Feeling sad and lonely

[cs20thcenturyfo]

Hello, it's my first time posting here, and here's my story.

I broke up with my bf (ex now) of 4 years about 3 weeks ago. It all started out when I came home from school. He sat me down and told me that he was very upset about how things have been for the past 4 months. I go to school in the mornings from 8 am to 12 pm. Then he goes to work at 3:30 pm and returns at 1:30 am. Anyways he has been upset that I make dinner earlier in the day for me, and re-heat it when he comes home. Also I haven't been in the mood because I get up so early and he comes to bed at 3:30 am. So he's pretty much had to handle himself most of the time. Well, I he tells me flat out that lately he's been thinking, and that he'd rather masturbate than to have sex w/ me anyways because I've gained some weight since my son was born. So this totally messes me up and I start to cry. Then he tells me that since I only go to school for 4 hours I shouldn't be so lazy to have sex with him. So a few days go by I finally give in and have sex when he wants, then one night I say no and that's it. I come home again and he says "It's over". He says he's tired of trying, that I'm a horrible woman that he'll never want to be with me again. That if he EVER had a seconds thought to getting back with me that he'd remember how horrible of a woman I was and that be it. So now I'm still living with him and I'll be out by the 26th. But, gosh I still love him so much you guys . He's my heart, and I feel so alone. We don't talk anymore, even though we said we'd be civil for our son's sake. Do you think he really hates me? I guess I'm just looking for someone's opinion....thanks for you time

[Tony T]

I don't think he hates you but he's not a very happy person and it has nothing to do with you. He's not the person you thought he was. Some of the hurtful things he has said to you are beyond evil.

 

How could you possibly love someone who is that mean, that evil, that hateful, that inconsiderate of your feelings. I've rarely heard of any man saying such mean things to a woman.

 

This NOT a man you want to be around. It is totally impossible for you to love a man who makes you feel like garbage. You need to get away from him as soon as possible. Arrange the most satisfactory visitation arrangements for your child but let him know that if he says one more nasty thing to you you'll punch his teeth out. And make sure he pays you ample child support...GET AN ATTORNEY and screw him to the wall!!!

 

I have never even read fiction that described a man so evil. He is a total piece of crap. If you really love him, I have no sympathy for you.

[cs20thcenturyfo]

lol, thanks tony, I was kinda scared of posting this 'cause your very blunt. lol but it's cool, I guess I just got so used to him ya know? Like now, I look at him and wonder why I even got with him but there's times when he's nice. But your right, I don't need this and I am definately gone! Thanks Tony.

[cs20thcenturyfo]

Also he plays mind games, alot! He used to just be with girls for sex. He could sweet talk a girl into doing almost anything! I guess he thinks he's sooooo smart and can mind f**** people because he took a whole semster of pych! I don't know I do pray for him though!

[miss-gemeni]

I'm so sorry for what he's putting u through. It's hard enough to have someone u love break up w/you but he had to resort to insulting you and putting you down I think he's wrong about u being lazy ur going to school to better ur future and

raising his child thats A LOT of work. He should've atleast gave u the respect to talk to u nicely about it but what i got from what he said is plain out emotional abuse. I suggest u leave asap

I know it really hurts hon but u have to or sounds to me like he'll

only try and hurt u more. You should never be made to feel like having sex is a job or duty and he's pretty much given u no choice. you deserve much better and he needs to learn a little

lesson about respecting the mother of his child. Take care please

and keep your head up ok......Good luck!

 

-miss~gemeni

[tyme]

What a complete dope. For one, different work schedules/life schedules are tough enough, he isn't helping things in the least. If anything, it sounds like he is a very selfishly confused person.

 

and that he'd rather masturbate than to have sex w/ me anyways because I've gained some weight since my son was born. So this totally messes me up and I start to cry.

 

It makes me sick to hear things like this. I had a friend who said her best friend's husband made her wear a shirt during sex because her chest was so small. You love the person, the body is the bonus. That aside, a bit of weight here and there can be very arrousing.

[mattdad]

Just wanted to let you know that there are about a billion other guys out there that will treat you the way you deserve. This dork certainly isn't one of them!

And by the way - if you ever, in a moment of weakness, go back to bed with him, make sure to scream out someone else's name!!!

Good luck and take good care of yourself - you're worth it!!

[blossom]

Jeeeezzzzzzz.....who could resist sex with this charmer? LOL Good thing he likes to make himself happy sexually because he is going to be alone alot.

 

Just curious how does he treat your son?

 

 

Get him gone, and I'll bet you feel much much better after just a little bit of not having to deal with him.

 

I wish you luck and much peace.....Blossom

[trixiegirlie]

I totally feel for you! My ex of 4 days now has been nothing but mean to me since he moved out. It was his choice to leave and now he says he hates me, that I'm a liar and a psycho and that he is interested in someone else. It hurts no matter who says mean things to you, but I did everything for my ex and he still treats me this way. I can't help love him because I have for over a year now, but I also know don't deserve the heartache. I just wish there was a fast forward button on my life so I could skip all the pain!!!