Phumfeinz Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 (For full story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t127420/) She messages me. I'll let you see the more interesting parts: was just thinking about you. is the invite for a place to crash for a while still holding..? because i need to go. and i want to go alone. well.. with my daughter.. but alone otherwise. Not sure how long it will take. but i have to. i owe you an apology. actually,i owe you more "i'm sorry" than an apology could really offer. i said a lot of things that were mean, because i was foolish enough not to appreciate what i had in you. i wanted more affection.. i was too used to yours. and i'm sorry, because it was very mean and totally uncalled for. i know i shouldn't say this, but i still miss you sometimes. Aaron (the boyfriend she got a week after I left) is like backround noise. You know.. the kind that's good just to have around because at least then it's not silence. come online more I had her on block on msn for three weeks, to see how I would handle NC. I did pretty well, and literally as soon as I took her off block she messaged me. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 I don't know...sort of expected behavior from her, really. I don't know what she means by "a place to crash" - does she mean coming over to your place? If I were you, I wouldn't be too keen to jump up and start contact with her again. If you must talk to her, then be non-committal, and treat her as a friend, nothing more. Seems like she wants to keep you around while also being with Aaron. Then, when she gets sufficiently tired with Aaron, she'll cross over to your side once again. The choice is yours - can you trust her not to repeat what she did to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phumfeinz Posted September 12, 2007 Author Share Posted September 12, 2007 Yeah, it means coming over to stay with me. The thing that bothers me is now that she's said those things I've started thinking about her a lot more again. With the 3 weeks of NC she would pretty much only pop into my mind a few times a day. The fact that she actually apologized for what she did has made me think of her in a more positive light though, but I'm still not 100% sure if I can trust her. I agree with you on the not being too keen thing though. That's what helped to drive her away in the first place, so I'm just going to take it easy and not talk to her too much. If I'm honest? I will give her that chance. The way we split was not entirely amicable, so I would like to find out if things would be different next time around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phumfeinz Posted September 17, 2007 Author Share Posted September 17, 2007 So I spoke to her again last night. Apparently she split up with Aaron last week and she's in ANOTHER relationship now, again mere days after the last. And this new relationship is with - wait for it - a woman. She says she's a lesbian now and has sworn off men for the time being. Yet she still says she wants to come over, misses me sometimes etc. I have a feeling that this new found lesbianism won't last very long either, I've been right about pretty much everything else so far. I wish more than anything I could just forget about her, it's doing my head in. I think it's time for NC again. EDIT: A thought just came to mind that amuses me. When she first started seeing this Aaron, she told me it was because he was emotionally more mature than me, was at a point in his life where she wanted a partner to be, etc etc. It lasted 6 weeks. I'm really starting to doubt her 'emotional maturity'. Seems to me she just latches on to whatever is available, leeches off them and then ditches them when she gets bored. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 17, 2007 Share Posted September 17, 2007 Whoa...she switched into a relationship with a GIRL now?? :lmao: Phumfeinz, I shouldn't even have posted this post telling you what to do. Unless, of course, the image of her with a girl does something for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phumfeinz Posted September 17, 2007 Author Share Posted September 17, 2007 Haha She really does seem to be quite insatiable! Like I said, I don't think it will be too long before she gets bored of her current situation and reels the next sucker in. She seems to excel at crushing peoples hearts... I don't know if this sounds cruel, but I really want someone to do it to her, horribly, to make her realise that you can't just mess around with people like that. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 17, 2007 Share Posted September 17, 2007 Tsk, tsk. You don't need to wish that for her, really. People get what's due, eventually. No escaping karma. Or, you can get even by hooking up with a guy. And prove that two weenies are better than none. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phumfeinz Posted September 17, 2007 Author Share Posted September 17, 2007 Ah, that wouldn't faze her one bit. She actually said to me once when I was there that she would like to see me get with another guy. *shudder* Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 17, 2007 Share Posted September 17, 2007 Well it's your call, in the end. You do realize that the more you indulge her, the more you'll get enmeshed in this whole unsavory situation. I don't know how easily you can remain friends, and let her "crash" at your place. Do you think you'll be mentally prepared for the overload? You know what's best for you. Follow that. For your own peace of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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