G_v8_SuX Posted April 14, 2003 Share Posted April 14, 2003 Hey there guys! Man I remember the day when the post system was set up alot differently! I used to keep up on this site alot a year or 2 ago. Sure has changed alot....learned a few things too! Anyways, I've got a confusing situation and I need some opinions! Normally I can tell if a girl is in to me or not, and I can usually take her signs and play them and alot of the time I am successful. Well, i had a new situation reveal itself. I was at a friends house when I saw this girl i havent seen in like 3 years or more! WOW! She looked amazing and her personality seemed great too. I was instantly interested, and she kept looking at me and shed smile every now and then(after we had talked for a couple minutes). I was very intimidated and scared to talk to her. One thing I did manage to do was get ahold of one of her friends that i knew. I told her friend I was interested and she seemed interested in me. Turns out, her friend got me her SN and email from her to give to me, and told me the interest was mutual. I talked to her on the net some, and she was very cool to talk to. She asked if I remembered her from way back and i told her yes. She said I had changed alot and I told her she has also, and then she said that it's a good thing and I said I thought so too, and she said "good". She even invited me to a church event, that i didnt make b/c of an emergency and i had to take a friend to the hospital. I ended up going on an *unofficial* double date with my best friend/her friend(same that hooked me up) and me/her. We went to see a movie, but she seemed more talkative to her friend than me. Yeah she showed some interest in what i had to say, but she didnt really talk to me..i had to initiate conversation...totally different from the net. After the movie we went and ate dinner, and flattered her by not allowing her to pay for her food(she blushed and everything ). I got to talk to her more ,but I still found her talking to her friend more than me, and she rarely looked at me. I WAS SITTING ACROSS THE TABLE FROM HER! Don't get me wrong, we did talk and i know she enjoyed it as i did, but she seemed shy or something. After the night I felt mixed up....I was really into her and i wanted to spend more time with her. I told her to email me and if im online ill talk to her through IM's. Her friend confirmed that she"really enjoyed the evening,and she wants to get to know you more, but she isn't comfortable giving out her phone number yet". I figured she was shy and she needed to talk online more with me so she can open up. I emailed her and told her i had a good time, and i hoped she did too. I gave her a couple of compliments and it was a pretty short email just to get an online conversation going, and another one that I apologized for missing the church event. since then I havent heard from her...its been about 2 days. Maybe im impatient or something, but i really dont know what all this means. I even gave a little test. When she got online, i didnt IM her just to see if she would IM me to talk. She didnt and she was online for about 20 minutes. She hasnt replied to my email, but she hasnt logged on in the name i sent the email to, so i dont think she has recieved it yet. All in all, Im really interested in her and learning more about her, but I'm finding it kind of difficult since I seem to be putting forth all the effort. My friends are still telling me she's interested and we are stting up another movie night. Any suggestions on what the signs she's giving me would be appreciated. Right now i just want to learn..... thanks guys Link to post Share on other sites
j366755 Posted April 14, 2003 Share Posted April 14, 2003 I think the excuse of bieng shy can only go so far, sitting across from you and not talking to you seems a bit rude to me. Has she had much experience with men? If you feel that she is worth it then go on this "double date" but try and see if she interacts with the other guy there, or just her girlfriend. The idea of two guys two girl "double date" thing might be pressuring her, especially if her friend is rooting for you to get together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author G_v8_SuX Posted April 15, 2003 Author Share Posted April 15, 2003 Well, I know what you mean by rude, but I didn't get that vibe strong. What i mean to say is, when i talked, she would listen and even say things back, but its like I had to keep the convo going. Most talk was as a group so it wasnt a 1on1 discussion. In any case I got a decent response i guess. She finally emailed me. She said she wasnt mad that i didnt show up at her church event. In fact, there were 2 dates that it was held and she thought i was coming to the second. Anyways, I guess ill post the email, just to give you an idea of what the feedback is: (note: its been edited for security reasons) <my name> hey it's ok that u didn't make it sunday. i'm not mad. i didn't expect u to come until friday anyways. i'm sorry about the guy that stabbed his leg. life is aight for me. one of the ladies in the play had to quit for personal reasons, so I got to take her place. i get to be <her friend>'s mom, lol. but i'm only in the very last scene. the rest of the time i'm either at the piano or singing. well i g2g. ttyl me I dont know if it's positive, but its not giving me a negative vibe here. Tell me what you think. Oh yeah, the dude that got his leg stabbed...it wasnt gang violence or anything like that, it was just an accident, and thats the emergency that made me miss coming to her church event the first time. Im planning on going to her next church event this friday. Im still puzzled on her, mostly because she isnt on the net very much, which is the only way we talk so far. I havent IM'ed her since before I emailed her, but Im going to find out whats going on one way or the other. Do you think i should just be straight up and say: "Listen. I just want you to know that im interested in you and I want to know you better, but I'm not sure if your interested in me. Do you want to get to know me, to find out if we may have a romantic connection?" .....i dont know if thats too soon or straight up or what. Your thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
j366755 Posted April 15, 2003 Share Posted April 15, 2003 That is v hard to read, what is this church event thing, can you ask her to go out afterwards for a coffee or something? I dont think you need to tell her you like her at this stage, just get some one on one time in because she odviously needs to take things slow. Link to post Share on other sites
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