kidneyguy Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 I like a girl at my school, but she's a friend of the girl that I liked last year. I'm nervous that they may think that I'm feeding off of them one-by-one, when I'm really not. Anyways, we've been friends for about 1 or 2 years, but I don't know how to get her to like me as much as I do her. She likes things that I like, except football which I guess is fine (kidding, it's totally alright with me). I have trouble talking to people, especially girls, and even more especially when I ask if they want to hang out. Also, I need to know what the signals are that show girls like you, since she may be showing them to me, but I'm not so sure. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
ftheunion Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 If you talk to the first girl, and tell her you now like her friend, and then ask her if that is offending to her. Then maybe apologize. That might gain her sympathy. DON'T ask her for advice. Just tell her you are shy, so you don't wanna bother her friend, and leave it at that. It is in vain if you bring it up again later. It will kinda stew in her head for awhile, and at at least you approached it right. Doing this won't get you hooked up, but it will not be in vain either. Link to post Share on other sites
Yosef Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 I like a girl at my school, but she's a friend of the girl that I liked last year. I'm nervous that they may think that I'm feeding off of them one-by-one, when I'm really not. Anyways, we've been friends for about 1 or 2 years, but I don't know how to get her to like me as much as I do her. She likes things that I like, except football which I guess is fine (kidding, it's totally alright with me). I have trouble talking to people, especially girls, and even more especially when I ask if they want to hang out. Also, I need to know what the signals are that show girls like you, since she may be showing them to me, but I'm not so sure. Any suggestions? I would go with ftheunion's advice. As for signals that a girl likes you: 1) Doesn't look around while you talk to her. 2) Laughs at stuff you say, even if it's not funny. 3) Can be caught looking at you more often than not. 4) Doesn't feel threatened by you sitting close to her. 5) Stiff posture (i believe this goes for both sexes) 6) She smiles a lot around you (unless she is ALWAYS smiling). Those are general signs, and there are some others that I havent included out of forgetfulness. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted September 18, 2007 Author Share Posted September 18, 2007 I learned today the girl I like has a boyfriend. I was going to ask her out to the homecoming dance, but I really don't think I should now. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Aintayankee Posted September 21, 2007 Share Posted September 21, 2007 Just tell her you like her, and tell her she looks nice. There is not putting her on the spot, and you'll get your message to her. At least you'll know. If you are having a conversation near the end of the dance or whatever, when she is about to wander off and there is some silence pauses, ask her: "Hey (say her name), do you mind if I tell you something?" then tell her she looks nice and you like her, and tell her she looks nice once more. It's foolproof. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted September 22, 2007 Author Share Posted September 22, 2007 Thanks for the idea. I'll see if she's going, and if she still likes her boyfriend. If she still does, I probably won't. But if she dumps him/gets dumped I might. I saw her and her boyfriend today and the highest amount of love that I saw between them is a hug, so maybe it wasn't as serious of a relationship as I thought......... Link to post Share on other sites
Aintayankee Posted September 22, 2007 Share Posted September 22, 2007 It's good to not interfere, and it might just fall apart like you said. But you are not necessarily being selfish if you do. Just do it when she is not with him and he is not around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted September 23, 2007 Author Share Posted September 23, 2007 I talked to a friend that knows the girl I like more than I do. She (my friend) said she thinks I'm weird (as does everyone in the school, just my nature). I like being weird, but in a good way, and this is a bad way. I don't want to change, since I won't feel like I'm me, but hardly any girls want to be within 50 feet of me, let alone be my girlfriend. Suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted October 3, 2007 Author Share Posted October 3, 2007 The girl I like dumped her previous boyfriend, and magically liked another guy! But it's not me! And no offense to her new boyfriend, but he's kind of "in the closet" gay. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Timberlane Posted October 3, 2007 Share Posted October 3, 2007 I talked to a friend that knows the girl I like more than I do. She (my friend) said she thinks I'm weird (as does everyone in the school, just my nature). I like being weird, but in a good way, and this is a bad way. I don't want to change, since I won't feel like I'm me, but hardly any girls want to be within 50 feet of me, let alone be my girlfriend. Suggestions? Are you weird in a contrived, overwrought way that involves stupid clothing and off-the-shelf attitudes? If so, that isn't weird, it's just annoying. If you are considered weird because you write, like old movies, and say unusual things about diverse subjects out of the blue, then those other people are simpletons that can't appreciate your company. Try to figure out which you are. If you are the first weird guy, then there is no reason that I can think of that anyone would want to hang out with you. Be an individual in a real sense. Period. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted October 5, 2007 Author Share Posted October 5, 2007 Are you weird in a contrived, overwrought way that involves stupid clothing and off-the-shelf attitudes? If so, that isn't weird, it's just annoying. If you are considered weird because you write, like old movies, and say unusual things about diverse subjects out of the blue, then those other people are simpletons that can't appreciate your company. Try to figure out which you are. If you are the first weird guy, then there is no reason that I can think of that anyone would want to hang out with you. Be an individual in a real sense. Period. I think I was exaggerating about how weird I am. Many guys are fine with it, and many think it's awesome. Girls, not so much. I mean, I'm only like this in school and Boy Scouts. Outside of these two situations, I'm pretty normal (except for Ravens games; I am a crazy-go-nuts Ravens fan). I mean girls don't mind it, but I know I am annoying every now and then. But I don't want to change, you know? She does have my back and I have her's. But I know I'm weird and annoying, just in certain situations with certain people. I'm not around her outside school. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted October 5, 2007 Author Share Posted October 5, 2007 I think that other boyfriend was just a false alarm (no offense to that guy, but he's kind of "in-the-closet gay"). You think I should see if she wants to go to the mall over the weekend? I have the same classes asher in the afternoon and her e-mail. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted October 14, 2007 Author Share Posted October 14, 2007 Well, I went to Homecoming. She had a date to the dance, so yeah. I had a hard time trying to hang out with her or anyone else since another girl kept on hitting me with her shoe (my back still hurts quite a bit from that). But her date stayed with her. Her date is a good friend of mine, and though I am a little jealous, it's not that bad. The closest I got to her was a hug at the end. I'm unsure if she knows I like her or not. Suggestions on what to do if she does/doesn't know? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted October 18, 2007 Author Share Posted October 18, 2007 She knows I like her. I told her old boyfriend and he said he asked her if she wanted to hang out with him or me about a month ago, so she knows. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
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