Shifty_pidge Posted September 18, 2007 Share Posted September 18, 2007 I met my girl at my new job about a yr ago, we became close friends as i was trying to get over an ex and so was she in some ways. We hung out all the time and eventually hooked up and started a relationship. We worked together and spent all weekends together so we were always by eachoddas side, neither of us complained. We ended up breaking up 7 months later, she ended it. She continously would msg me in the 2 and a half months we werent together and i would write bak but it wopuld be very brief and short and she hated it. We eventually met up and talked bout us, and she said she wanted to take it slow cause she had alot going on in her life, which she does, so i accepted. We have been taking it slow for a week and its been good but ive been very suspect about if she was seeing some1 else whilst telling me this stuff.....Without me asking she admitted it to me today that yes she is seeing the guy she had trouble getting over before we got together. She says she loves me though and is not sure whether she loves him or not but just wants not to jump bak into with me....she wants to take it slow build the friendship then when the time is right we will get back together.....there is actually a date n which she told me she planned for that which is a mates wedding we are both going to, which also is the same date we first starting going out... i guess my question is why come back into my life and say this stuff to me if ur currently seeing another guy? Is this wat i deserve or is it someone who loves me unconditionally and only me and couldnt bare the thought of being wioth some1 else or me being with some1 else? Am i a fool to go along with this in the hope it will all work out for me or should i just throw in the towl and move on? Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyPanda Posted September 18, 2007 Share Posted September 18, 2007 She's getting best of both world at the moment and really needs to decided which one she should stay in. To me this doesn't sound fair. She is practically dating two guys at once. The other guy most likely doesn't know about any of this. If she is really confused about either sticking with her current guy or working on coming back to you then she should end her current relationship and tell him about the situation. It just not right for someone to be with someone while thinking of starting up a relationship with another. If she says she really wants to be with you then she would of left the guy and came back. Saying she has a lot of things going on with her kind of sounds odd because if she said that to avoid jumping in a relationship with you then why would she be in a relationship with another guy? You've seem to keep conversations short. Try to avoid that and ask her questions and see if any of your questions get answered. You probably have plenty to ask, try to get it from the main source. It's up to you if you want to stay and wait for her to come back or to start moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted September 18, 2007 Share Posted September 18, 2007 guess my question is why come back into my life and say this stuff to me if ur currently seeing another guy? Is this wat i deserve or is it someone who loves me unconditionally and only me and couldnt bare the thought of being wioth some1 else or me being with some1 else? Am i a fool to go along with this in the hope it will all work out for me or should i just throw in the towl and move on? Because she is immature. How old is she? She sounds like she is 15 or so. She wants you as the safety net in case it doesnt work out with him. She says she doesn't love him, well then she is leading him on just like she is you. I can guarantee that her ex has no clue about you. You don't deserve this, it's upto you if you are going to tolerate her behavior. Keep looking at the big picture here. Love is measured by actions, not words. Words are for players. If you know the whole situation like you do and still go along with her plan, then yes you are a fool. You are setting yourself up to get hurt. It will hurt alot worse in the future along with the roller coaster ride you will be on, then it would by telling her to stop contacting you now. Start setting goals for yourself, start making yourself happy. Do that and women will come to you without you even having to try. Link to post Share on other sites
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