scaredinlove Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 My point is that the OP feels that the wife has something that belongs to her and the OP is upset about it. I call that irony from an OW! I agree that MM is just wrong as the title of this thread states. What he is wrong about has nothing to do with a phone or his wife! The wife has the OP phones so she has something that belong to her. As for OP having the somthing thta belongs to the W , I don't think that is the same because people don't belong to anyone but to themselves.So she actually dosen't have anything that belongs to the OP. And he is wrong , no doubt about it. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 Well my case is different...My MM is not leaving and i am not looking for marriage since I was married before I am happy to be with him.Not looking for any real commitiment. Like a said before many BW stay for whatever reason, and it dosen't make them anything more or less.The same for the OW. They just stay for yrs and yrs after the d-day and some like a post that in the board recent even give their blessing to the affair. People are different and make different choices. I hope you have a plesant day. Much love for you. Why, thank you. I do get lots, but I don't share my man with any other women. I was where you are now a couple years ago - didn't want a relationship - but I was content to be FWB with a man who hadn't already made promises to another woman. Didn't feel it was my place to intrude on someone's marriage. But that's just me. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 reboot, come to think about it audacity is the perfect word to use in this thread: Audacity: lack of respect in someone's behavior towards another. Question is who does it apply to when it comes to affairs? Some would say it only applies to the MM, but in this case, I think it goes a bit further. I can't believe the OP has the audacity to complain that the MM she is having an affair with gave her free phone to his wife. What's a phone when you get to have sex with the MM? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 As for OP having the somthing thta belongs to the W , I don't think that is the same because people don't belong to anyone but to themselves.So she actually dosen't have anything that belongs to the OP. Change the word 'belong' to a 'taken man' then. The OW has something that means the WORLD to the wife. The two are uncompariable. A phone can be replaced easily, a marriage and a husband can't. Anyway, if she's pissed off about it, MM should buy her a new phone. End of story. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 reboot, come to think about it audacity is the perfect word to use in this thread: Audacity: lack of respect in someone's behavior towards another. Question is who does it apply to when it comes to affairs? Some would say it only applies to the MM, but in this case, I think it goes a bit further. I can't believe the OP has the audacity to complain that the MM she is having an affair with gave her free phone to his wife. What's a phone when you get to have sex with the MM? Not only sex but he probably has paid for either gifts, lunch, dinner, etc, for the OW and himself to enjoy, with the wife's joint monies. Now if he's never paid for anything and the OW's always payed for everything, what does this imply? Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 The wife has the OP phones so she has something that belong to her. As for OP having the something that belongs to the W , I don't think that is the same because people don't belong to anyone but to themselves.So she actually doesn't have anything that belongs to the OP. And he is wrong , no doubt about it. If the MM has spent even one cent on the OW for anything, she does have something that "belongs" to the wife. Also, sorry, but the wife has a legal commitment from her H. If you don't see the value in that commitment, that's fine, but I think the wife would disagree. Courts will disagree as well. That is why a wife who can prove an affair does much better when she divorces her cheating husband. Link to post Share on other sites
redfathom Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 Definition: legal relationship between spouses: a legally recognized relationship, established by a civil or religious ceremony, between two people who intend to live together as sexual and domestic partners. If I was to introduce my husband, I would say: "This is MY husband x." or " I would like you to me MY Husband, x" or agian, "This is X, he is MY husband". And the same goes for him, he would say I am HIS wife. So you see simplegirl stole someone's H and if the W got her phone, well, I say she deserves a lot more then just that. I mean come one are you kidding me. Link to post Share on other sites
scaredinlove Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 Why, thank you. I do get lots, but I don't share my man with any other women. I was where you are now a couple years ago - didn't want a relationship - but I was content to be FWB with a man who hadn't already made promises to another woman. Didn't feel it was my place to intrude on someone's marriage. But that's just me. WOW great, we live in a diverse world and people have different choices. Good for you!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
redfathom Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 But in luv's case there were two people making a decision, in sg's case there are three, only the W did not get to decide on whether or not someone slept with HER husband. Link to post Share on other sites
scaredinlove Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 If the MM has spent even one cent on the OW for anything, she does have something that "belongs" to the wife. Also, sorry, but the wife has a legal commitment from her H. If you don't see the value in that commitment, that's fine, but I think the wife would disagree. Courts will disagree as well. That is why a wife who can prove an affair does much better when she divorces her cheating husband. I can see your point that they are legally commited, but he still not a object that belong to someone, neither is the wife. A phone is a phone , a person is a person. Link to post Share on other sites
scaredinlove Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 Anyway, if she's pissed off about it, MM should buy her a new phone. End of story. Yes , she is and have all the right to be. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 I can see your point that they are legally commited, but he still not a object that belong to someone, neither is the wife. A phone is a phone , a person is a person. When you get married, you're supposed to become one. That's the whole point. If you don't feel that way, why get married? I most certainly "belong" to my wife, and I'm not ashamed of that. Link to post Share on other sites
scaredinlove Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 When you get married, you're supposed to become one. That's the whole point. If you don't feel that way, why get married? I most certainly "belong" to my wife, and I'm not ashamed of that. That is the root of all problms in my view. All tha belonging is just suffocating. Peoplo are free!!!! When you don't belong you are free to be yourself, so if you are not happy with your marriage you can tell your spouse and move on or work things out. People think they own other people and that is what cause them to suffer. No one said you have to be ashemed of being with your wife but you certanly don't belong to her. No one has right over other people, no one belong to anyone... People should get married to raise families and be happy not to live in prison. Or become a "belonging". Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 SIL, if your MM divorced his wife and wanted to marry you - And that was the deal. Marry me or it's over forever. What would you do? Seriously...I highly doubt after everything you've been through, waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting for your MM to leave his wife to FULLY be with you, that you would walk away if he offered you your hand in marriage. Anyway, obviously you felt trapped in your own marriage, and what you are going through now IS affecting how you feel towards marriage too. You just feel your MM is in a prison by his wife. Well, he's certainly doing nothing to change that, is he? Seems pretty willing to have two women in his life. Atleast for now. Link to post Share on other sites
bunset Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 My point is that the OP feels that the wife has something that belongs to her and the OP is upset about it. I call that irony from an OW! I agree that MM is just wrong as the title of this thread states. What he is wrong about has nothing to do with a phone or his wife! There is a difference! A MM doesn't belong to anybody. He's a person, has his own feelings and path in life. A phone is an inanimate object. Chattel. Just as women and slaves have been treated like. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 He's a person, has his own feelings and path in life. He's a person who is married, who made a committment to not betray or cheat on his wife. HIS WIFE. HER HUSBAND. Path in life? Well, it's one they created together. Link to post Share on other sites
bunset Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 SIL, if your MM divorced his wife and wanted to marry you - And that was the deal. Marry me or it's over forever. What would you do? Seriously...I highly doubt after everything you've been through, waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting for your MM to leave his wife to FULLY be with you, that you would walk away if he offered you your hand in marriage. Anyway, obviously you felt trapped in your own marriage, and what you are going through now IS affecting how you feel towards marriage too. You just feel your MM is in a prison by his wife. Well, he's certainly doing nothing to change that, is he? Seems pretty willing to have two women in his life. Atleast for now. WWIU, Do you really know what SIL 'expects' from MM? What makes you an authority on SIL's M and how it affects her current R? How do you know SIL feels MM is in a prison by his wife? Your statements above are considered 'defining' and are characteristic of a verbal abuser. VERBAL ABUSE: HOW TO SAVE YOURSELF Seven Signs You're In A Verbally Abusive Relationship Adapted from The Verbally Abusive Relationship © 1992, 1996 by Patricia Evans. From Verbal Abuse: How to Save Yourself 6. He seems to take the opposite view from you on almost everything, and his opinion isn't stated as "I think," but as if you're wrong and he's right.I don't view having an A as 'doing nothing'. If he and W have a traditional M, then he has demonstrated his own lack of confidence in the M contract. Link to post Share on other sites
bunset Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 He's a person who is married, who made a committment to not betray or cheat on his wife. HIS WIFE. HER HUSBAND. Path in life? Well, it's one they created together. If he is sleeping with another woman then he has chosen to do so, thereby nullifying that contract. It is distinctly possible that MM believes that W has broken the contract in some way, also. Do you really believe that a MM gives up his free will to any woman? Meaning, do you believe that he is incapable of choosing his own path, and that by agreeing to M he can no longer resist any woman? Link to post Share on other sites
BubblesKittyShed Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 If he is sleeping with another woman then he has chosen to do so, thereby nullifying that contract. It is distinctly possible that MM believes that W has broken the contract in some way, also. Do you really believe that a MM gives up his free will to any woman? Meaning, do you believe that he is incapable of choosing his own path, and that by agreeing to M he can no longer resist any woman? Are you a male or female? Must be male cause I think like this. I love that soft purrrr of a womans moans and her luscious lips in top and bottom. Can't get that from my wives. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 Yes , she is and have all the right to be. And that anger should be directed at her MM seeing as he was the one who gave his wife the phone. The wife doesn't know that it's the OW's phone obviously.. Link to post Share on other sites
woe_is_me Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 im not sure if this relates but xmm gave me some cordless phone to use at home .. he decided i needed one but i couldn't use it.. i couldn't get my head around some family i never knew having talked into it...and he told me off when i bought a new one .. said that i was pretty stupid...hmm (mustve been wouldn't have been involved with him otherwise..) i ended up donating it to the needy.. The op sounds like she just needs her mm to have a phone at all times so she can be available at all times .. i mean really..do these women have no decorum???? Link to post Share on other sites
justfine Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 This thread is so silly. It's just a phone that you were not using anyways. It's funny how the OP is screwing this other man's wife, and, she's pissed over a phone. LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
Author simplegirl Posted September 15, 2007 Author Share Posted September 15, 2007 I typed out a long reply and the server reset so I lost it. I'm not going to go into everything again. I just want to comment on a few things. The phone was not a gift to him. It was my phone that he borrowed for a weekend because he needed it for work. Wed he called me and said we needed to make arrangements so he could give me the phone back but I didn't get it that day. The next day I went out of town and apparently that Friday while I was gone is when her phone broke. I know the details of how her phone broke and I can understand why she needs a phone. I just can't believe he would give her my phone because of the situation. No, she doesn't know it is my phone but if she wanted to find out who's phone it really is wouldn't she just need to contact the phone company? Even though my sim card is not in the phone wouldn't the S/N be under my name? I guess that was the main question of my original post. Link to post Share on other sites
KenzieAbsolutely Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 His W is using my phone! That is so twisted! so? you're using her husband. Link to post Share on other sites
MystifiedByMen Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 Karma! HAHA! Link to post Share on other sites
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