Author everynameistaken Posted September 22, 2007 Author Share Posted September 22, 2007 Finally, a rational reply. Ah, the relief! Was that so difficult? LOL I can still be friends. I honest to God did not take any of this as him being interested until very recently when I kind of wondered. I am seriously that dense! I know it's hard to believe, but I really didn't realize he viewed me that way until a few weeks ago, and even took that as a joke. I am not kidding myself, I just really didn't think it was possible!! Call me stupid, naive, ridiculous, but I never saw it coming. I even joke with him I'm a long, lost sister. How stupid can I be I guess??? Fairly, apparently. Every time he told me I was attractive or beautiful, I really thought he was saying it to me like he would his sisters. He's a really complimentary and giving person, always has been. I assumed that's all it was. He's the kind of guy who makes everyone feel good around him. I think I will just let things be for a while. If he says anything sexual to me, I'll cut him off, change the subject, move on. I won't discuss his marriage. I don't want a confrontation that will only make him feel more unwanted b/c I'm now unwilling to listen to him. I do care about his feelings. But I won't talk about things that I didn't realise were actually encouraging him. I SEE THAT NOW, so that's ONE good thing that did come out of this posting. I see my part and how I unknowingly made it worse. I felt genuinely sorry for him and now I see that's part of the game...that these guys do this to pull at our heart strings. I see it now...very clearly...and wonder why I didn't see it before. Now I'm kinda mad at him. Oh well. Live and learn. I'll end this thread and provide an update if anything new should happen, but rest assured, it won't be an OW update!!! Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted September 22, 2007 Share Posted September 22, 2007 I thought you ended this thread... Then why am I able to keep posting to it? I don't dare respond to your thread topic. I don't want to be accused of being irrational, projecting, whorish, ad nauseum - if I say ANYTHING that isn't what you want to hear. --- So we'll be here in six months when you come back as an OW. (Sorry, couldn't help it.) Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted September 22, 2007 Share Posted September 22, 2007 Probably the best thing to do, since you're upset with the replies, is to stop the thread, by not responding anymore. The more you respond, the more it adds fuel to the fire. I would imagine that after all the time was taken to reply by you and others, that you are going to continue this friendship with this guy? Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted September 22, 2007 Share Posted September 22, 2007 Well, this is just sad. Another newbie wanting to talk about a problem and now she's convinced that LS is just full of "nasties". Honestly! It's not like she's the only person in the world who would describe f*cking somebody else's husband as contemptible. Get over it already. Other people are allowed to have opinions too. If you don't like someone's attitude, why post to their thread? Anyway... I really liked her opening post. She recognized a problem and determined that she wasn't going to exacerbate it. But a twenty-year friendship is difficult to throw away, so she appears to be looking for answers as to how she can save it without crossing boundaries. To the OP I would say, (if she's still reading)... The only tool you have in your arsenal right now is your flat-out refusal to engage in inappropriate behavior, and sadly... that's not enough. Much as Lucrezia Borgia and WWIU have already told you... the elements of an emotional affair are already in place. It's kind of like fighting a bear with your pocket-knife at this point, because even though YOU haven't crossed the line, it would appear that in emotional terms your friend has. You can't control somebody else's feelings, so if he's secretly viewing you as an emotional affair partner, both his body and his mind will be responding to you as a lover. He will have become Infatuated, exhibiting both emotional and physiological responses to the stimuli you are inadvertently providing him with. This will divert energy from his primary relationship that could be used to either solve the marital problems or to end the marriage if it's unrecoverable. It's hard not to feel sympathy for an old friend, but this may be a case of "better to slap a hand than hold it". You were absolutely correct in your first post. This guy has got to resolve his situation on his own. Afterall, it's him and his wife who MADE those problems. So, if he's looking for answers outside the marriage and bringing his issues to other people... he's avoiding conflict and evading personal responsibility. There are only two choices I can see for you. One is to talk about if frankly and let him know that your ONLY interest in him is as a platonic friend. Although if I were you, I would be VERY careful not to give him the impression that ending his marriage would give him an inroad with me. The other is to back off and make yourself a good bit more scarce for awhile. To be honest, I think this is the route I'd choose. If his feelings for you have deepened, I think it's a mistake to engage him in kind. IOW, if he's showing you "deep", better that you show him "shallow". Actions speak louder than words, so if you're not giving him anything emotionally deeper than any of his other buddies would... he's not going to be quite so comfortable using you for a cry-towel and feeding his infatuation with emotionally-charged conversation. I think this route allows for less embarrassment down the road as well. If you two ever do manage to return your friendship to the "buddy" dynamic, he's saved face and you don't have all that unpleasantness and rejection between you. You know, his feelings might have less to do with you as an individual person at present than with the fact his emotional needs at home are not being met. He needs to be the one to resolve that. No one else can do it for him. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 In the sentence "Women are whores" the word whore acts as an adjective. In the sentence "That whore is not much of a woman" the word whore acts as a noun. I guess that would make us both correct. Sorry, TC, but the word, "whore" is always a noun. Now if you said someone was "whoring around" then the word 'whoring' is a verb. However, if you said, "OW's are disgusting whores" then the word, "disgusting" is the adjective, but "whore" is still a noun. It's the descriptor of the noun. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 Funny how when someone who isn't an OW goes and posts on an OW thread and indicates their disapproval with people who sneak around behind each other's backs and screwing each other's mates, OW's start getting all bent out of shape, saying people who aren't OW/OM shouldn't be posting on those threads. Then someone who begins a thread NOT in the OW/OM forum with a title that makes it clear that it's about NOT being an OW, those same OW's come on HER thread and start their assaults. Just sayin' Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 WHICHWAYISUP - I think you made good points without hostility and sarcasm. Thank you. I agree - I think our friendship does have elements that I didn't previously realise were inappropriate and I agree I need to correct them. I'm glad you pointed that out. Thanks for being upfront and kind. You're welcome. And I'm glad to help! Great post replies LJ, Luv and JJ! Probably the best thing to do, since you're upset with the replies, is to stop the thread, by not responding anymore. The more you respond, the more it adds fuel to the fire. There is an ignore function so if you find some posts bug you, just go to your profile and add who you'd like to ignore to your ignore list. LS is full of different types of people, hopefully you'll stick around abit and visit some of the other sections too! Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 Sorry, TC, but the word, "whore" is always a noun. Now if you said someone was "whoring around" then the word 'whoring' is a verb. However, if you said, "OW's are disgusting whores" then the word, "disgusting" is the adjective, but "whore" is still a noun. It's the descriptor of the noun. Again! You should be sorry because your grammar sucks!! LOL nobody (noun) likes to be called (verb) a whore (adjective) In the sentence you put forth it's a noun, and that was not at all like the sentence in question so you can give me examples of how it is used as a noun til the cows come home and they are fine, but in the sentence that was used as example here by the person who posted this thread it was not. The word is NOT always a noun, it all depends how you use it. Please if anyone else needs a lesson in grammar I am going to have to start charging, this is getting ridiculous. Another example: Nobody likes to be called ugly. Please point out the noun. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 Funny how when someone who isn't an OW goes and posts on an OW thread and indicates their disapproval with people who sneak around behind each other's backs and screwing each other's mates, OW's start getting all bent out of shape, saying people who aren't OW/OM shouldn't be posting on those threads. Then someone who begins a thread NOT in the OW/OM forum with a title that makes it clear that it's about NOT being an OW, those same OW's come on HER thread and start their assaults. Just sayin' 80% of people that post on this side or the other side of this forum are not going to become OW/OM yet you don't see them flaunting the fact arrogantly simply because they are secure in their choices and they do not need to be reminded that what they are doing is right. When you are arrogant yet you shed light into the reality of things as posts progress and in fact prove that you are not secure at all in what you are doing, then people are going to pick up on that. Hence what has happened here possibly within the first page of this thread. Before any OW/Om got involved in this thread to post their thoughts many of the regular posters of this side of the forum brought their thoughts forth and they were NO DIFFERENT than what some of the OW/OM are stating. What's even MORE interesting is that someone such as yourself would choose to only focus on the replies from the OW/OM and completely omit the other three pages of similar replies that were posted prior to that by regular posters of this side of the forum. Just sayin. Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 Again! You should be sorry because your grammar sucks!! LOL nobody (noun) likes to be called (verb) a whore (adjective) In the sentence you put forth it's a noun, and that was not at all like the sentence in question so you can give me examples of how it is used as a noun til the cows come home and they are fine, but in the sentence that was used as example here by the person who posted this thread it was not. The word is NOT always a noun, it all depends how you use it. Well, you'd better start charging then because it's not an adjective , it's a noun. In the sentence "nobody likes to be called a whore" the word whore is a noun. The word whore in the given sentence does not modify the noun nobody. Nor is it an adverb as it does not modify the word called either. It is a noun. For example, if you said "I ate the cake", the word cake is not modifying the word I. It is a noun. Link to post Share on other sites
MrsHellnoFire Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 thanks for the fifth grade refresher lesson in vocab guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Well, you'd better start charging then because it's not an adjective , it's a noun. In the sentence "nobody likes to be called a whore" the word whore is a noun. The word whore in the given sentence does not modify the noun nobody. Nor is it an adverb as it does not modify the word called either. It is a noun. For example, if you said "I ate the cake", the word cake is not modifying the word I. It is a noun. An adjective modifies a noun or a pronoun by describing, identifying, or quantifying words. In the following examples, the highlighted words are adjectives: The truck-shaped balloon floated over the treetops. Mrs. Morrison papered her kitchen walls with hideous wall paper. The small boat foundered on the wine dark sea. Many stores have already begun to play irritating Christmas music. Some nouns and many participle phrases can also act as adjectives. Nobody (pronoun) likes to be called (verb) a whore (adjective) I think I will start charging. The next post is worth $20 who's next? PM me and I'll give you my paypal info. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Nobody likes to be called a whore. Actually, whore, in that sentence is a predicate noun. Predicate nouns follow a form of the verb 'to be', and restate the noun or pronoun (nobody). Also, 'whore' follows 'a', and 'a' is an indefinite article which is used before a singular noun (whore). Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 lmao! This thread is getting funny. Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Saying it often doesn't make it right, TC. Maybe you'd better look it up. Although you are correct with these: An adjective modifies a noun or a pronoun by describing, identifying, or quantifying words. In the following examples, the highlighted words are adjectives: The truck-shaped balloon floated over the treetops. Mrs. Morrison papered her kitchen walls with hideous wall paper. The small boat foundered on the wine dark sea. Many stores have already begun to play irritating Christmas music To follow your logic (which is correct in the above examples), if she had said: Nobody likes to be called a hideous whore. Hideous would be an adjective. However, that's not what she said. She said "Nobody likes to be called a whore." In that context whore is no more an adjective than "wall paper" is an adjective in your second example, or sea in your third or music in your fourth. Now, if you want to continue this, please go ahead and PM me. I'm not doing it any more here. As Mrs. HNF said, it's too 5th grade. lmao! This thread is getting funny. Ain't that the truth. hmmmmm, maybe we are all just having fun typing the word "whore"!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 They want to appear stupid. Tell me what the noun or pronoun is in that sentence and what the adjective is, please? EXACTLY Nobody likes to be called a hideous whore. in that sentence whore is indeed a noun Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Now, if you want to continue this, please go ahead and PM me. I'm not doing it any more here. As Mrs. HNF said, it's too 5th grade I am not PMing you LOL I've wasted enough time trying to offer you an Enlish lesson for free now you want me to PM you to take more time to explain it to you? go back to school. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 They want to appear stupid. Tell me what the noun or pronoun is in that sentence and what the adjective is, please? EXACTLY Nobody likes to be called a hideous whore. in that sentence whore is indeed a noun Yes, and 'hideous' is an adjective describing the noun 'whore'. If you take 'hideous' out of the sentence, whore is still a noun. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Yes, and 'hideous' is an adjective describing the noun 'whore'. If you take 'hideous' out of the sentence, whore is still a noun. He is tall. So according to your logic tall is a noun? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 He is tall. So according to your logic tall is a noun? No, it is a predicate adjective. It follows a linking verb and describes the subject of the sentence. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 No, it is a predicate adjective. It follows a linking verb and describes the subject of the sentence. Exactly!! And whore in "nobody likes to be called a whore" is a predicate adjective. Definition A subject complement is a complement that is used to predicate a description of the subject of a clause. Examples (English) Ambrose was bishop. Ambrose was holy. To paraphrase our friend Lizzie: "too-doo-loo" Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Hey hos, This thread is hilarious. These links may be helpful: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tc-ukN1Rvb8 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mYzGLzFuwxI http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RGN_NxKIIFM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L4jIC5HLBdM laughing.... Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Exactly!! And whore in "nobody likes to be called a whore" is a predicate adjective. Definition A subject complement is a complement that is used to predicate a description of the subject of a clause. Examples (English) Ambrose was bishop. Ambrose was holy. To paraphrase our friend Lizzie: "too-doo-loo" No, it's not the same thing, because of the indefinite article 'a'. "Ambrose was bishop" is not a grammatically correct sentence. You need the indefinite arcticle 'a' in there. You would say "Ambrose was A bishop, because 'bishop' is a noun. 'Ambrose was holy' is an example of a predicate adjective, correct. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Oh my god Underpants that is brilliant!!! I can't believe you dug out School House Rocks cartoons, the last time I saw those I was 6yrs old laying on the couch in my pj's watching saturday morning cartoons. That is just hillarious!! :lmao: gotta love Youtube what a blast from the past...the waaaaay past. thanks for that! but "whore" wasn't pulled out of the camping bag...LOL Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 but "whore" wasn't pulled out of the camping bag...LOL That is because is is not a adjective. Unless a proper suffix is added. (i.e. whorish) I had fun revisiting those clips as well singing the term "whore". Mostly on the noun one though. Link to post Share on other sites
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