vivid20 Posted September 19, 2007 Share Posted September 19, 2007 Ok... so let me start out by saying that I'm 20 y.o. and recently started working at my job about 2-3 months ago. I've got 2 bosses, both males who are brothers and are in their late 20's. I'm really into the younger of the two.. he's the one I spend most of the day with and is the more casual (I'm the office assistant). We flirt constantly.. via looks, text-messages and on the way to shows (we deal with home shows, breakfast meetings, etc.) and I'm really attracted to him. It hasn't gotten to the point of physical contact.. yet.. but my urges are almost unbearable. The fact that he is my boss is quite exciting really. And.. not to mention.. I haven't been with a guy in almost 5 years. Somewhere along the lines of high school I began my interest in girls. And it's been that way since.. So, it's weird for me to be so into him. When he's around me I think about how it'd be.. and where'd we.. you know. And it gets me hott. Thus I've got the hotts for my boss. When he's out the office I start thinking about the awkardness that would come after if anything physical were to occur and that gets my head straight till he gets back in the office. His older brother's got no idea what's going on between "Shawn" and I. That adds to the excitement as well. He invited me to his place for some drinks and I said maybe some other time as I do go to college full-time and am loaded with homework (that bought me a ticket out). The problem is that I want it.. bad. I'm scared that I'll fall into this temptation that I'm craving so much and I'll love it one minute and the next it would just be out my system and I'd regret it or something. OR.. maybe something could flourish from this. (?) On that note, I've never had a fling/one night stand/sex when not in a relationship.. this is something completely out my standard. I like his personality and he's got this great smile when we talk that I just can't stop thinking about.. but I don't think he's looking for something stable. I'm see-sawing between physical and non-physical and I just need some input major. Any advice?? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 19, 2007 Share Posted September 19, 2007 Any chance you could get another job? Dating your boss is a tricky, and often 'against policy' sort of thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
britchick Posted September 19, 2007 Share Posted September 19, 2007 Chances are if you two get together, office gossip being what it is, you will come out looking bad. It might not be fair, but a woman that sleeps with her boss is fodder for gossip for a long time afterwards. Any promotion that you get.......people will think it's because you slept with the boss. Anything that people can view as special treatment.......it will be because you slept with the boss. If you decide to hook up with him, I hope your job is just a job to you and not a career because you'll have trouble being taken seriously again. Do I sound bitter???? Hmmmmm........it was a very long time ago, but taught me a very valuable lesson! Link to post Share on other sites
Author vivid20 Posted September 20, 2007 Author Share Posted September 20, 2007 Here's the best part.. it's NOT my career. Just something P/T to help me pay for minor expenses (gas, credit card, etc.). And.. it's only the two of them who work in the office. It's a family owned business that was passed to both of them. Now... what do you think of it? Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted September 20, 2007 Share Posted September 20, 2007 Is he married? Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted September 20, 2007 Share Posted September 20, 2007 Just two of them working in the office and you? NO one else? Link to post Share on other sites
Author vivid20 Posted September 20, 2007 Author Share Posted September 20, 2007 He is NOT married.. and it's the 3 of us in the office; Older brother, him and myself. 75% of the day the older brother is out the office. Link to post Share on other sites
Liquinn Posted September 20, 2007 Share Posted September 20, 2007 Hmm, take it out of work, and see him outside of work. But maybe a good thing to get to know your boss more. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted September 20, 2007 Share Posted September 20, 2007 If he's not married, and the job is unimportant to you, what's the problem? Link to post Share on other sites
Liquinn Posted September 20, 2007 Share Posted September 20, 2007 Yeah, that is true. Don't see why you can't have a relationship outside of work, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted September 20, 2007 Share Posted September 20, 2007 Have fun and let us know how it went! Link to post Share on other sites
EYECANDY000 Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 its not a good idea. If anything ever becomes sour between the two then it will be an unpleasant place to work. When they say never mix business and pleasure they were right. It is very hard to undue things, well actually you cant undue things. Because once you have crossed that line , you have set the recored. Try finding another job and see how things go between u two.. But i would definately stay away from boss and employee relationship Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 not a good idea, sex and work complicates things especially if y'all get caught up in the excitement. But im curious. When i read your first post, you mentioned you always been with women since high school. is this guy your first male sex partner, are you bisexual? Because at the end of the day, a man's a man and a woman's a woman. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
musikaprinsesa Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Is he married? does it matter? why ask? Link to post Share on other sites
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