanted something casual, but if that was accurate you wouldn't be putting this much time and emotion into thinking about it. I hope that you have not gotten sucked into this without really knowing. I really think you care more than you thought you would...and that's okay, I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm just trying to point out that it might not be so 'casual' to you. Yes, guys are capable of ending things abruptly. Especially if they are selfish and do not care in the least about you. Those men can drop you like a ton of bricks. I hope that you never hear from this guy again. If you do, it does not mean that he cares about you, it means that he wants to use you again...despite what he might have to say about it. He'll say anything. I really do not think he's someone to be involved with. There are so many red flags here. I hope that you can release any care that you have in this situation and move forward. He is dangerous for your well-being. Please take care of yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 No he wont contact you Unless he wants naked pics! Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Never, ever, ever EVER let anyone take nude photos of you (unless you're being paid and it's going in Playboy), and for sure never send those photos around. Yikes! Didn't your momma ever tell you that? Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 I am not there yet. I am in grad school. I dont have the time for a full-time relationship. I am just curious why he hasnt contacted me in almost a month now. Lets see, wife, 2 kids....maybe he suddenly developed a conscience? Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 ..If I were in your shoes, I'd be insulted and disguisted! That made me laugh WWIU...now we both know you'd never be in her shoes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 Do you think he will ever contact me again???? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 I cant take it anymore..I am gonna to contact him now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 I dont think so. I went to LA with and so we stop it then. Should I tell him its over??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 I plan on emailing her with the conversations from our email and pictures taken with him in a hotel in LA and pictures at work. Just in case he tries to say I am some crazy chick from work. I will back it up with pictures from our trip with him in the hotel. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Don't contact him. Don't call him, don't email him. Go out with your friends and forget about this guy! You honestly are making a complete fool of yourself! The guy hasn't contacted you in a MONTH. Take his hint and leave him alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 I dont believe in that crap of HES NOT INTO YOU. I will wait and see. I have nothing to loose. He doesnt know where I live now. I move out of the state and I planning to move to another state after I graduate from grad school. I plan on sending his wife this stuff after I graduate. He cant mess with me then.... Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 He's not trying to mess with you. He's trying to leave you. Why is that so hard for you to understand? What is it you don't believe about 'he's not that into you'? Look, he enjoyed your affair while you were there and it was easy. Now you're long distance, and you're wanting him to call and talk to you and have a 'relationship' from long distance. It's not something he wants to do - it's not convenient anymore. If he's not contacting you, and he didn't get in touch when you were in town, it's obvious he doesn't want to see you anymore. Why do you want to try to FORCE him to be with you somehow? What's the point of that? And what is the point of contacting his wife? What does that get you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 I just dont buy that. I could understand if he found someone else. That would be okay. So, thats it never hear from again. NEVER EVER Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 Nora, Should I get closure by sending him this email: Hello Ryan: Well, I guess you have moved on to better and bigger things. Well good luck with that. I just hope that you keep your promise and delete my photos as I would never betray your trust. Best of luck with everything, Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Maybe he did find someone else. And doesn't feel the need to tell you about it. So he just stopped contacting you. That could very easily be what happened. Since he doesn't care about cheating on his wife, it's as likely as anything else. So, just accept that and move on. Let it go. It was casual for you, right? Let it go. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Nora, Should I get closure by sending him this email: Hello Ryan: Well, I guess you have moved on to better and bigger things. Well good luck with that. I just hope that you keep your promise and delete my photos as I would never betray your trust. Best of luck with everything, Do you need that for closure? If you do, go ahead and send the email. It can't hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 Yes, I will wait and send it. But, I need closure. I cant believe that just the other day we were talking about what classes he and I were gonna take this semester. Its so odd. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I dont believe in that crap of HES NOT INTO YOU. I will wait and see. I have nothing to loose. He doesnt know where I live now. I move out of the state and I planning to move to another state after I graduate from grad school. I plan on sending his wife this stuff after I graduate. He cant mess with me then.... Can we say FATAL ATTRACTION? SINGLE WHITE FEMALE? You are very unbalanced and need help from a shrink. Hope you can sleep at night knowing you helped ruin a family and tear them apart out of revenge. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 It takes two to tangle. He set himself up by misjuding me. I will do it now. He should have responding yes we are still cool. I would have been satisfied. He was real dumb Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Just remember, what you do will come back and haunt you one day. Karma........ You also won't just be hurting him, you'll be hurting his wife and their INNOCENT CHILD. I cannot believe that you are going to do this. I really hope you stop and THINK before you let his wife know. Either way, you are the type of OW that every MM should fear... Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 I dont believe in it. I believe in setting things right. Well, it was a dumb thing for him to do. Why didnt think to respond. I just dont get it. Well, I have his wife's work email address and I plan on sending her a detailed email about me and the kinky stuff he did with me. Anal and oral sex without a condom. Having sex with me while I was on my period. eating my ass. How adorable for a newlywed husband. Link to post Share on other sites
bestadvisor Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 It takes two to tangle. He set himself up by misjuding me. I will do it now. He should have responding yes we are still cool. I would have been satisfied. He was real dumb How do you sleep at night knowing what you are doing to his wife and family(who have done nothing to you) by sleeping with her married husband? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 its about him. Everyone thinks he such a good guy. HES A PHONY. He put too much trust in me. well, HA Link to post Share on other sites
My_Other_I Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Revenge is a bitch. It'll haunt you down. I'm sorry for your ache but didn't you know he was married? And because you don't get your WANTS fulfilled you are plotting something that's gonna hurt others? It sucks to be rejected but why not be bigger than that, learn a lesson and move onto a single male? BTW I was the OW once and I'm not bashing you. I understand the pain and confusion all too well.... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 for someone who was just looking for some casual fun, nothing serious, no love, no committment, you're certainly acting like a long lost scorned lover. Are you inlove with this guy? Cuz you've made it seem like he didn't mean much to you to begin with. . Link to post Share on other sites
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