Author notspiritual Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 Separation and divorce is a great experience of life. It is a blessing in disguise for those who can learn from their mistakes. It taught me one of the most important concept of Buddhism that I would otherwise never have learned as fast and as effectively: NON-ATTACHMENT. Kick the unappreciative women out of your life in no time no matter how much attached you are to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author notspiritual Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 Self-destruction must precede self-improvement. Separation and divorce are like self-destruction:your ideal world gets destroyed and your former dreams become irrelevant. This is an opportunity to start with a blank page and to rediscover and rebuild one's true identity without the social conditioning that makes you believe that a lifelong marriage with a single partner is the ideal path. You were fine before meeting your ex-wife you will be fine without her even if it does not seem to be the case now. I see the miserable life of some married men and I promised to myself to never fall into that trap again. This is my life, it is designed to do great things not to take care of a woman. A woman is just a nice addition to your life not the main part. Link to post Share on other sites
sandflea Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Self-destruction must precede self-improvement. Separation and divorce are like self-destruction:your ideal world gets destroyed and your former dreams become irrelevant. This is an opportunity to start with a blank page and to rediscover and rebuild one's true identity without the social conditioning that makes you believe that a lifelong marriage with a single partner is the ideal path. You were fine before meeting your ex-wife you will be fine without her even if it does not seem to be the case now. I see the miserable life of some married men and I promised to myself to never fall into that trap again. This is my life, it is designed to do great things not to take care of a woman. A woman is just a nice addition to your life not the main part. Yep - a relationship should COMPLIMENT a full and meaningful life. You have found the path, my man. It takes considerable courage to admit to yourself that it's your destiny, and no one but YOU is responsible for your happiness. Cheers, and happy hunting! SF Link to post Share on other sites
sadhubby Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 . Kick the unappreciative women out of your life in no time no matter how much attached you are to her. omg so true my soon to be ex didnt appreciate crap i did for her she actually called me yesterday to tell me she has bills going into collection now after i rebuilt her credit form ground up lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author notspiritual Posted September 9, 2008 Author Share Posted September 9, 2008 I have not posted and I have not read the forum since January 2007. The reason I post today is because I have started the paper process for my divorce. Ex-wife is supposed to come to NYC to visit me to receive the papers this month. I have not seen her for 14 months now. So what happened since last time I posted? Glorious time. I have absolutely no more anger towards my ex-wife and women in general. I have accepted all the blame on me for the failure in the relationship even if it is clearly not fair. But as a man, I chose to take ownership of everything that happened to me to learn and grow. Be the best man that you can be and if it does not work then let it go and keep growing, keep learning. I let go of all expectations. I do not expect anything from my ex-wife. I only want to be my best self all the time. When you reach a higher understanding of social dynamics, you will discover and see clearly all your past mistakes and it is such a beautiful thing. Woman wants to be loved with passion, they don't really want a provider or a little brother. Be a man. The question today, is not even whether or not I want to get back with my ex-wife. This is irrelevant. My life is not about marriage or divorce. These are just insignificant piece of paper for me. My life is about being happy and getting back into my marriage is not and has never been my best option for happiness. I have nothing against ex-wife, she is just like me, she just wants to be happy. I am smilling at life. Link to post Share on other sites
Land_Of_The_Lost Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 Notspiritual, just wanted you to know that reading your words filled me with an inner peace. Methinks it may be time to brush the dust off The Book of Tao... Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 I have not posted and I have not read the forum since January 2007. The reason I post today is because I have started the paper process for my divorce. Ex-wife is supposed to come to NYC to visit me to receive the papers this month. I have not seen her for 14 months now. So what happened since last time I posted? Glorious time. I have absolutely no more anger towards my ex-wife and women in general. I have accepted all the blame on me for the failure in the relationship even if it is clearly not fair. But as a man, I chose to take ownership of everything that happened to me to learn and grow. Be the best man that you can be and if it does not work then let it go and keep growing, keep learning. I let go of all expectations. I do not expect anything from my ex-wife. I only want to be my best self all the time. When you reach a higher understanding of social dynamics, you will discover and see clearly all your past mistakes and it is such a beautiful thing. Woman wants to be loved with passion, they don't really want a provider or a little brother. Be a man. The question today, is not even whether or not I want to get back with my ex-wife. This is irrelevant. My life is not about marriage or divorce. These are just insignificant piece of paper for me. My life is about being happy and getting back into my marriage is not and has never been my best option for happiness. I have nothing against ex-wife, she is just like me, she just wants to be happy. I am smilling at life. I want this post in the thread I created. Do you mind if I quote it there? How to get back your life? Link to post Share on other sites
Author notspiritual Posted September 10, 2008 Author Share Posted September 10, 2008 Notspiritual, just wanted you to know that reading your words filled me with an inner peace. Methinks it may be time to brush the dust off The Book of Tao...I am happy I could help I want this post in the thread I created. Do you mind if I quote it there? How to get back your life?You can quote it. Link to post Share on other sites
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