yes Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 is it just me, or is it really hard to find quality men? i find lots of men who're very good in one or several areas, but so close to zero in all the other ones! i wish i could "combine" a few guys into one person, heheh. on the other hand, i suppose when people meet someone with who they intuitively feel it can work out, they stop worrying about part of their standard... -yes, the morning after a party Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 I think it's much harder to meet quality people now than it used to be. These days there are more selfish people, more materialistic people, and more superficial people. I blame their uncaring parents and the media. Now, there are some really wonderful people out there with great parents. But many moms and dads leave the parenting to school teachers who are way overburdened and too busy to raise people's kids. Television is so full of violent crap and piss poor family role models...it's a wonder we have any civilization at all remaining. Garbage in, garbage out. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 Geez, Tony! Wouldja make up your mind? Half the time you're telling us 'there are lots of great guys out there - all you need to do is find them'. Next moment it's 'men are scum'. So which is it? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 YOU WRITE: "Half the time you're telling us 'there are lots of great guys out there - all you need to do is find them'. Next moment it's 'men are scum'." No, all the time I'm tell you there are lots of great guys (and gals) our there and that's true. But it's a LOT harder to find them than it used to be. Oddly, people of the same generation who are selfish and who were raised by the same types of parents and watched the same televisions shows might find each other to be wonderful. I am personally saddened by the quality of many people out there these days but ignorance is bliss for people. I suppose that's why there are different generations. I personally think current popular music sucks. I can't even figure out what they're singing (the words)...and there's hardly a melody to most of the songs. I have never said men are scum. I've said certain ones are. Obviously, finding the right partner is not an easy task these days because over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. But some men make GREAT partners for some, AWFUL partners for others. But there are lots of great ones to be found. Go figure! I am deeply flattered that you remember my words. I admire your feisty mood today but the weather is way too nice for me to stay in front of my computer. I think I'll go out and find me some great girls!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted April 13, 2003 Author Share Posted April 13, 2003 While i'm not actively searching, I do attend a university, so there're lots of great people around me. My problem is that the majority are very one-sided, and while its no problem with friends since i have diff-t friends for diff-t activities - dancing with one group, going to galleries with another, study with a third, etc. - it's much harder when it comes to a bf, because i'd like someone with who i can share most areas of my life, PLUS a bunch of other standards (e.g. being a good person). I've met guys who're ideal content-wise (from university), but just utterly unattractive physically, and also vice-versa (hot boyz from clubs). It's too tough a choice, so I'm hoping to meet a complete package some day 😃 -yes Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted April 15, 2003 Share Posted April 15, 2003 Tony said: I suppose that's why there are different generations. Actually, I think the reason has to do with sex and aging. Link to post Share on other sites
steffany Posted April 15, 2003 Share Posted April 15, 2003 I wouldn't suggest looking for men at an art gallery or a play or symphany. As crazy as it sounds they are usually the artsy type like myself and have a whole different batch of problems, hehehe. The starving artist is called that for a reason. And they aren't 'deep' they just have bigger problems and are more sensative to them. I'm joking!!!! ok ok seriously stop looking. Find some activities that you enjoy and you'll ccidently bump into someone great. I meet great guys every week. I'm not currently available but I'm not married either. On Fridays I go play pool or see a movie or rent some movies or go to a party. On Saturdays I go indoor rock climbing, to the city park to draw, and then I go stroll around our museum and antique district. On Sunday I go to the pool, I wash my car, I go by the skate park, and then go out to some local bars that have live bands. I meet cool people all the time. But I'm not looking. When I was looking I found nada. Link to post Share on other sites
magritte Posted April 19, 2003 Share Posted April 19, 2003 Originally posted by yes I've met guys who're ideal content-wise (from university), but just utterly unattractive physically, and also vice-versa (hot boyz from clubs). It's too tough a choice, so I'm hoping to meet a complete package some day =) Just out of curiousity what would the guys who are 'utterly unattractive physically' have to do to win your heart? It can be extremely hard for a guy to change the way he looks, especially if you are talking about things like height, face or build. What are these guys suposed to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted April 19, 2003 Author Share Posted April 19, 2003 there's nothing they can do b/c im simply not attracted! btw, attraction is a lot more about personal charm & such, not height/weight/etc, although that counts too. But, i've been very attracted to guys i'd say are not good looking. Go figure! -yes Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 20, 2003 Share Posted April 20, 2003 Um. That would be because attraction happens in the brain rather than in the eyeballs. You will find that some people end up madly in love with a person they did not find attractive at first. It certainly has happened to me. It is a person's qualities that endear him to me, and a really good, kind, decent, intelligent man can become extremely dear to me. Eventually, the appreciation can turn into love and attraction can follow. I have made it a point to find attractive things about some of these guys. One had a very nice back of the neck, for instance. I also became very fond of a fellow I always thought had an odd face; however he had some awesome pheremones; a whiff or two of him (and I don't mean BO, just his own scent) and he could have been Steve Tyler (my vote for the ugliest human there is) and I would not have cared. Link to post Share on other sites
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