Author Road Rage Posted September 16, 2007 Author Share Posted September 16, 2007 :rolleyes:TBF With any one individual, there are many factors that come into play. I cannot say what your situation is, but what you are saying can be said by some men also, myself included. However:eek: Life has a way of throwing a wrench in things. Never say never:laugh: Sometimes a person just has not got there yet. I mean, you have never met me:bunny: I just might be the one to throw you over the edge:o:o:o Link to post Share on other sites
EricOnTheWeb Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 Money comes and goes - I've experienced that. And looks won't last forever. What you are as a person will remain. And that's the most important factor for me, personally speaking. I've been on the edge for so long that I worry about losing the person I am inside, but thanks...that has alot of meaning I can keep in mind for future attempts at love... Link to post Share on other sites
EricOnTheWeb Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 These threads are giving me a frigin headache.. I guess I'll go back to the Water Cooler where I belong.. seeya, brainiacs. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 Road Rage, if you and I had an emotional connection and you were who you purported to be, we might end up in the sack. Beyond that, nope. Call me cold but the need for sex doesn't rule my world, although when I'm in a meaningful relationship with someone, I'm very high-drive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Road Rage Posted September 16, 2007 Author Share Posted September 16, 2007 EricOnTheWeb I think you`re falling for TTSP:cool: Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 Looks matter more to women in general. That's why they are into home decorating and all of that stuff. They are far more superficial and promiscuous creatures by nature, but because men had power for thousands of years we've come to believe the lie Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 Looks matter more to women in general. That's why they are into home decorating and all of that stuff. They are far more superficial and promiscuous creatures by nature, but because men had power for thousands of years we've come to believe the lie Here's your wrench-thrower, Road Rage.. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 One more thing: With men and women, there are always exceptions to the rule. Notice that whenever I've mentioned general propensities, I've said "most men" or "most women" or something like that. MOST, not ALL. Even in the other thread, where it all began. Link to post Share on other sites
halfarock Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 As for acting like a rabbit in heat, not my style, whether I can get away with it or not. …. It's not social stigma. It's the way I'm wired. Women, well most women are wired by intimate emotion connection. If emotional intimate is there, sexual desires is there. wild uncommited sex from man to man will harm women later in a long term sense, this is not some myth, this is how women built, and seldom to do with social pressure. but have many to do with self conscience It has been my experience, my observation that it is a woman’s emotional makeup that determines her desire for sex more than anything else. I think most women have the capacity to be highly promiscuous but aren’t because they couldn’t handle the emotions that would come with it. Every woman who I’ve ever known who got around had lots of emotional problems. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 It has been my experience, my observation that it is a woman’s emotional makeup that determines her desire for sex more than anything else. I think most women have the capacity to be highly promiscuous but aren’t because they couldn’t handle the emotions that would come with it. Every woman who I’ve ever known who got around had lots of emotional problems. That's a very good observation. And pretty accurate. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 Every woman who I’ve ever known who got around had lots of emotional problems. Seems like a chicken and egg problem to me. Link to post Share on other sites
halfarock Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 Seems like a chicken and egg problem to me. Quite possibly it is. Link to post Share on other sites
halfarock Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 I always hear the line that looks don’t matter but they really do and for more than just sexual attraction. If you are an attractive person, and especially a highly attractive person others will treat you differently than an ugly person. It is this difference in treatment that affects one’s personality and outlook on the world. If everyone greets you with a smile you will be a different person than if people greet you with cold indifference. Beauty isn’t as fleeting as is often claimed. Cute children grow up to be beautiful adults who age gracefully. Thus someone can be seen to be good looking for 60 years or more, not exactly fleeting. I know that women are attracted to good looking men, often moreso than any other attribute. I’m regularly approached by women who, I’m sure, are attracted to me for no other reason than the way I look, though I’m sure my mannerisms play a role. I’ve also been to more than a few of those parties where it seems like there are like 100 guys to every woman. And in those cases, the women almost always ended up sitting with the best looking guys, or whoever was buying. Link to post Share on other sites
lonelybird Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 I think most women have the capacity to be highly promiscuous but aren’t because they couldn’t handle the emotions that would come with it.. more accurately it is that not they 'can't handle', but don't want to, there are plenty room for choices: flesh or spirit. A woman with a clear conscience won't be promiscuous, if she denies, that is ok, but the promiscuous life style will harm her mentally and spiritually and end up 'messed up in a way she doesn't know or won't admit' people want to deny their very conscience, then do it, but later it will bite you good looking may attract people in the very first moments, but the real charming and good charactors attract others in a long term sense. and you can CREAT an environment 'greet you with a smile', and positiveness will feed positiveness, is up right circle Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 I always hear the line that looks don’t matter but they really do and for more than just sexual attraction. If you are an attractive person, and especially a highly attractive person others will treat you differently than an ugly person. It is this difference in treatment that affects one’s personality and outlook on the world. If everyone greets you with a smile you will be a different person than if people greet you with cold indifference. Beauty isn’t as fleeting as is often claimed. Cute children grow up to be beautiful adults who age gracefully. Thus someone can be seen to be good looking for 60 years or more, not exactly fleeting. I know that women are attracted to good looking men, often moreso than any other attribute. I’m regularly approached by women who, I’m sure, are attracted to me for no other reason than the way I look, though I’m sure my mannerisms play a role. I’ve also been to more than a few of those parties where it seems like there are like 100 guys to every woman. And in those cases, the women almost always ended up sitting with the best looking guys, or whoever was buying. Again, a good observation. However, there's a caveat - you're describing this largely from the viewpoint of an attractive person. Which, as you initially commented, could be quite different from that of a not-so-attractive person. Attractive people are generally very aware of the effect they have on others - and sometimes this instinct is over-sharpened. Meaning, they could perceive even "normal" friendliness as a reaction to their attractiveness. Which, in reality - if you ask an average-looking person - would be an inaccurate judgement. They'd probably laugh at this assumption that they're "drawn" to you because they're impressed by your looks. So, there's the question of a skewed frame of reference. Anyway, without splitting hair further - the point is that not ALL women will be swept away by a man's looks alone. At least I can state that with complete confidence as far as I'm concerned. The same could be said of some men. In general, yes, looks are certainly important, and they do get you a lot of privileges - both tangible and intangible. And it is also true that looks do factor in somewhere, in the whole "mate-choosing" equation. Just how important it is, depends on the individual in question. Link to post Share on other sites
EricOnTheWeb Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 All I know is that I am attracted by a woman first by her looks, then I need to know how she carries herself.. I cannot stand gitty, flighty ,airheads even if they are the hottest girl on the planet. As for me being a guy trying to get my life together, and trying to attract woman of my likng...it is hard stuff(for me). Inside me I feel I am a good person at heart and I KNOW I have alot of talents...My vocabulary sucks, but there are reasons for that,which is a different story. Girls all of my life have treated me as they're "buddy" and knew I was this shy nice guy, and yes I was the one in school that they told secrets too, and asked me to ask some other guy(who I was friends with) if they would go out with them. It sucked in my perspective cause maybe I wanted to go out with that same girl and I get extremely jelous. Clearly the guys they asked me to ask are cute or whatever, and Me being the one they actually talk to, are just not interested in me as a BF. Point I'm making is that woman are as attracted to looks as much as men...I'm living proof of this...and as I approach my 30th birthday it hurts that I have alot to offer, but my looks are the determining factor on how far woman will befriend me. I've become an extremely jelous person over men that attract woman merely on looks alone, even if they are true *********s... Aliina saw that in me a couple of days ago in a P/M... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 It has been my experience, my observation that it is a woman’s emotional makeup that determines her desire for sex more than anything else. I think most women have the capacity to be highly promiscuous but aren’t because they couldn’t handle the emotions that would come with it. Every woman who I’ve ever known who got around had lots of emotional problems. All human beings have the capacity to be almost anything they want, if it's important enough to them... Of the women I've observed who do sleep around, it's not the act that's so important but the need for validation of attractiveness, affection, attention and self. I'm sure that there are women out there who do the bunny hop solely for sexual gratification but I have yet to observe one. There's no doubt that almost all women enjoy sex with the right partners. Whether we're wired for multiple partners at the same time, is individual reliant based on personal needs, although I will generalize and say that most women aren't wired this way. Most women want to care/be cared about, with our partners. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 with HalfaRock posts... but like TTSP... it's from an attractive guy's point of view... very true. If you don't have the LOOK...then you need the CASH... Link to post Share on other sites
EricOnTheWeb Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 with HalfaRock posts... but like TTSP... it's from an attractive guy's point of view... very true. If you don't have the LOOK...then you need the CASH... Thats a dumb thing, Lizzie....Cash may look attractive at first, but it's the looks that get the "first" ball rolling, and then the soul the person has determines if the attraction is worth pursuing, and keeping. Cash has nothing to do with being attracted to someone, if it is, then you are a gold digger...thats it, and this is true both for woman and men. Oh this is just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 Thats a dumb thing, Lizzie....Cash may look attractive at first, but it's the looks that get the "first" ball rolling, and then the soul the person has determines if the attraction is worth pursuing, and keeping. Cash has nothing to do with being attracted to someone, if it is, then you are a gold digger...thats it, and this is true both for woman and men. Oh this is just my opinion. You missed a small detail.. I put a '' at the end of my sentence... That was not my statement... I said I agreed with HR and TTSP... you missed the whole point. That was a JOKE! Link to post Share on other sites
playabum17 Posted September 16, 2007 Share Posted September 16, 2007 A person definitely has to have an attraction to another person to get anything going, now whether anyone else finds them attractive is a whole 'nother story. As far as a woman being promiscuous...there is a difference between someone doing a string of one night stands, and finding someone to satisfy a need...someone they find attractive and can fill each others....needs. Sometimes you just want to get laid. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted September 17, 2007 Share Posted September 17, 2007 We are all guilty of judging a book by its cover, certain interviewers on jobs discriminate by color, education, height, presentation, your name, and how you dress. With that said, first impressions either makes or breaks you. I will agree with the others that being good looking comes with certain privileges and expectations. There are preconceived notions that they are wealthy, successful, charming, adored or admired, have large social networks, and yes healthy beautiful genes. i think a lot of people assume those notions when they see a beautiful person - which may or may not be true. While there is no scientific evidence to prove or disprove that women value looks more than they admit, there are definitely other factors that women go by when choosing a mate...such as the size of his wallet, his success, his social status, education, etc. However, if she chooses to use his looks as an indicator of success (or potential success) - one would not be surprised that looks are indeed valued by women. But from experience, women are often attracted to the guy with looks. In any case people like to be around good looking people, it makes them feel good by being associated with them...plus who doesnt like eyecandy or to look at things that are easy on their eyes. Anyway i think there are several factors that are attributed to one's looks: How they dress How they carry themselves How they interact with others Height Physical looks Link to post Share on other sites
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