My mom is really stressing me out!

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Ok, long story shortened.... I met my boyfriend 3 years ago, I was 15 he was 21. Yes, I know that sounds really bad. My mom loved him before she knew his age, they got along great he would fix her car or help her do things. She found out how old he was and freaked out, tried to have him arrested, called his parents and yelled at them, etc. She told me that he was only with me for sex, which evidentely wasn't true. I snuck and continued seeing him for a few months and I guess she realized I was going to do everything in my power to see him. She told me that I could see him but he couldn't come over to our house and his name couldn't be spoken.

 

Fast forward about 2 and 1/2 years, we now live together, I'm almost 19. His family loves me and my mom is still the same. She has not been to my house since I moved out, won't say his name, nothing. My dad adores him (parents are divorced), and the rest of my mom and dad and even step- dads family loves him. She has told my little sister that if we were to get married she would not come, which breaks my heart. I talk to her and get along, but I feel like somethings missing in our relationship. I feel like I'm missing part of me. I really love this guy and I don't know how to go about talking to my mom again about the whole situation. I cried myself to sleep last night thinking about all this. I'm just at wits end with the whole thing. I love him and I love her but according to her I can't do both.