Fiance & Las Vegas

[go43ah]

Our wedding is in 16 days. My fiance(26y/o) is planning a 3 day/2 night trip to las vegas w/his older brother(35y/o) who's single & a couple of his brother's friends. I do not approve of this at all. I like to travel also & this will make the 2nd trip that he has taken to 2 different cities in 1 month. I am not working at this time & would love to go. I am so infuriated right now. We still have wedding planning to do although we are going to be at the lake this weekend then he wants to go to vegas for 3 days next week, his bachelor party here, then the wedding & a honeymoon thrown in there. I think it's too much. Do you think I'm being unfair? I know what goes on in vegas...... I don't want him to go. I told him that I wanted him tested when he gets back. He told me that he would not. It's not that I don't trust him. It's I don't trust his brother & his brother's friends. When you get someone intoxicated, anything can happen. I got so mad when I found out he bought his plane ticket that I told him that it, I'm not doing anything else as far as the wedding goes. I told him that he would be lucky if I decided to show up. Another thing, his dad is not really high on my list either. He is the one that is paying for his plane ticket and he knows I don't want my fiance to go. Any thoughts on how to deal w/this.

[tanbark813]

I've been smashed a number of times in my life but never once did that make me f**k someone because my brother wanted me to. Don't marry someone you don't trust.

[Enema]

It's not that I don't trust him. It's I don't trust his brother & his brother's friends.

 

This is the biggest copout.

 

You simply don't trust him. You shouldn't get married until you sort your issue out.

 

If you have a valid reason not to trust him and it's not just you being immature, then you still shouldn't get married!

[I Luv the Chariot OH]

If you need more time to plan your wedding, save your vacation to the lake for another time.

 

You sound really insecure. Why does it bother you that he is going somewhere to have fun before you get married? Do you not like him having fun? Is he not allowed to have fun without you? And why don't you trust his brother, do you think he is going to force him to cheat on you?

 

It sounds like you probably shouldn't be getting married to someone you don't trust and want to withold the happiness of.

[go43ah]

we can't save the lake for another weekend. we already promised our friend & her parents that we would go. everyone else has backed out but us. anyhow.... im not insecure. i just don't think it's fair that he can go on any vacation he feels like, then when my friends consult him about my bachelorette party and it possibly being in chicago. he goes ballistic & throws a fit. it's a double standard and long as he gets what he wants everything is fine. therefore i didn't have my bachelorette party out of state. which it turned out to be a sorry bachelorette party to begin with. yes his brother wouldn't surprise me as getting him to cheat on me, after all his brother told him he doesn't believe in monogamous relationships. which i so wish i could tell his current g/f who has been w/him for 5 years (engaged & disengaged like 3 times).

[Lilysavage]

Before you go any further with this.. please stop and look at this.

 

I know stag and hen trips can be a bit worrying esp if planned by people with agenda's.. but if there is a niggle making you doubt his fidelity and you are fighting already like this please take a pause.

 

Do you trust him whether it's in vegas or on the moon.. I've had boyfriends I could trust 1,000 miles away, and had a husband I could not trust on my own doorstep.

 

If you argue of jealousy issues now.. they will get worse. If he's never cheated before and you haven't, let him go, wish him well and enjoy your trip to Chicago. If you don't let each other go.. this will grow a different seed to fester.

 

Good luck with the wedding, and I hope it's what you want.

 

we want pictures..