FutileParamour Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 I don't know where to start with all of this. My guy and I have been together for almost a year, and this has probably been one of the best and worst years of my life. We were introduced by my co-worker, who is the mother of his kids, they were not together but were living together as well as her current beau. Because I couldn't handle the ackwardness of their relationship, he moved in with me all too quickly. Don't get me wrong I am sure it would have happened sooner or later, but maybe I wouldn't be in the mess I am in now. Anyhoo...Things had been going well, we had had our share of ups and downs but what couple doesn't?, one night we were out with my cousin, and has brought the party back to the house, things got out of control sixty days in jail, after he got out he came back home, even though there was a no contact order place by the courts. My cousin who had been at the house that night wanted to come by and I declined having her over, she in turn called the police they came and arrested him for breaking the order. After that we decided it was best for him to live with his dad until we could get the order dropped, well I am now moving, and am out of the house we were in and I am staying at his dads as well, and all I hear from his parents is how I am too good for him. To fill you in on him a little more, he hasn't worked the entire time we have been together, he has had plenty more than just 'our' encounter with the law, and according to them he uses me and treats me like $#*t. Since the second time he was arrested we have not been intiment once, but he has no problem masterbating. So last week, him and the mother of his kids, went on a road trip to pick up thier kids, which I didn't find out about until they were gone, the next day when he gets back, he askes me to sleep on the couch. I wouldn't so he went out there. I ask him in the morning what was going on are we ending it and he gets all pissed off, that I would even ask such a thing. I really do love him I just am not sure what to do, if any of this has made sense to anyone, please give me some advise, any will help, sorry I have left our so much, but I figured this was already long enough! Thanks bunches!! Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 um, WHY exactly do you like him? (i suppose its silly to ask why do you love him...) -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Author FutileParamour Posted April 13, 2003 Author Share Posted April 13, 2003 Honestly I am not sure why I love him, now, I am not even sure I do. Humans are creatures of habbit, and maybe I am affraid of the change, I am hoping that when I move I will be able to break all ties......for some reason I feel like I am obligated to stay with him and make him happy....all too often I am reminded by my friends and family that I deserve to be happy too, it's breaking this cycle so I can be happy that I don't know how to do.....any more questions?? Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted April 13, 2003 Share Posted April 13, 2003 i think your answer to my question is basically the answer to your original question! move out & get a better life, is the best thing to do, i think. why stay with a guy who doesn't work, lives with his folks, goes to jail regularly, and doesn't even treat you well? I just don't see what you're staying for. As for habit - very true! I've also stayed with guys because i was afraid of the pain of the breakup. But it's like pulling out a bad tooth - it will hurt more for a bit, but after that, you'll be way better than before... best of luck, -yes PS the fact that ever HIS parents tell you you deserve better is a HUGE sign, to my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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