Spruike Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 I met a Canadian exchange student in one of my university classes and we totally hit it off. He was funny and extremely attractive, and we would spend whole classes just passing notes to each other. Well the flirting had been going on for about a month and we decided to meet up on the weekend because we were both going out in the city. We ended up having a great night out, and he said it was probably one of the best times he's had in Sydney. We went back to his place and made out for awhile, then the sun came up and I called a cab. For some reason he completely changed personality at that point. I went to give him a kiss and he didn't really kiss back, then gave me a 'matey' kind of hug. I said, 'So I'll see you in class on Tuesday?' And he said (this is what bothers me), 'Oh I don't know, who can be bothered going to class I'm not learning anyway.' I made a joke in agreement, as we had both said how pointless the class was in the past. But clearly he doesn't even want to make the effort to see me. I don't want a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship with him. In fact I'm quite sure that he has a girlfriend back home. I just don't want our friendship to be ruined by a great night out together. I had so much fun, I don't regret a thing. From his behaviour though, it would seem like he was only ever after the thrill of the chase. I am dreading classes next week, it will be SO awkward. I don't even know how to act! Link to post Share on other sites
cutiepieb_25 Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 This is just my opinion. It was obviously that he was just looking for a way not to pay attention in class and at the same time to find someone he could be with before leaving the city. You fell prey to it. I am sorry. You should have continue for a little longer to see if he really had your interest. You crossed that friendship line and there is not going back. It's like he got what he wanted and now he don't want to see you any more whether in class or outside of class. It would bother me, but I would get pass it and go on to class. Don't let one cause u to be down. You learn from your mistakes. At least next time, don't be in such a hurry to cross that line. Take care. I hope his attitude changes and you all can still be friends even when he leaves. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 I wouldn't jump to any conclusions. He could have been tired/hungry/grumpy when he said that. He may just have realized he was supposed to do something which he'll have to rush to do because he goofed off with you. Wait until you've seen him again before you worry about what it all meant; it could have been a passing remark based on an emotion of the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
j366755 Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 Did you talk about what was happening between you at all? Sounds to me that he was feeling awkward because was at that piont where you either have to make a move i.e. saying so shall we meet up, or re-establish things as friends. Wait and see if he turns up for class, if he does and you definatly just want to stay friends just play it cool. If he mentions it just say you had a good time but dont say you made a mistake because that would just offend him. Link to post Share on other sites
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