LucreziaBorgia Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I believe in setting things right. Well, I have his wife's work email address and I plan on sending her a detailed email about me and the kinky stuff he did with me. Anal and oral sex without a condom. Having sex with me while I was on my period. eating my ass. How adorable for a newlywed husband. 1. In your mind, how will this 'set things right'? Let's say you get the outcome you want. What would that outcome be? You want the wife to get enraged, kick MM to the curb, and hope he comes crawling back to you? Probably isn't going to happen. What will likely happen: a. MM will convince his wife that you are an insane stalker that he has been trying to get away from, and hasn't told his W about you because he was trying to protect her. Given your behavior, this won't be hard to convince her of. Then, they get a restraining order against you. Then you will be left alone with nothing but your anger and reputation for sleeping with married guys. b. There will be an initial explosion, followed by MM weeping and begging to be forgiven, and promises to work on the marriage. Then, marriage counseling and eventual reconciliation. OW/OM like you are a MM/MW's worst nightmare. It only takes one time with a bunny boiler to cure you of wanting to cheat again so perhaps in a sense things will be set right: MM will get help, the marriage will be repaired, MM and his W make it through STD testing and treatment, and you will be left alone with nothing but your anger and reputation for sleeping with married guys. c. MM's wife already knows about his affairs, and doesn't care as long as he makes his way back home. You tell her, she and MM get tested for STD's (which rightly she should - I would too, in her case), and then you are left alone with nothing but your anger and reputation for sleeping with married guys. See the similarities there? You lose in all cases. So... go ahead and tell. At least MM and W will get themselves tested to makes sure they didn't catch anything from you. You should get tested too. If he is a habitual cheat, and if his OOW are as nonchalant about using protection as you are, there's no telling what he has picked up out there. I expect by now the three of you are teeming with all sorts of fungal, bacterial and viral fun in your pants. The only one I feel sorry for is the wife though and hope for her sake that there wasn't anything incurable floating around in that sick genital fluid swap you had with MM. Link to post Share on other sites
ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 .....the kinky stuff he did with me. Anal and oral sex without a condom. Having sex with me while I was on my period. eating my ass. Oh well, I didn't realize it was true LOVE. The 'eating your ass' part was what convinced me. I say you pursue him with a vengeance. Yeah, that's the ticket. Chase him down, rip his arm off and beat him into submission with it. Then, drag him off to a happily ever after with you. I do adore a good love story and this one is timeless. Puke. Link to post Share on other sites
CAT100 Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Lilablue- Im not saying that what you did was right, but IF this happens again please use some protection. Do you really want to swap bodily fluids with a guy that has done the same thing with other people? Other people that may also have had casual sex with yet more people? You could potentially be exposing yourself to STIs & not all of them are curable... Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Anal and oral sex without a condom. Having sex with me while I was on my period. eating my ass. Yuk Yuk and double yuk! You are rotten! Ewww Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I plan on emailing her with the conversations from our email and pictures taken with him in a hotel in LA and pictures at work. Just in case he tries to say I am some crazy chick from work. I will back it up with pictures from our trip with him in the hotel. HUH???? I thought this was casual? You sound like he promised to marry you or something. Sure, go ahead if you want this guy to file a restraining order and curse the day he ever laid eyes on you. Anyone else smell boiled bunny? Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I dont believe in it. I believe in setting things right. Well, it was a dumb thing for him to do. Why didnt think to respond. I just dont get it. Well, I have his wife's work email address and I plan on sending her a detailed email about me and the kinky stuff he did with me. Anal and oral sex without a condom. Having sex with me while I was on my period. eating my ass. How adorable for a newlywed husband. And how adorable for you! I can tell you one thing, this MM will never screw around again, not when he's got a whack job like you to ruin his life because he didn't call you back. Actually, maybe all OW ahould act like you. Sure would scare all those cheaters straight. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 LilaBlue, I am not going to judge you for sleeping with a MM or bash you for it but I agree with the others here that you are setting yourself up for one almighty fall. This man sounds like a real charmer (NOT). Not only is he not concerned with his Ws feelings (quite clearly for cheating on her so soon after getting married) but he doesn't seem to care about yours much either, I'm sorry to say. If you ARE happy to have him use you for sex then that's up to you but it sounds to me like you are torturing yourself with this R, big time! This is just going to end up f**king you up more and more, believe me, I've been there. You seem to be bordering on obsession with this man. Re the naked photos. You really need to be more careful! I am sure you trusted this guy but there was a case here in the UK a few years or so ago where a girl had oral sex with a guy, emailed him the next day explicitly discussing what they had done, and he (like a total a**hole) emailed it round to the lads in the office. It went round God knows how many law firms in London and was in all the national papers! Not something you would want your family to see, I would imagine. Many of us share intimate moments with the person we love but you really have to be sure of who you can trust! Be careful! Link to post Share on other sites
justfine Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I dont believe in it. I believe in setting things right. Well, it was a dumb thing for him to do. Why didnt think to respond. I just dont get it. Well, I have his wife's work email address and I plan on sending her a detailed email about me and the kinky stuff he did with me. Anal and oral sex without a condom. Having sex with me while I was on my period. eating my ass. How adorable for a newlywed husband.\ ROFL... This is the funniest post I've ever read. Let us know what happens next. Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I dont believe in it. I believe in setting things right. Well, it was a dumb thing for him to do. Why didnt think to respond. I just dont get it. Well, I have his wife's work email address and I plan on sending her a detailed email about me and the kinky stuff he did with me. Anal and oral sex without a condom. Having sex with me while I was on my period. eating my ass. How adorable for a newlywed husband. This is really bad posting. Seriously! I don't believe an MM will suffice your needs! There are producers out there looking for people like you! Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 LMAO she could earn a fortune if she had a brain! Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I actually think more OW should do this so that the MM gets what he deserves I feel sorry for his wife though, Imagine being told your husband ate some strange womans arse? Can you really eat arses? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 12, 2007 Author Share Posted September 12, 2007 we used protection all the time. I am not stupid. He is a newlywed. His wife is only 22. Her parents will be outraged that he slept with a black woman. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 Uhh, I think his parents will be outraged that he slept with another woman PERIOD! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 12, 2007 Author Share Posted September 12, 2007 I dont want him. He is a cheat and does coke. I need a stable man in my life after I finish grad school. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 Then just let him go and move on with your life. He is a cheat, a coke-head, why the F are you freaking out about him not contacting you? WHAT is the game here? What is it that you want? You knew going in he was married, you even said you did not want ANYTHING serious, just some fun, no committment, just casual sex. So, you got that and now it's over...Now, it's time for you to get over it and focus on grad school and MAKE something of yourself. BE the person you're meant to be and let this MM go out of your life for good. To ruin his life and tell his wife everything, turn HER life upside out of pure revenge is just plain cruel. To ruin their kids lives because you wanna screw him over - Well, just remember, karma...And when karma bites back, it's alot worse than what you put out there...It bites back 1000x harder and more painful. So, what goes around eventually comes around - Keep that in mind. Good luck and I hope you do the right thing for YOU! Which is, forget this MM ever existed and focus on yourself. Become a good and honest person not a cruel vengeful woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 I feel sorry for his wife though, Imagine being told your husband ate some strange womans arse? Can you really eat arses? Maybe this is where the term "butt munch" came from? At any rate, I think I hear "Lila's" mom calling, it's time for her to finish her homework and brush her teeth. I thought school started everywhere by now? Link to post Share on other sites
Mustang Sally Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 Wowsa. And I thought I had drama.... Is this for real? Lilablue - Time to put on your big-girl knickers and move on, hon. This guy has "Loser" written all over him. You should be thinking "Good riddance to bad rubbish..." Link to post Share on other sites
bestadvisor Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 we used protection all the time. I am not stupid. He is a newlywed. His wife is only 22. Her parents will be outraged that he slept with a black woman. You're contradicting yourself; at first you said you had unprotected anal sex with him, now you said you used protection all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 I dont want him. He is a cheat and does coke. I need a stable man in my life after I finish grad school. Don't you mean grade school? You said yesterday you had anal and oral without a condom, then you just said you never had unprotected sex, make up your mind, or is it that when you lie, it's just too hard to keep your story straight? Playtime is over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 12, 2007 Author Share Posted September 12, 2007 well whatever the case, I got tested. NEGATIVE. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 When is the last time you had any sexual relations with him? Some STDs take a while before results will show up. Link to post Share on other sites
My_Other_I Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 I dont want him. He is a cheat and does coke. I need a stable man in my life after I finish grad school. No offense but it sure seems like you need to get stable before a stable man would be interested. Your MM probably sensed the drama you create and ditched before it got worse. You were wrong to get involved with him, he was wrong to get involved with you. He is married and you both knew it. He put his W in danger as well as you and himself. Neither of you have values strong enough to be in a stable relationship, not to mention a marriage. Why not put it all behind you, stop being bitter, do a tinny tiny soul searching, admitting doing wrong and move on? Why make it worse for the one innocent person involved? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 12, 2007 Author Share Posted September 12, 2007 I am a 28 year woman who is confused by all of this. Why didnt he just RESPOND WE ARE STILL COOL. Help me....I think I will send the email to his wife to shatter his world. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 I am a 28 year woman who is confused by all of this. Why didnt he just RESPOND WE ARE STILL COOL. Help me....I think I will send the email to his wife to shatter his world Can you please answer my question? You said it was a casual thing, you weren't looking for anything serious. So, what does it matter if he emails you or not? Maybe he is NOT cool with you and his silence is telling you this. Either way, at age 28 years old, you need some counselling because what you're about to do is completely f**ked and CRUEL. This is ALL ego based, and all because a man who you do not love, let alone want ANYTHING from but sex, is ignoring you because it is over. HE has chosen to move on and you can't accept that. Which now you're either inlove with him and can't admit it or you're losing your mind and going to do something you're going to regret for the rest of your life. You won't be hurting HIM, you'll be hurting his wife and his child. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 12, 2007 Author Share Posted September 12, 2007 Well, I really think it was stupid of him to think that he could ignore me for almost a month. In the past it has been months before he has contacted me. But, what was the point of asking me if I was going to be in town? Its too confusing. I dont know why he would take the risk of not responding if it might mean me telling on him. Link to post Share on other sites
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